I despise this argument that it was "banter" and that you are homophobic if you say otherwise. I'm sorry but I cannot see any circumstance whereby it is normal or acceptable behaviour to be shaking your genitalia around in the workplace. If it was literally *anyone* else, including gay women, they would be ripped to shreds but for some reason we all just have to have a giggle if it's a gay man. No. It's disgusting behaviour and says ALOT about the person doing it. I'd also like to think most gay men would be horrified to have behaviour like that associated with them, as if it's just a natural byproduct of male to male same sex attraction.