I don’t comment much on this thread but I have been here for a while. How dare she presume to speak for a whole community of people?!Brought over from last thread as I thought it important.
My younger brother has had a stoma belt most of his adult life. If you suggested to him that he was disabled you would get a mouthful.
He was disabled before his colostomy at the age of 25. Ulcerative colitis is not seen as serious by most people, it is.
Once he had the op he was able to live a full and active life, full time job (take note Jack), wife (managed to get passed the engage stage) 2 kids, forever home, cycles as a hobby, walked the length of Hadrian's wall last year at the age of 60. He is NOT disabled. Not every medical intervention means you are disabled.
I was personally offended by her cancer cosplay a while ago when she was wearing a headscarf and her constant comparing herself to other communities of people with health issues or disabilities.
I was diagnosed with cancer last year and had chemotherapy, radiotherapy and brachytherapy. Sadly it was not completely successful and in February this year I had a total pelvic exenteration which consists of a radical hysterectomy along with bladder and bowel removal. I now have a permanent urostomy and colostomy. To say it had been hard is an understatement. However I am recovering well and I am going back to work in august although I am reducing my hours permanently. Tonight I am going to my first post op outdoor concert and I am just trying to live my life as normally as I can. Luckily finances have not been an issue as I have received full pay from work and we were sensible when getting our mortgage and had a critical illness policy which paid out. Note to Jack: another cost to consider when owning a home.
One part of me thinks that Jack would love to be diagnosed with something serious like this as she would see it as a perfect opportunity for some serious begging but another part thinks she would never be able to cope with an actual verifiable illness and all that it entails. All of jack’s so called illnesses and disabilities are ones that cannot easily be disproved. I hate to not believe people who say they are ill but I just don’t believe in any of her conditions - literally not one.
I don’t think I can adequately get across just how pissed off she makes me. She has such an easy life and does not appreciate any of it.