Tonight I've told my partner of less than 2 years (we have a baby together) that I want to split up. I'm devastated because obviously he's the father of my kid and I do still love him massively. But his behaviour just really gets me sometimes and I think I'm really just looking for reassurance now that I'm not being dramatic and he is in fact controlling.
He's found reasons he hates most of my friends and I've stopped seeing them because he just makes me feel bad for it afterwards
He makes comments about everything I wear - if I wear a vest top he tells me I shouldn't go out in it and that everybody is looking at my boobs, if I wear skinny jeans he says they leave nothing to the imagination and he doesn't see why I have to wear them, not allowed to wear leggings or anything shorter than knee length or he goes mad. Not allowed to breastfeed baby in public. When she was 5 weeks old she had to have an ultrasound and he went mad at me for feeding in the waiting room - no skin showing plus a muslin draped over my shoulder/chest and her head but he said it was obvious I was feeding and I shouldn't want to feed in a waiting room "full" of men (there was a few men waiting with their partners as it was the pregnancy ultrasound unit). Throws a huff over any males on my social media. I wouldn't even dream of socialising with a male friend as he'd just go mad. He often "tests" me - for example he'll ask me if I know what something means and if I say yes he'll ask me what it means as if to prove to him, like he wants to catch me out or something. I've told him this upsets me. He persists. "Tells me off" for swearing in public or in front of the baby (I only really say the odd duck, I don't swear much contrary to my posts
), but does it himself often. We went on a day out when baby was a few months old and I said that I wanted a picture of just me and baby and he went mad - told me I was horrible and he'd never dream of saying he wants a photo of just him and baby etc. I went down to a slim 10 after baby and he kept telling me I was too skinny etc (already was feeling tit about myself). Since baby of course I haven't wanted sex much but he just keeps telling me he's a very sexual person and he likes to have sex very often, despite me telling him it's quite uncomfortable and sometimes hurts.
Am I going mad or is this wrong? I feel horrible for breaking up with him because I really honestly love him but I don't feel like this is healthy and I don't want to raise my daughter around an unhealthy relationship.
Poor planning because I gave up my job (which he also didn't like me working because I worked with men) to stay home with baby and now we really have nothing. I suppose I just want some reassurance and maybe a little hand hold. I don't know where to go from here.
He's found reasons he hates most of my friends and I've stopped seeing them because he just makes me feel bad for it afterwards
He makes comments about everything I wear - if I wear a vest top he tells me I shouldn't go out in it and that everybody is looking at my boobs, if I wear skinny jeans he says they leave nothing to the imagination and he doesn't see why I have to wear them, not allowed to wear leggings or anything shorter than knee length or he goes mad. Not allowed to breastfeed baby in public. When she was 5 weeks old she had to have an ultrasound and he went mad at me for feeding in the waiting room - no skin showing plus a muslin draped over my shoulder/chest and her head but he said it was obvious I was feeding and I shouldn't want to feed in a waiting room "full" of men (there was a few men waiting with their partners as it was the pregnancy ultrasound unit). Throws a huff over any males on my social media. I wouldn't even dream of socialising with a male friend as he'd just go mad. He often "tests" me - for example he'll ask me if I know what something means and if I say yes he'll ask me what it means as if to prove to him, like he wants to catch me out or something. I've told him this upsets me. He persists. "Tells me off" for swearing in public or in front of the baby (I only really say the odd duck, I don't swear much contrary to my posts
), but does it himself often. We went on a day out when baby was a few months old and I said that I wanted a picture of just me and baby and he went mad - told me I was horrible and he'd never dream of saying he wants a photo of just him and baby etc. I went down to a slim 10 after baby and he kept telling me I was too skinny etc (already was feeling tit about myself). Since baby of course I haven't wanted sex much but he just keeps telling me he's a very sexual person and he likes to have sex very often, despite me telling him it's quite uncomfortable and sometimes hurts. Am I going mad or is this wrong? I feel horrible for breaking up with him because I really honestly love him but I don't feel like this is healthy and I don't want to raise my daughter around an unhealthy relationship.
Poor planning because I gave up my job (which he also didn't like me working because I worked with men) to stay home with baby and now we really have nothing. I suppose I just want some reassurance and maybe a little hand hold. I don't know where to go from here.
It's probably just going to be very miserable until we are able to move.
