Group chats: yay or nay?

[clueless]

It’s a nay from me! I’m only in a few; an old work colleagues one, a uni group one, and one with my two best friends.

I don’t mind the latter as I’m so comfortable with them- and it barely moves anyway, since one of them rarely texts! I prefer direct messaging but it can be handy if we’re meeting up. The old work one is ok as it’s now usually just jokes the odd time and birthday wishes.

But the uni group one, I don’t really like it. It sounds a bit daft but I often feel self conscious in some group chats! Sometimes I just read the messages without writing in. And I really hate when my message doesn’t get responded to or is ignored. I know I’m quite a sensitive person, but it makes me feel embarrassed and a bit small. Thankfully it’s dead for the time being!

 

[Platypusfattypus]

I only have two groups. My family one which is me, Mr P and the two older children and a work one. I mute the work one from time to time

 

[Loiterer]

I love mine with my best friends - we talk every day

 

[derbyshiregirl]

I wish it didn’t give a notification when someone has left the group then you could just quietly go without it being a thing.

I also hate it when two people just go off on a tangent when they could just message eachother privately. Especially if it’s for a specific thing like a hen night and they start banging on about something unrelated.

Times, dates, let’s keep to the formalities please

 

[Rbarb-bkini]

I have 3 active WhatsApp group chats. One with my two best friends, one with my mum and sister, and a less active one with my bridesmaids just to keep them updated on wedding stuff. I do also have a FB group chat to make plans to play D&D with 3 friends.
We had a work group chat (25 of us) early in first lockdown when we were furloughed, full of stupid banter, memes and photos of the mundane lockdown tit they were doing. I had to mute it as it drove me crazy. The chat got deleted after some people were made redundant
I honestly think they're fine when it's like 3-4 people you're very close to, any more than that I agree is annoying.

 

[judgejohndeed]

I hate them so much I’m in loads, not by choice. Problem is if you leave one it always makes it awkward with whoever added you and I can’t be bothered. Covid has been the worst, every time it’s someone’s birthday there’s a group chat made to tell you about the birthday Zoom (hate these with a passion, don’t get me started on Zoom quizzes I’d rather eat my own eyeball ) I always mute group chats immediately and then just try not to look at them so it doesn’t say ive read anything and can’t be harassed into participating

 

[Mulholland Drive]

I spoke to my g/f about this last night, and she confessed to being an addict for groups across most SM sites.

Am surprised she finds the time to fit me in with all the notifications she gets, reads and subsequently replies too. Even if I wore my sexy underwear and danced manically in front of her I doubt she'd even lift an eyebrow. Although I might get a "Hhmmm?" if I'm lucky

 

[Shesaidwhat?]

I bloody hate group chats I’m in 3 (official work gc, side official gc with less people and a friend one where every time I leave I get added back) only one by choice can I add. Like you’ve all already said they’re so awkward, when you ask a question you actually need/want an answer too no one replies. I wish it was like Facebook friend requests were gc’s come with an accept and decline button I don’t like the fact you’re added without being asked.

 

[Ruby Woo]

I hate group chats with a passion. My colleagues keep adding me to theirs. They only ever talk about work out of working hours! No thanks, my home time is sacred. You always get someone posting random pics of their baby, their pet or one memorable one was how big their jacket potato was! Who gives a flying feck! No thanks, “Ruby Woo has left the group chat”

 

[grumpy-nosy-cow]

You explained it better than I could, the cliques in WhatsApp groups I just cannot be arsed with anymore!

weve got a road one..it started of as a neighbourhood watch really as there had been a spate of burglaries. Its now just general stuff like people getting rid of stuff, missing pets, reminders to clap for NHS etc (occasionally something of interest) but my God is it clique.. one or two residents posts something crap and the same group of people all comment straight away..other times someone has real a genuine request / question and its met with tumble weeds!
i feel like leaving but occasionally we do get the odd fight on there so i stay for that entertainment

 

[Merpedy]

I hate the uni group chat I'm in for WhatsApp. We're all studying law so it's a bunch of 'wow I'm so smart, I'm so ahead' which makes people who are genuinely behind feel so tit. It's honestly nice when people finally discuss something like how far behind they are, or how the teaching lowkey sucks.

I find Discord group chats are sort of fun. Having a lot of channels usually means that I can ignore the ones I'm not that interested in, and people just discuss stuff outside of uni/work/whatever.

 

[Lulu Goss]

I’m in quite a few, I don’t mind them. It’s useful for catching up with groups of friends at the same time, especially now no one is really seeing eachother.

 

[maytoseptember]

Fast forward a couple of years later and it’s the same as you, I’ll post something and get met with tumbleweeds but everyone fawns all over the queen bee and it just feels like high school again.

This is so me with school mum WhatsApp groups! I stay in them because there might occasionally be a useful reminder for a non uniform day or something, but if there’s any general chat or banter going on, you can guarantee I’ll get tumbleweeds if I post something, but the queen bee mums get absolutely fawned over.

When my eldest started Reception I tried so hard to be friendly and liked, and everyone was friendly for about a term and a half (or they pretended to be) but after that the popular mums clique was well established. There was even a secret WhatsApp group and I didn’t know about it for over a year

My youngest started Reception last year and I was so glad that I could stand there wearing a mask being anti-social and not talking to anyone, because I really can’t be arsed with popularity contests anymore!

 

[Ohchristmastree]

This is so me with school mum WhatsApp groups! I stay in them because there might occasionally be a useful reminder for a non uniform day or something, but if there’s any general chat or banter going on, you can guarantee I’ll get tumbleweeds if I post something, but the queen bee mums get absolutely fawned over.

When my eldest started Reception I tried so hard to be friendly and liked, and everyone was friendly for about a term and a half (or they pretended to be) but after that the popular mums clique was well established. There was even a secret WhatsApp group and I didn’t know about it for over a year

My youngest started Reception last year and I was so glad that I could stand there wearing a mask being anti-social and not talking to anyone, because I really can’t be arsed with popularity contests anymore!

Ugh I hate this, like it just brings back high school memories of wanting to be liked and just fit in. In some ways I’m glad we are older now and don’t have to deal with it but it’s funny how the queen bees of them are the same ones as now. At least you (and me) don’t care anymore, and face masks are a godsend! Paired with a hat and a scarf and I’m as unsociable as they come

 

[Rxt156]

Yes but on mute. I will read you when im ready