My teenage daughter has just said to my dad, “God, don’t listen to JKR...” and kind of rolled her eyes (I was quoting something she had said as it fitted in with the convo at the time!). I had to say, please don’t immediately jump on the bandwagon of making out like she’s some strange old woman who doesn’t know what she’s saying.
She asked if I agreed with what she said and I said I did, in the sense there is nothing wrong with calling women ‘women’ and the statement ‘women menstruate’ shouldn’t really be torn to pieces by gender analysts. I asked if we are going to start calling men and trans women (who still have testes) ‘sperm creators’ Obv we never will. The way JKR worded it was kinda snarky IMO and obviously was going to cause a pile on. But as someone quite rightly said, she’s rich enough to be able to say whatever she likes and not really worry. Her job isn’t on the line, she won’t have people contacting employers etc.
I did some reading around it as I wanted to be sure I actually understood it. So she is getting abuse for saying it’s okay to say women when talking about periods. Is that right? And the reason people are saying she’s a TERF is because that alienates trans men (born female) who still have periods? I have total sympathy for any trans man who still has female body parts meaning they will have periods, more so if they don’t want them anymore but haven’t been able to have surgery. It must be tit and I really do feel sorry for people struggling with having to go back to that part of their old identity every now and again when trying to get away from it. But.... they don’t WANT to be women anymore?! Surely trans men who still have periods aren’t going to be offended that periods are attached to the word woman? The majority don’t WANT to be having them (nor do I am I’m a woman). So who is getting offended? Trans men (former women) who still have periods but don’t want to be lumped in with the word ‘women’ when talking about periods? Or have it got it wrong? I don’t know any trans people but whenever I have seen FTM people talk about periods it’s usually a negative and really distressing for them.
And as for the other argument ‘it’s insulting to women who don’t have periods anymore’... EY?!? My mum has just had a hysterectomy- she could not care less if someone said ‘helping WOMEN with period issues’ etc. Who would see that and say- ‘I don’t have periods now, are you saying I’m no longer a woman, I’m offended.’
I’m genuinely confused who is saying what.
She asked if I agreed with what she said and I said I did, in the sense there is nothing wrong with calling women ‘women’ and the statement ‘women menstruate’ shouldn’t really be torn to pieces by gender analysts. I asked if we are going to start calling men and trans women (who still have testes) ‘sperm creators’ Obv we never will. The way JKR worded it was kinda snarky IMO and obviously was going to cause a pile on. But as someone quite rightly said, she’s rich enough to be able to say whatever she likes and not really worry. Her job isn’t on the line, she won’t have people contacting employers etc.
I did some reading around it as I wanted to be sure I actually understood it. So she is getting abuse for saying it’s okay to say women when talking about periods. Is that right? And the reason people are saying she’s a TERF is because that alienates trans men (born female) who still have periods? I have total sympathy for any trans man who still has female body parts meaning they will have periods, more so if they don’t want them anymore but haven’t been able to have surgery. It must be tit and I really do feel sorry for people struggling with having to go back to that part of their old identity every now and again when trying to get away from it. But.... they don’t WANT to be women anymore?! Surely trans men who still have periods aren’t going to be offended that periods are attached to the word woman? The majority don’t WANT to be having them (nor do I am I’m a woman). So who is getting offended? Trans men (former women) who still have periods but don’t want to be lumped in with the word ‘women’ when talking about periods? Or have it got it wrong? I don’t know any trans people but whenever I have seen FTM people talk about periods it’s usually a negative and really distressing for them.
And as for the other argument ‘it’s insulting to women who don’t have periods anymore’... EY?!? My mum has just had a hysterectomy- she could not care less if someone said ‘helping WOMEN with period issues’ etc. Who would see that and say- ‘I don’t have periods now, are you saying I’m no longer a woman, I’m offended.’