Group chats: yay or nay?

[watermelon sugar]

When I first gave birth to my son a group of girls befriended me who knew my fella. They all had kids apart from one and they added me into their group chat. I didnt even really know them just of them and they just talked about babies allllllllllll the time. So boring. I didn't just wanna discuss my kid none stop. The one who didn't have a kid as well was so dramatic she'd just randomly leave, get added back in, leave again, back in, leave. She used to write dead cryptic messages like 'DONT add me back.' Then finally be sound eventually after being added back in 20 times. I was like wtf is shit and I left. Then the dramatic girl called me a two faced bitch for leaving. I never even spoke in it I hate group chat and I hate people

 

[Pinkblush]

I was added to two back in 2019 and both related to birthday celebration plans but I didn't engage in either of them apart from giving a thumbs up emoji to confirm dates/times etc.

You've got a group of people, some who have never met each other, who have different levels of humour. One sent a jokey meme but the picture was quite graphic and it was met with radio silence. God knows how she felt after that. Then people starting texting things like 'just seen my boss scratching his balls' with lots of crying with laughing emoji's. Then someone would reply 'my boss stinks of BO today' and it just descended into a slagging off session. One of them sent a pic of a pile of dog and said 'is this normal or does my my lovely lab lily need a visit to the vet'

Someone asked 'what's everyone wearing' and one of them nkt only said what she was wearing but added the cost too ...
'I'm wearing a karen millen dress that I got for £149.99 and my £125 shoes that pete treated me too when we went on holiday in paris and stayed at the five star paris ritz hotel'

Also adults doing all abbreviated crap that teenagers do such as....
"idc, when do we need to tgb on day" May as well be in russian

One person even had a political rant about trump. You could tell it was a copied copy and paste job and that she just wanted ro come across as intelligent. No one responded and she left the chat around two hours after the post

 

[Ohchristmastree]

When I first gave birth to my son a group of girls befriended me who knew my fella. They all had kids apart from one and they added me into their group chat. I didnt even really know them just of them and they just talked about babies allllllllllll the time. So boring. I didn't just wanna discuss my kid none stop. The one who didn't have a kid as well was so dramatic she'd just randomly leave, get added back in, leave again, back in, leave. She used to write dead cryptic messages like 'DONT add me back.' Then finally be sound eventually after being added back in 20 times. I was like wtf is shit and I left. Then the dramatic girl called me a two faced bitch for leaving. I never even spoke in it I hate group chat and I hate people

 

[Ohchristmastree]

Thoughts, feelings and experiences on group chats. I don’t know if it’s some weird part of me but I love to see an empty WhatsApp chat list, you know what I mean? No neither do I because it’s FULL of random groups I’ve been added to to view baby pics of three different couples, birthday plans that obviously have never happened, “Christmas meet up 2019”, let’s catch up July 2018”, am I the ONLY one who hates groups? My heart sinks when I see “Jenny has added you to the group....”

I promise I’m not as unsociable as I sound but groups just get out of hand and end up with the obligatory glass of wine held in front of a bubble bath pic from someone I don’t know because the hen party hasn’t happened!

Wow needed to get that off my chest. Anyone else?

 

[watermelon sugar]

I hate them i always end up leaving. I just can't be bothered keeping on top of the conversation. Friends ones are so awkward when you put something in and no one replies. Work ones are just cringe when they all try and have banter, you don't like half the team anyway and don't wanna socialise outside of work the only one I am in is my family group chat, and that's awkward as well because none of my family reply apart from my Mum and all she replied with is 'ok.'

 

[Saddlesoap]

Lols at all your replies. I must be the weird one cos I like them.
I have loads - 5 different work chats, two different friends group, family group, a group for my mum, sister and I. We start other groups to discuss friend's birthday gifts. Doesn't feel like a hassle. It I want to reply I will, if I don't

 

[Mulholland Drive]

Tattle is all I need

 

[lemonlime]

It was convenient at first, catching up with everyone without having to pay attention to one on one communication and easy way to get the word out if there's a common plan etc... But I'm honestly sick to the back teeth, like I don't care for a blurry pic of your cat just sitting there, I don't want to see the cringe memes or I don't want to be a part of you thinking out loud all damn day long, ffs. I can't leave either because the way we communicate has changed and most of our chats are via group chats and I can't be arsed to constantly catch up with people. Everyone is talking over another anyway and it's just a jumble of absolute nothing for hundreds of messages. The only one I can barely stand is our division's work chat which we use for necessary communication. All of my chats are on mute and notifications are off too.

 

[lemonlime]

Friends ones are so awkward when you put something in and no one replies.

This too haha, it makes me feel like I'm back in 7th grade which was shit enough the first time.

 

[bolimepipi]

i agree with pretty much everything that has been said and i hate meaningless chats BUT
there is one upside to group chats
when someone asks or writes something you are not obligated to respond because it was not a direct message to you makes it so much easier to avoid communication
viber is even better as you can 'like' messages
like, like, like, byyyyeeee

 

[Mulholland Drive]

Loathe groups - too much one-upmanship and #metoo bombing. And despite being part of a group if you're not part of the clique within that group you may as well upsticks and leave.

Which is another reason why I can't be arsed with SM these days - insta, Twatter, Tumblr, FB... and all the usual suspects. Too much like hard work and waste of time.

(am in a bit of a grumpy mood this morning )

 

[derbyshiregirl]

I wish it didn’t give a notification when someone has left the group then you could just quietly go without it being a thing.

I also hate it when two people just go off on a tangent when they could just message eachother privately. Especially if it’s for a specific thing like a hen night and they start banging on about something unrelated.

Times, dates, let’s keep to the formalities please

 

[Mulholland Drive]

Lols at all your replies. I must be the weird one cos I like them.
I have loads - 5 different work chats, two different friends group, family group, a group for my mum, sister and I. We start other groups to discuss friend's birthday gifts. Doesn't feel like a hassle. It I want to reply I will, if I don't

You're right with your first statement - you are weird!

 

[Veronica]

There's a class group for my daughters class...... They are all complete knobs!! I've never ever contributed! It's so random and moaning!!!!

 

[ChloChlo]

I hate them and I've only ever been part of 2. One was a group created by one of mums from the Children centre, apparently it was for "sharing banter" - where do people find the time to type to eachother about such mundancies? Have these people got nowt else better to do? The humour in it was juvenile. Anything remotely phallus shaped would induce "Pmsl", "howling" or "nearly wet myself" past the point of exhaustion. I was also in my drug recovery groups whats app, it was monopolised by one particular members tales of "woe is me" and another dozen people all tripping themselves up to muster up a virtual signalling response, especially if any Co ordinators were active. It was an embarrassing thing to be part of.

 

[Ohchristmastree]

It was convenient at first, catching up with everyone without having to pay attention to one on one communication and easy way to get the word out if there's a common plan etc... But I'm honestly sick to the back teeth, like I don't care for a blurry pic of your cat just sitting there, I don't want to see the cringe memes or I don't want to be a part of you thinking out loud all damn day long, ffs. I can't leave either because the way we communicate has changed and most of our chats are via group chats and I can't be arsed to constantly catch up with people. Everyone is talking over another anyway and it's just a jumble of absolute nothing for hundreds of messages. The only one I can barely stand is our division's work chat which we use for necessary communication. All of my chats are on mute and notifications are off too.

Mute is definitely our best friend! It sounds like your friends are like mine, cat memes and don’t appreciate that some people work in the day time!!

 

[Sheripoynter]

Haha is my go to response too!

Maybe a "" if I'm feeling wild that day

 

[WilmaHun]

I am in a few but they're all muted so I don't get notifications. I check them occasionally but I'm not a major contributor. They annoy me when I'm at work and my phone is constantly going off, hence why I muted them. In one of the groups I'm in it's mainly just 2 people having a chat amongst themselves as the rest of us clearly are too busy, I feel like asking them to just have their chat in private! Unless it's relevant to the group, don't put it in there

 

[Ohchristmastree]

Loathe groups - too much one-upmanship and #metoo bombing. And despite being part of a group if you're not part of the clique within that group you may as well upsticks and leave.

Which is another reason why I can't be arsed with SM these days - insta, Twatter, Tumblr, FB... and all the usual suspects. Too much like hard work and waste of time.

(am in a bit of a grumpy mood this morning )

You explained it better than I could, the cliques in WhatsApp groups I just cannot be arsed with anymore!

 

[Ohchristmastree]

I hate them i always end up leaving. I just can't be bothered keeping on top of the conversation. Friends ones are so awkward when you put something in and no one replies. Work ones are just cringe when they all try and have banter, you don't like half the team anyway and don't wanna socialise outside of work the only one I am in is my family group chat, and that's awkward as well because none of my family reply apart from my Mum and all she replied with is 'ok.'

Ugh so I have a friends one and it was a really nice bunch of us from secondary school. Anyway a girl we lost touch with who was kind of like queen bee/popular girl at school fell on some hard times and reached out to us and she got added to the group. Fast forward a couple of years later and it’s the same as you, I’ll post something and get met with tumbleweeds but everyone fawns all over the queen bee and it just feels like high school again. And then it feels awkward to just leave because I’m actually friends with the others.