Lessons in life

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Inspired by a thread on Reddit about the harshest truths people have learned, I'd like to pose the question here.
What are the most impactful life lessons you've learned (good or bad)?
 
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To not suffer fools gladly
To have your wits about you, even with those who purport to love you.
Answers won't be found at the bottom of a bottle

But on the plus side:-

Forums such as this, which offer a variety of perspectives, views and humour
To learn something new every day. The internet is a remarkable thing
There is always more than one person worse off than yourself: quite a few million in fact.
Love Life while you still have it
 
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The best lessons (all from my mum lol):
Time will pass whether you use it wisely or not, so you'd best use it doing things that bring you joy.
We can always earn more money but we can't earn more time, so don't choose making money over spending time with loved ones.
People rarely hear how good they are but often have their flaws pointed out to them. Be someone who tells people what you appreciate in them and do it often.

The hardest lesson is that you never know when the last time you'll speak to someone is. I've lost a lot of people and I never knew the last time I spoke to them would be the last.
 
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Definitely time is a healer.

To face my fears.

That the grass is always greener. Very harshly learnt.

Keep your friends close but your enemies closer. In my case I've found outright enemies have come in the form of "friends" or "family".
 
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A glass is always ALWAYS half full and never half empty.

Never mind about yesterday, do better now
 
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Your gut instinct is nearly always right.
This is so true. It has often saved me.

Another lesson that I am coming to believe applies to most people is that we will all have some kind of trauma that will redirect us and change the course we take from that point on.
For me it was an accident, for others it may be a loss of a loved one, an abusive relationship, or a battle with a disease. That trauma can change your opinions of the people you were close to, or where you choose to live, how much you trust people moving forward, it may even change your personality (make you more anxious or more resilient, more introverted or more adventurous).
More and more, I find that everyone has had a life-altering experience, and many of them have had profound ripple effects in their lives as a result.
 
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Someone told me in my early 30s that as you age, you care less about what people think of you. At the time I thought that was ridiculous, but now that I'm older wholeheartedly agree. You can't change what people think or say about you; all you can do is change how you react. And nobody's opinion is really worth hearing anyway. Live your life for you, and be happy.
 
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That you can’t trust anyone, the only person who has your best interests at heart is you.

that the people who aren’t supposed to let you down in life will.
 
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This is so true. It has often saved me.

Another lesson that I am coming to believe applies to most people is that we will all have some kind of trauma that will redirect us and change the course we take from that point on.
For me it was an accident, for others it may be a loss of a loved one, an abusive relationship, or a battle with a disease. That trauma can change your opinions of the people you were close to, or where you choose to live, how much you trust people moving forward, it may even change your personality (make you more anxious or more resilient, more introverted or more adventurous).
More and more, I find that everyone has had a life-altering experience, and many of them have had profound ripple effects in their lives as a result.
I've been thinking a lot about this overnight and it is so true. In a similar vein I read recently that most people will have three true loves in their lifetime, each intended to teach them certain things ... certainly thought-provoking.

I've thought of another one: those who shout the loudest have the most to hide is the saying (paraphrasing), and it is very true in my experience. Also, people who tell you how wealthy / in love / successful they are ... generally aren't. They're just people who like to make a lot of noise.
 
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I've thought of another one: those who shout the loudest have the most to hide is the saying (paraphrasing), and it is very true in my experience. Also, people who tell you how wealthy / in love / successful they are ... generally aren't. They're just people who like to make a lot of noise.

I think of this one a lot but with a different twist. The life & soul of the party are the ones you need to worry about. I know from my own experience & losing friends by suicide that we weren’t shrinking violets, far from it. People who are struggling often go to great lengths to cover things up. If someone tells you they’re struggling, that’s a massive head start over the loud person who can’t.
 
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Sex doesn’t equal love

a baby won’t fix a marriage

your gut is never wrong

if (s)he’s not that into you,then move on-another will

time is a great healer-you learn to live without someone,and even smile at their memory

learn from your mistakes-or in my case,don’t learn but keep making the same one over and over again

find that one book that makes you want to read every word and reread it again and again
 
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