Heartbreak.

gigi_93 · Mar 6, 2021

Catching up on stories, sometimes I have to take a break because reading it triggers me but also helps?! It’s weird. Thank you to all who’ve shared their trauma

Sounds silly but I wish I had bad times to focus on, but there honestly wasn’t any bad times for us. As I’ve said, the distance kept everything fresh and new. It’s making everything so much harder. I miss him so much I feel like heavily self medicating

LateG0ssiper · Mar 6, 2021

gigi_93 said:
Catching up on stories, sometimes I have to take a break because reading it triggers me but also helps?! It’s weird. Thank you to all who’ve shared their trauma

Sounds silly but I wish I had bad times to focus on, but there honestly wasn’t any bad times for us. As I’ve said, the distance kept everything fresh and new. It’s making everything so much harder. I miss him so much I feel like heavily self medicating

I feel the same. If he'd cheated and I'd kicked him out or something I think I'd be coping better but the fact that I thought everything was perfect is making it even harder. I'm still in shock. The last couple of days have been some of the worst, I have cried so much and I feel horrendous. I'm absolutely exhausted.

gigi_93 · Mar 7, 2021

LateG0ssiper said:
I feel the same. If he'd cheated and I'd kicked him out or something I think I'd be coping better but the fact that I thought everything was perfect is making it even harder. I'm still in shock. The last couple of days have been some of the worst, I have cried so much and I feel horrendous. I'm absolutely exhausted.

I’m sorry I ended up texting him last night just to see if he’d blocked me on iMessage after last time. The message delivered :/ no reply though which is making me feel even worse. Strange that he hasn’t blocked me there.

LaurieLaurie · Mar 7, 2021

gigi_93 said:
I’m sorry I ended up texting him last night just to see if he’d blocked me on iMessage after last time. The message delivered :/ no reply though which is making me feel even worse. Strange that he hasn’t blocked me there.

Delete his number.

Papparazzo · Mar 7, 2021

gigi_93 said:
I’m sorry I ended up texting him last night just to see if he’d blocked me on iMessage after last time. The message delivered :/ no reply though which is making me feel even worse. Strange that he hasn’t blocked me there.

Isn't there a time difference? Give him time, maybe he is just processing what you have said x

gigi_93 · Mar 7, 2021

Papparazzo said:
Isn't there a time difference? Give him time, maybe he is just processing what you have said x

He’s 5 hours behind. I don’t know what I was expecting really. Just feel like if he really didn’t want to hear from me why didn’t he block me there too

LaurieLaurie said:
Delete his number.

I know, I should. I just can’t bring myself to do that yet

CrazyGiraffeLady · Mar 7, 2021

Recently found out my husband slept with someone else, it literally shattered my whole world.

LateG0ssiper · Mar 7, 2021

CrazyGiraffeLady said:
Recently found out my husband slept with someone else, it literally shattered my whole world.

I'm so sorry to hear this x

CrazyGiraffeLady · Mar 7, 2021

LateG0ssiper said:
I'm so sorry to hear this x

Were trying to get past it but my paranoia is off the scale x

LateG0ssiper · Mar 7, 2021

CrazyGiraffeLady said:
Were trying to get past it but my paranoia is off the scale x

Have you thought about seeing a therapist together to make sure you understand why it happened and know the best way to work past it? x

CrazyGiraffeLady · Mar 7, 2021

LateG0ssiper said:
Have you thought about seeing a therapist together to make sure you understand why it happened and know the best way to work past it? x

I hadn’t even thought of doing that, thankyou! X

LateG0ssiper · Mar 7, 2021

CrazyGiraffeLady said:
I hadn’t even thought of doing that, thankyou! X

I think if you've decided to stay together and try to move past it, it's the only way of making sure everything gets out in the open in a way that won't cause arguments or lots more upset. Having someone to mediate while you both talk about it should really help. Good luck, I hope you can make it work of that's what you really want. Feel free to check in on here whenever, lots of lovely, supportive people x

gigi_93 said:
I’m sorry I ended up texting him last night just to see if he’d blocked me on iMessage after last time. The message delivered :/ no reply though which is making me feel even worse. Strange that he hasn’t blocked me there.

That's horrible knowing he has seen the message but is choosing not to reply, you must be overthinking things even more now. I really feel for you. Try and do anything that you can to distract yourself (easier said than done, I know!)

I'm still having a terrible time. I haven't been able to face seeing anyone or even leaving the house at all this weekend. I know that can make things worse but I just felt like I needed to shut myself away. I think I've cried more in the last couple of weeks than I have my whole life! The pain isn't getting any better. I feel so alone. I'm emotionally and physically drained. I don't know how much more of this I can take.

CrazyGiraffeLady · Mar 7, 2021

LateG0ssiper said:
I think if you've decided to stay together and try to move past it, it's the only way of making sure everything gets out in the open in a way that won't cause arguments or lots more upset. Having someone to mediate while you both talk about it should really help. Good luck, I hope you can make it work of that's what you really want. Feel free to check in on here whenever, lots of lovely, supportive people x

Thank you! I’ve just asked him about giving it a try and he’s said yeah x

LateG0ssiper · Mar 7, 2021

CrazyGiraffeLady said:
Thank you! I’ve just asked him about giving it a try and he’s said yeah x

That's brilliant, well done x

CrazyGiraffeLady · Mar 7, 2021

LateG0ssiper said:
That's brilliant, well done x

Thank you, it gives me some hope we can recover from this x

bolimepipi · Mar 7, 2021

CrazyGiraffeLady said:
Thank you, it gives me some hope we can recover from this x

you are so brave, i'm sure you can get through it!

CrazyGiraffeLady · Mar 7, 2021

bolimepipi said:
you are so brave, i'm sure you can get through it!

Ahh thank you! Not brave maybe foolish it’s horrible when the one person you turn to form comfort is suddenly the cause of your pain. There has been many tears and arguments over it but we both think our marriage is worth saving

rebremm99 · Mar 7, 2021

gigi_93 said:
I just recently got dumped by my partner who I’ve been with for 4 years. Somebody on another thread gave me the idea of starting this one to vent and let it all out, and also invite anyone else to do the same if they’re going through a breakup, or just to share stories of older breakups and heartbreak.

My story: long distance relationship, him in Florida and me here in the UK. I’ve been flying over regularly for the past 4 years, I’m close with his family and practically a step mum to his 3 children. Love of my life etc...then the pandemic hit and borders closed. I haven’t been allowed into the US since March 2020, last time I saw him was just before that. I fully believe partner exemptions should have been allowed with testing and quarantine and I wouldn’t be in this mess but that’s another rant.

We held on and held on with FaceTime etc, then we decided I’d go via a third country (Mexico) and he would pay, but my flight was cancelled, and when I went to rebook it he completely unexpectedly told me not to bother and that he was done with our relationship. It hit me like a freight train, there’d been no signs this was coming at all. In fact he told me he loved me and missed me just hours before. I tried to reason with him and then he decided to block me on everything which was another huge blow. I feel like my world has ended, I haven’t eaten or slept since. My life was there with him and he’s taken it away and I don’t know what to do.

Sorry that was so long. Please feel free to share your stories and any advice for this absolute hell I feel right now

I just came across this thread and wanted to say I hope you are ok. I’m also in a LDR and it’s actual torture during the pandemic. My bf’s countries borders are closed and he can’t travel because of his job. It puts such a strain on a relationship and there’s no end in sight I hope you are doing a bit better now, it’s a horrible thing to happen. I always felt a break up was like having a best friend and then it’s like they die because you never can speak to them again.

gigi_93 · Mar 8, 2021

rebremm99 said:
I just came across this thread and wanted to say I hope you are ok. I’m also in a LDR and it’s actual torture during the pandemic. My bf’s countries borders are closed and he can’t travel because of his job. It puts such a strain on a relationship and there’s no end in sight I hope you are doing a bit better now, it’s a horrible thing to happen. I always felt a break up was like having a best friend and then it’s like they die because you never can speak to them again.

I’m so sorry. It’s a horrible situation to be forced into and the border closures should never have applied to partners. It’s truly ruined my life, and I just keep thinking...for what reason? Who gained anything from shutting me away from my boyfriend’s country when I could have tested and quarantined. I hope you can be reunited soon

CrazyGiraffeLady said:
Thank you! I’ve just asked him about giving it a try and he’s said yeah x

I hope everything works out for the very best for you

LateG0ssiper said:
I think if you've decided to stay together and try to move past it, it's the only way of making sure everything gets out in the open in a way that won't cause arguments or lots more upset. Having someone to mediate while you both talk about it should really help. Good luck, I hope you can make it work of that's what you really want. Feel free to check in on here whenever, lots of lovely, supportive people x

That's horrible knowing he has seen the message but is choosing not to reply, you must be overthinking things even more now. I really feel for you. Try and do anything that you can to distract yourself (easier said than done, I know!)

I'm still having a terrible time. I haven't been able to face seeing anyone or even leaving the house at all this weekend. I know that can make things worse but I just felt like I needed to shut myself away. I think I've cried more in the last couple of weeks than I have my whole life! The pain isn't getting any better. I feel so alone. I'm emotionally and physically drained. I don't know how much more of this I can take.

He still hasn’t replied so I’m guessing he isn’t going to. Which begs the question why not just block me there too??

Do you have anyone you can spend some time with? I know we’re in lockdown but honestly mental health is more important

LateG0ssiper · Mar 8, 2021

gigi_93 said:
I’m so sorry. It’s a horrible situation to be forced into and the border closures should never have applied to partners. It’s truly ruined my life, and I just keep thinking...for what reason? Who gained anything from shutting me away from my boyfriend’s country when I could have tested and quarantined. I hope you can be reunited soon

I hope everything works out for the very best for you

He still hasn’t replied so I’m guessing he isn’t going to. Which begs the question why not just block me there too??

Do you have anyone you can spend some time with? I know we’re in lockdown but honestly mental health is more important

If he hasn't blocked you he may reply in time. Men are certainly very strange, you just don't know what he's going to do.

My sister was coming on Saturday but I ended up asking her not to, I just didn't want to talk about it anymore or cry in front of anyone. I did manage a little bit of sleep last night. I still feel horrendous but I'm sure it's done me some good. Dreading work today.

Heartbreak.

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