Why the hell don’t they dress her properly? It’s still cold outside, not to mention the fact that she’s so tiny and will get cold easily. Put her in a babygro FFS. Then put a cardigan/blanket on top. My babies wore babygros exclusively for months!
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Stereotypical "I want to stop breastfeeding but need everyones approval" post just landed 
With an additional side of "Boj is doing more in the background than it looks like".Stereotypical "I want to stop breastfeeding but need everyones approval" post just landed
Yep!!
I just cannot understand the mentality. Seeking validation from a load of strangers, as someone commented "Sounds like you have made your mind up already" which she clearly has.
Now she can say "I have taken the advice of my lovely followers, I am no longer nursing." Basically pick and chose the responses she likes in her little comment section circle jerk.
Agree completely. I don't think Kate or Boj would hang around half dressed in the winter so why do it to their baby?
Do health professionals even push it? I’ve had two kids at two diff hospitals and not one professional pushed anything - in fact second preg not one midwife asked lol. I breastfed and the only person who pushed it - was me. Where are these judgemental people putting pressure on? If anything, isn’t it the reverse - you breastfeed and everyone asks when they’re having formula??
I think it’s one of those things that really depends, I’ve heard both from friends with babies, professionals that don’t care and professionals that push it and proudly announce “I can only help with feeding if it’s breastfeeding, we aren’t allowed to discuss formula at all because breast is best”. The same with real life, it’s going to depend on everyone’s circle.
I can speak for about 5 years ago and no it wasn't pushed as much. Now since covid I can say yes it is pushed a lot and uptake is a lot more and rightfully so imo, but I am v pro breastfeeding. She did put a lot of pressure on herself and said she would breastfeed and talk about it on podcast so 
If she wants to stop it is her perogative, but just stop and stop this seeking validation BS.
If she wants to stop it is her perogative, but just stop and stop this seeking validation BS.From when I had my first in 2015 to my second in 2019, breastfeeding definitely wasn’t pushed as much. It was really pushed on me in 2015. It’s more the subtlety in the language that drs/midwives/ health visitors would use back then. The first question would always be ‘are you breastfeeding?’ compared to when I had my second and they would ask ‘how are you feeding?’. It’s such a small change but with my first I would have to say no I’m formula feeding and whether they did or whether I was imagining it there would always be a look of disappointment from them.
Having said that, I’m so sick of every instamum always going through this breast vs formula saga. If you want to breastfeed, fine. If you want to formula feed, fine! It’s YOUR baby and YOUR decision. You couldn’t line up 10 children and point out which ones were breastfed and which ones were formula anyway.
I expect she will switch to formula feeding or combination feeding and I’ll wait with baited breath for the ads for the #gifted tommee tippee perfect prep machine and bottles and sterilisers!
Having said that, I’m so sick of every instamum always going through this breast vs formula saga. If you want to breastfeed, fine. If you want to formula feed, fine! It’s YOUR baby and YOUR decision. You couldn’t line up 10 children and point out which ones were breastfed and which ones were formula anyway.
I expect she will switch to formula feeding or combination feeding and I’ll wait with baited breath for the ads for the #gifted tommee tippee perfect prep machine and bottles and sterilisers!
I wish it had been pushed more, I got atrocious support. I feel like this happens to every instamum, honestly, just make the decision for you. It gets a tit ton of engagement as feeding is so emotive and personal and everyone wants to share their story. It just feels sneaky in all honesty.
Midwives are under pressure to meet breastfeeding targets to get certification so that's why 'breast is best' was pushed maniacally for so long. I think now people are realising that actually, it just doesn't work for everyone, the support resources definitely aren't there and actually mother's mental health needs to be considered too. But I had a feeling this was coming from Kate. At the end of the day though it is entirely her choice.
It’s so sad that you felt this wayIt’s such an emotive subject I can honestly say with my first I felt like a complete failure when I had to stop breastfeeding (the reason is an entire other story) I wouldn’t meet friends with my baby as I didn’t want them to know he was formula fed as I was so ashamed
This is exactly why people (not talking about medical staff here) shouldn’t even mention to a Mum about how her baby is being fed.
The only purpose to them mentioning it is to try and make themselves feel superior. And shame on them for making Mums feel guilt, particularly in those early days when you don’t know which ways up.
Content and happy Mums and Babies is what counts.
A fed baby is the aim of the game. Breast is best; yes, biologically this is correct but it’s not that simple and for a lot of women breastfeeding just isn’t the right option. Formula is the next best thing and frankly; it really doesn’t matter when all is said and done. Fed the baby - however you like - that’s it. No more, no less. It’s no ones business and it’s such a bloody boring topic of conversation.
To be honest I'm amazed (and impressed BTW) that she has lasted this long. Breast feeding is hard and I think for Kate and Noa, fed is best - however Kate decides that to be.Stereotypical "I want to stop breastfeeding but need everyones approval" post just landed
I don't know why they go down the route of telling anyone how they are feeding anyway, it's nobody's business and no-one really cares how you feed your baby anyway! It's like oh I feel so guilty, why bother telling people in the first place then!
I never wanted to BF and luckily never had any pressure from anyone, if I did they would get told where to go anyway!
I never wanted to BF and luckily never had any pressure from anyone, if I did they would get told where to go anyway!
I really get this, I struggled a lot after we stopped (for long boring reasons). I hated feeding her out and about, I internalised so much shame. Found being around BFing women really hard. Everyone kept saying ‘fed is best’ like starving her was an option I consideredIt’s such an emotive subject I can honestly say with my first I felt like a complete failure when I had to stop breastfeeding (the reason is an entire other story) I wouldn’t meet friends with my baby as I didn’t want them to know he was formula fed as I was so ashamed
Why are you amazed? Plenty of people face even harder challenges and still nurse, like myself. I managed a year with one and am almost a year with another. Fed is not best, it is the bare minimum.
Taking away a tailor made nutritional source from a baby who has been poorly is baffling to me. Stopping nursing suddenly can make your mental health crash and actually give you PND. Not to mention being in the midst of a worldwide pandemic and breastmilk having all those lovely antibodies.
But sure look, she has made up her mind and she will be sponsored by Tommy Tippee next week as someone said.
Perhaps because for Kate moving to formula feeding might be what she needs to help her mental health? And a healthy Mum is the bare minimum that Noa needs.
I am no fan of hers but do not think that it is right to shame a Mum for how she feeds her baby.
I am no fan of hers but do not think that it is right to shame a Mum for how she feeds her baby.
I’m very pro breastfeeding but if it’s not working out for them then there’s no harm in switching to formula.
I don’t think she should be shamed for stopping.
I do wish she would dress Noa in warmer clothes though!
I don’t think she should be shamed for stopping.
I do wish she would dress Noa in warmer clothes though!
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