I’m so sorry your in this situation. You don’t deserve it. Not exactly a reassuring response from him either
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I asked again in bed last night. Very calmly and explained to him how it made me feel. He was still "oblivious" and said he would look in the morning. Morning has neen and gone and his response was I cant see anything. Its making me so angry and equally upset by it. Next step is to ask for his phone....I’m so sorry your in this situation. You don’t deserve it. Not exactly a reassuring response from him either
Have you asked him to explain why another woman is texting him “when can I have you?”
He might have deleted everything and asked the other woman not to text anymore.
Does he pretend the texts didn’t exist? Don’t allow him to gaslight you and doubt your own mind, be firm and demand a response
All sorted. Thank you for allowing me to vent here. You guys really aren't vile humans as a lot of "influencers" claim.
My trust in him is there still bit Im still wary. The thing in question has been told to back off and (apparently) blocked
My trust in him is there still bit Im still wary. The thing in question has been told to back off and (apparently) blocked
All the best
Hopefully things get better for you! We are here if you need to vent xx
I’ve had a bad night tonight
I can’t explain how I feel at all. Mr Makaraka is due home on Tuesday (so excited) but he’s been out for dinner, brunch, massage and hair cut and completely offline since I woke up this morning!!
its completely sent me over the edge mental health wise and I’ve convinced myself he has a girlfriend and 3 kids over there!
I can’t explain how I feel at all. Mr Makaraka is due home on Tuesday (so excited) but he’s been out for dinner, brunch, massage and hair cut and completely offline since I woke up this morning!!
its completely sent me over the edge mental health wise and I’ve convinced myself he has a girlfriend and 3 kids over there!
Hey gal, everybody at some point during lockdown has felt out of. bounds with the situation and I know for sure I have. You are the woman he's coming home to! I had to act, fake it till you make it, treat em mean keep em keen has always worked for me. Its super hard I know but pls don't let it affect your mental health chick
He’s probably just sprucing himself up for you! Not long to go nowI’ve had a bad night tonight
I can’t explain how I feel at all. Mr Makaraka is due home on Tuesday (so excited) but he’s been out for dinner, brunch, massage and hair cut and completely offline since I woke up this morning!!
its completely sent me over the edge mental health wise and I’ve convinced myself he has a girlfriend and 3 kids over there!
This!!He’s probably just sprucing himself up for you! Not long to go now
Id made myself so ill not long ago over the "other woman" situarion. Turns out my OH was completely oblivious to the tart and told her to sod off
Id be pampering myself now ready for his retirn
P. S. My OH has just rejoined the Navy fulltime so if yoi ever need a buddy Im here x
Hey hey!
been at work today and after convincing myself the worst! turns out he had just been in and out of WiFi spots couldn’t connect or send the texts he was trying to send me until I got them at 345 this morning when I got up for work!
Phew, he went for dinner with his friend who lives there, brunch for a work thing and shopping for my birthday
I honestly make myself so crazy sometimes anyone else like this?
been at work today and after convincing myself the worst! turns out he had just been in and out of WiFi spots couldn’t connect or send the texts he was trying to send me until I got them at 345 this morning when I got up for work!
Phew, he went for dinner with his friend who lives there, brunch for a work thing and shopping for my birthday
I honestly make myself so crazy sometimes anyone else like this?
Me.Hey hey!
been at work today and after convincing myself the worst! turns out he had just been in and out of WiFi spots couldn’t connect or send the texts he was trying to send me until I got them at 345 this morning when I got up for work!
Phew, he went for dinner with his friend who lives there, brunch for a work thing and shopping for my birthday
I honestly make myself so crazy sometimes anyone else like this?
The woman who was incessantly messaging my OH who he told me he had messaged and said she shouldnt talk to him and he had no reason to talk too has reappeared on his phone. I feel so betrayed.
Have you got the woman’s full name and stalked her on social media? I’d go full on psycho and follow him from the house one day to see what he does and if he meets up with her. Also check her friends social media to see if they post any photos with the two of them together.Sorry to steal your thread @Makaraka but I need some outside advice.
How would you feel seeing messages from another female on your bfs phone to the likes of "xxx" and "when can I have you"
Hes openly lied to me about constant messages being family (incidentally caught him out) and is never away from his phone to the point he turns it away from me/has changed his lock code.
Im at a loss because if I say anything I just become the jealous gf and he brings up past incidences
my husbands relative had a secret baby with someone behind his girlfriends back. No one knew anything about the baby mumma for YEARS it was only through a bit of social media stalking everything came to light. He doesn’t have social media (too many lies to keep up with to be on there), but through stalking others everyone found out.
Yes I know I sound like a loon
I wonder why he hasn’t changed her name on his phone? Makes me think maybe he’s not being dodgy, or (sorry to say it) he’s not very smart
Why doesn't he just say she's messaged to see how Im getting on or something. Hes recently joined the Navy fulltime from the reserves. His phone was beeping a lot earlier but I put it down to his sister messaging on the group chat because of the snow (idiot)
I know exactly who she is and what she looks like even the town she lives and her husbands name. They're not friends on social media (FB) so Im a bit stuck there.
It looks recent aa his mood has been ok up until today when hes gotren grumpy easily and making excuses to get out the house... Probably to message her back knowing full well Id kick off
Instagram, linked in, Twitter? Have a look on all of those would be my advice. Wonder what her hubby would think?!Why doesn't he just say she's messaged to see how Im getting on or something. Hes recently joined the Navy fulltime from the reserves. His phone was beeping a lot earlier but I put it down to his sister messaging on the group chat because of the snow (idiot)
I know exactly who she is and what she looks like even the town she lives and her husbands name. They're not friends on social media (FB) so Im a bit stuck there.
It looks recent aa his mood has been ok up until today when hes gotren grumpy easily and making excuses to get out the house... Probably to message her back knowing full well Id kick off
This was my initial argument. If Im pissed off and upset how will he feel.
And now Ive found out a lady I worked with has died, covid related.
Everything can just duck off!!
Everything can just duck off!!
This is really tit behaviour. Even if it's innocent it's making you question him and your trust and therefore isn't on.
I think you need to seriously sit him down and have an adult one on one conversation about how you feel - if he cares he will be open and honest with you. I would ask my partner to see the messages but I wouldn't take the phone and look in private - that is also a betrayal of trust and can lead to more problems.
Honestly, it might be nothing but it also could be something. You will eat yourself up if you don't know for sure. Maybe he isn't responding to the woman and it's not anything out of line but boundaries do clearly need to be set.
Hope he’s back home now Maka 