Group chats: yay or nay?

[Ohchristmastree]

Thoughts, feelings and experiences on group chats. I don’t know if it’s some weird part of me but I love to see an empty WhatsApp chat list, you know what I mean? No neither do I because it’s FULL of random groups I’ve been added to to view baby pics of three different couples, birthday plans that obviously have never happened, “Christmas meet up 2019”, let’s catch up July 2018”, am I the ONLY one who hates groups? My heart sinks when I see “Jenny has added you to the group....”

I promise I’m not as unsociable as I sound but groups just get out of hand and end up with the obligatory glass of wine held in front of a bubble bath pic from someone I don’t know because the hen party hasn’t happened!

Wow needed to get that off my chest. Anyone else?

 

[watermelon sugar]

I hate them i always end up leaving. I just can't be bothered keeping on top of the conversation. Friends ones are so awkward when you put something in and no one replies. Work ones are just cringe when they all try and have banter, you don't like half the team anyway and don't wanna socialise outside of work the only one I am in is my family group chat, and that's awkward as well because none of my family reply apart from my Mum and all she replied with is 'ok.'

 

[Ohchristmastree]

I hate them i always end up leaving. I just can't be bothered keeping on top of the conversation. Friends ones are so awkward when you put something in and no one replies. Work ones are just cringe when they all try and have banter, you don't like half the team anyway and don't wanna socialise outside of work the only one I am in is my family group chat, and that's awkward as well because none of my family reply apart from my Mum and all she replied with is 'ok.'

Ugh so I have a friends one and it was a really nice bunch of us from secondary school. Anyway a girl we lost touch with who was kind of like queen bee/popular girl at school fell on some hard times and reached out to us and she got added to the group. Fast forward a couple of years later and it’s the same as you, I’ll post something and get met with tumbleweeds but everyone fawns all over the queen bee and it just feels like high school again. And then it feels awkward to just leave because I’m actually friends with the others.

 

[lemonlime]

It was convenient at first, catching up with everyone without having to pay attention to one on one communication and easy way to get the word out if there's a common plan etc... But I'm honestly sick to the back teeth, like I don't care for a blurry pic of your cat just sitting there, I don't want to see the cringe memes or I don't want to be a part of you thinking out loud all damn day long, ffs. I can't leave either because the way we communicate has changed and most of our chats are via group chats and I can't be arsed to constantly catch up with people. Everyone is talking over another anyway and it's just a jumble of absolute nothing for hundreds of messages. The only one I can barely stand is our division's work chat which we use for necessary communication. All of my chats are on mute and notifications are off too.

 

[Ohchristmastree]

It was convenient at first, catching up with everyone without having to pay attention to one on one communication and easy way to get the word out if there's a common plan etc... But I'm honestly sick to the back teeth, like I don't care for a blurry pic of your cat just sitting there, I don't want to see the cringe memes or I don't want to be a part of you thinking out loud all damn day long, ffs. I can't leave either because the way we communicate has changed and most of our chats are via group chats and I can't be arsed to constantly catch up with people. Everyone is talking over another anyway and it's just a jumble of absolute nothing for hundreds of messages. The only one I can barely stand is our division's work chat which we use for necessary communication. All of my chats are on mute and notifications are off too.

Mute is definitely our best friend! It sounds like your friends are like mine, cat memes and don’t appreciate that some people work in the day time!!

 

[lemonlime]

Friends ones are so awkward when you put something in and no one replies.

This too haha, it makes me feel like I'm back in 7th grade which was tit enough the first time.

 

[watermelon sugar]

When I first gave birth to my son a group of girls befriended me who knew my fella. They all had kids apart from one and they added me into their group chat. I didnt even really know them just of them and they just talked about babies allllllllllll the time. So boring. I didn't just wanna discuss my kid none stop. The one who didn't have a kid as well was so dramatic she'd just randomly leave, get added back in, leave again, back in, leave. She used to write dead cryptic messages like 'DONT add me back.' Then finally be sound eventually after being added back in 20 times. I was like wtf is tit and I left. Then the dramatic girl called me a two faced witch for leaving. I never even spoke in it I hate group chat and I hate people

 

[Ohchristmastree]

When I first gave birth to my son a group of girls befriended me who knew my fella. They all had kids apart from one and they added me into their group chat. I didnt even really know them just of them and they just talked about babies allllllllllll the time. So boring. I didn't just wanna discuss my kid none stop. The one who didn't have a kid as well was so dramatic she'd just randomly leave, get added back in, leave again, back in, leave. She used to write dead cryptic messages like 'DONT add me back.' Then finally be sound eventually after being added back in 20 times. I was like wtf is tit and I left. Then the dramatic girl called me a two faced witch for leaving. I never even spoke in it I hate group chat and I hate people

 

[lemonlime]

Mute is definitely our best friend! It sounds like your friends are like mine, cat memes and don’t appreciate that some people work in the day time!!

Cat memes but make it cringey 'lol cats' stuff from late 2000s

I hate group chat and I hate people

This will be my new WhatsApp bio

 

[Mulholland Drive]

Loathe groups - too much one-upmanship and #metoo bombing. And despite being part of a group if you're not part of the clique within that group you may as well upsticks and leave.

Which is another reason why I can't be arsed with SM these days - insta, Twatter, Tumblr, FB... and all the usual suspects. Too much like hard work and waste of time.

(am in a bit of a grumpy mood this morning )

 

[Ohchristmastree]

Loathe groups - too much one-upmanship and #metoo bombing. And despite being part of a group if you're not part of the clique within that group you may as well upsticks and leave.

Which is another reason why I can't be arsed with SM these days - insta, Twatter, Tumblr, FB... and all the usual suspects. Too much like hard work and waste of time.

(am in a bit of a grumpy mood this morning )

You explained it better than I could, the cliques in WhatsApp groups I just cannot be arsed with anymore!

 

[WilmaHun]

I am in a few but they're all muted so I don't get notifications. I check them occasionally but I'm not a major contributor. They annoy me when I'm at work and my phone is constantly going off, hence why I muted them. In one of the groups I'm in it's mainly just 2 people having a chat amongst themselves as the rest of us clearly are too busy, I feel like asking them to just have their chat in private! Unless it's relevant to the group, don't put it in there

 

[Pixipoppy]

I do usually hate them but at the moment it is just easier than texting people individually. I only have like 4 friends And we’re all close anyway so most of our chats go on the group. Plus with work we have a constant whatsapp stream of messages which does get a bit overwhelming but it’s better than nothing I guess!

 

[Mulholland Drive]

I am in a few but they're all muted so I don't get notifications. I check them occasionally but I'm not a major contributor. They annoy me when I'm at work and my phone is constantly going off, hence why I muted them. In one of the groups I'm in it's mainly just 2 people having a chat amongst themselves as the rest of us clearly are too busy, I feel like asking them to just have their chat in private! Unless it's relevant to the group, don't put it in there

This!

Getting involved in too many chats/group/notifications becomes one big distraction throughout the day and night, especially when you're at work trying to focus on getting things done on a tight deadline!

Some "friends" in these groups probably don't have much to do during the day for whatever reason. As such they just carpet bomb the group with all sorts of crap that you get notified on. And when you do find time to read up its just utter crap like "I couldn't open a tin of baked beans today, so I threw it in the bin. Pissed me off big time!"

Oh the bleeping drama in your busy life!

(Keep on counting to 10 this morning, but only get as far as 3 before becoming a grump again, lol)

 

[bolimepipi]

i agree with pretty much everything that has been said and i hate meaningless chats BUT
there is one upside to group chats
when someone asks or writes something you are not obligated to respond because it was not a direct message to you makes it so much easier to avoid communication
viber is even better as you can 'like' messages
like, like, like, byyyyeeee

 

[lemonlime]

viber is even better as you can 'like' messages
like, like, like, byyyyeeee

Every text app needs this tbh, like let me briefly acknowledge something and then move on without spendint mental energy on the appropriate amount of enthusiasm for a response

 

[LittleMy]

Can’t stand them. Usually because I always end up getting bombed out of the convo or feel the pressure to respond when I really cba.

 

[Mulholland Drive]

Tattle is all I need

 

[Sheripoynter]

I'm in two group chats with my two circles of friends, I am the lazy friend so it's easier to put a "haha" in a group then messaging everyone individually to let them know I'm still alive!

 

[Ohchristmastree]

I'm in two group chats with my two circles of friends, I am the lazy friend so it's easier to put a "haha" in a group then messaging everyone individually to let them know I'm still alive!

Haha is my go to response too!