Jesy Nelson #7 same old same old…

[Twinkle6]

I do not get the hate.

I think we can all agree she’s behaved poorly towards others and got little carried away with herself before now, but only the soulless could lack empathy for Jesy’s circumstances just now.

It is clear that Jesy is struggling. She already mentioned she was nt sure about becoming a parent and then found herself pregnant. To warm to the fairytale of typical parenting was probably some work, then the discovery of twins, then the complications, and now this? You can feel her anger of knowing this could have been prevented. That’s completely understandable , No one goes into pregnancy and parenthood expecting to become not only a mum but a nurse. No one *wants* this. It’s only normal to grieve the experience she thought she was going to have.

 

[newtoyou]

Women are expected to become silent martyrs when they’re mothers. They’re not supposed to say “I’d rather if my child isn’t disabled and fighting for their life every day” because it ruins this perfect illusion of motherhood that we’re suppose to strive for.

 

[Miss.Chanandler.Bong]

I would love a documentary exposing The X Factor.
People like me grew up thinking 25 was old AF because of that show

 

[ivenotimetotiktok]

I feel sorry for all the mums that have campaigned for awareness of SMA and been ignored yet here comes jesy to save the day like she’s the only one suffering

I don’t think it’s like that.
I’d be grateful if I had children with this illness and someone with a platform was pushing it out there.

 

[Norfolking Good]

Am I being a bit thick but why does she need to update anyone about this? Surely the only people who need to know are the parents and any family or close friends? Why the sad face updates for complete strangers? I find all this oversharing of babies really weird

 

[Tofino]

How frustrating for the families and charities who have probably been begging to be listened to for years on end and only now a celebrity is affected does somebody take notice. I’m sure they will be glad at least something’s happening but it must feel like they were invisible.

And that’s not Jesy’s fault, and it’s better she does something than not at all, especially if as a result they add SMA to newborn screening.

But why does it take a celebrity to make meaningful change? That’s the issue here. How many other families affected by SMA has Streeting met before now?

 

[redstraw16]

The earlier it’s picked up the earlier they can be given gene therapy which stops the progress of the disease, it the damage that’s already done can’t be undone.

shes getting so much hatred on TikTok on the video that this morning has posted and I just don’t get it. She’s in an absolutely awful situation and people have no grace!

Massive lack of empathy from some people.

I’m not a mum but can only imagine when your pregnant you imagine a life with your children and don’t expect to have to learn how to put your babies on breathing machines, her “I just want to be their mum, not a nurse” comment was completely normal.

 

[BugglyWuggly]

Social media and online is utterly disgusting if she's getting hate over this. She didn't murder anyone, she left a band. Now she's living a nightmare, there is no greater pain than seeing your child suffer and she has to see two of them suffer for however long they have.

People can be such dicks.

 

[Twinkle6]

Sorry, I’ll slag off Jesy for her stupidity but as someone who had a baby 3 months early, I can promise you I never landed on my feet

Such an experience puts a real strain on couples too.

Probably one of the worst mentally destroying times of my life, and resulted in a disabled child.

 

[Tofino]

The Welcome to Holland poem is well meaning but many parents of disabled children do not like it (me included) especially when the grief is raw and it’s being sent to you by someone who has not experienced a devastating diagnosis for their baby/child. There are lots of blogs and alternatives out there explaining why it can be problematic so I won’t clog the thread with it.

Obviously some will find comfort in it but it’s quite simplistic, and the future Jesy faces in particular is anything but.

This isn’t a criticism of the poem’s author but more rather how it’s used towards parents going through probably the worst experience of their lives.

 

[NowIsGood]

I think it’s disgusting that the other LM girls haven’t offered their support. Regardless of what’s happened, 3/4 of them are mothers themselves!

Maybe they have privately? If they commented on her post they would likely be subject to so much criticism or even accused of trying to steal the spotlight. Hopefully they've reached out because if this doesn't get them talking again nothing will.

 

[hol20x]

She's landed on her feet in some ways.... she gets to recover and sleep overnight for the next X amount of weeks while the babies are cared for overnight in the NICU. Taking them home is going to be a heck of a shock though having a night nanny is going to cost ££££s and I can't see that much money is coming in right now from either of them. The majority of royalties from Little Mix are going to be going to their management and the song writers. (I do appreciate the horror of a baby in SCBU btw, I'm not being callous - one of mine was born at 35 weeks).

I don’t think anyone with babies so premature would see it as landing on their feet cos they are cared for overnight!

 

[Diddikins]

Apparently this is on her sister’s instagram stories, her account’s private so no way to check.

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I understand why her sister has posted that but the line that leaps out is “the minute she tells her truth”. Jesy seems to have done nothing but tell HER truth, at what point are other people allowed to tell theirs?

 

[ElaineDublin]

Fair play
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I’m so happy they’re addressing it. People commenting, why bring it up when she’s going through so much Not only did Jesy do a whole documentary milking it, if she hadn’t her children to exploit she’d still be banging about her hard time in cryptic posts trying to stay relevant. There isn’t enough spoken about regarding friendship break ups, they can be as bad as romantic break ups.

 

[GalaxyGirl70]

Let's be honest, parenting isn't always the rewarding journey that most of us expect it to be. It's hard relentless graft and you lose a lot of your own identity in the process. Add in a hard pregnancy, then having children with huge medical issues... I honestly can't imagine. Your heart aches for her, but I just hope she's careful in what she shares I guess.

 

[truffletrot]

Gosh, I have not been able to stop thinking of Jesy for two days.

I know people are filling her comment section with positivity but it just sucks doesn’t it? No sugar coating it.

I keep thinking of Jesy, a girl in her early 30s now with two babies who need full time care, it is a lot.

My sons in a SEN class, and it’s absolutely wonderful to see how happy those children are, what a special environment they create for them. But being a parent carer.. it’s hard

But my heart is with Jesy

 

[GalaxyGirl70]

She strikes me as someone who is extremely insecure and needs constant validation. People like that are exhausting to be around, let alone be in a relationship with. Her mother is clearly an enabler.

 

[Jas19/2]

I’ve just come across her on TikTok. She absolutely does. My head in all she does is fetish on black men and culture. She is a fucking culture.Vulture
It’s scary that she will be having mixed race children God knows how she’s going to bring them up
Sometimes I see pictures of her and she’s literally darker than me
Don’t know why she can’t be a little bit more natural and be more true to herself she needs to realise she’s not black get over it

 

[truffletrot]

Apparently the NHS only screen for 10 gene disorders at birth the US screen for 59, Italy 48… most European countries are 20+.

It’s absolutely mental how they don’t test for SMA when timely treatment is so important and they can never get the damaged muscles back 🫤

it needs to change ASAP.

 

[GalaxyGirl70]

Jesy has been very open about her MH struggles in the past - add in a complex pregnancy and now disabled children, that would push most strong relationships to the brink and over. Reading the comments online about him on the DM article - they're very unkind, and a split doesn't mean that he isn't going to be an involved father. Surely it's better to be in a good co-parenting relationship than a barely functioning romantic relationship.