He truly sounds the lowest of the low. A despicable person for what he's said and done to you.
Yes as others have said, block him,on everything, change your phone number if he keeps popping up on different numbers/withheld. Make it impossible for him to ever reach you again.
Then concentrate on building yourself back up, surround yourself with people you love, do the things that make you happy, take extra care of yourself and really look after you like you are the most important person in the world.. Elevate yourself so God damn high that you never even think of this low life again.
I think in many many break ups two sides of the tale gets told, yes his side is a disgusting lie but you can't change what comes out of his mouth. Rise above it and walk away from it. The people you know and love know what's really happened and you just have to let go of anyone else. Holding on to worry about this is just preventing you from moving forward.
If you feel like you are struggling to process it all and move forward councelling might be an option. I struggled to process my break up and had about 6 sessions with a therapist but it changed my outlook dramatically and made my brain able to process and understand what happened better and allowed me to 'un blame' myself for things he had projected onto me etc
I hope that all makes sense, I've just woke up haha but I couldn't scroll past and not reply. Sending you love
It showed me you can know someone for a long time but you might not actually know the real them. Thank you for reminding me I really need to change my number ASAP.
That’s all I can do is focus on myself and the people who are genuine and make me feel good as well things that I enjoy doing cause I hate that I’ve allowed my mind to be constantly thinking about it all when I know it doesn’t bother him at all.
As long as I know I’m being completely honest and people who love me know it too thats what should matter most to me. I guess there was a part of me thinking now he’s close to this other girl and she knows about his life and I’m not part of it anymore when I was the girl he was close to for a much longer time. He cheated and called me all the names under the sun but I still found it hard to accept he doesn’t care about me anymore.
Thank you I never even thought about that maybe counseling after Christmas might be an option for me I’ll look into it cause I’m worried about my mental health I don’t feel like myself sometimes. It’s so good to hear the therapy helped you and I’m sorry that you went through all that blaming yourself for things that weren’t your fault. I hope you’re doing better now. Thank you for replying and giving that advice because I’ve found it really hard. Sending you love too
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Wow! Thats is absolutely vile and I am so sorry someone could say some truly nasty things to you.
I havr had an ex comment on every part of me, my appearance, my weight, my family, my friends, my job, my social life... everything! And it is a way to control and hurt you, I think half the time he says the stuff he does because he wants me to bite and react and start messaging him to defend myself but instead i just let it go over my head, not saying it doesn't affect me because it does but those people are just not worth thinking about for a second longer... Block, ignore, move on. If some comments he has said do manage to get back to you just brush them off as best you can, you are better away from someone like that. Some other poor girls are getting his tit now x
I’m grateful for your response so thank you for that. I’m so sorry your ex was like I don’t understand how anyone can speak to someone like that without even feeling bad. You didn’t deserve any of that. I regret messaging that girl now even though at the time it felt right but the fact she didn’t listen to me I felt like an idiot and maybe sometimes you are better letting things go over your head and not addressing them.
You’re right it does hurt but you have to find a way to not let it control your life which is something I found difficult to do. I think it’s got to the point he is like a stranger to me I don’t recognise this nasty person. He wasn’t there for me when I needed him the most.I feel sorry for any poor girl who gets him next cause if he fooled me he could fool anyone x
I think that’s the hardest thing to get over sometimes . My ex fed me so much
tit when I think about it now , telling me he’s lost without me , would never risk loosing me again etc , cuddling in bed the night before it ended ? I’m over 2 weeks into my breakup now & im doing a lot better , I’m sleeping again & my appetite is slowly coming back . I still hate myself for missing him though . Plus I’ve gone into stalker mode & seeing he’s already commenting sleazy things on other women’s Facebook pictures
. This just makes me feel he never really gave a
tit about me and my kids . You ask yourself “I wonder if he misses me” “does he think about me”? . I have good & bad days now , I’m going to stop checking Facebook , in fact I’ve blocked him now so I can’t see what he’s liking etc as this just gave me rage !!!!!!! . I feel stupid for picking such a wrongun & I know the man I did love actually never existed he was just a good actor . I want xmas to be over now & fresh new year . I think men as much as it’s nice to have one around can cause so much stress is it actually worth it . Maybe there is a mr right out there for me but I’m in no rush . Only thing I’d quite like right now is for him to get hit by a bus
. I’ve always considered myself a strong independent woman , think I feel more of an idiot than anything .
I’m so sorry you have had to deal with all that I hope your mental health has improved. That messed me up too cause he fed me so much lies that I believed and for him to turn around and do the things he did it messed with my head. I have good days and bad days still but I know I’m never going to get an apology from him and it’s too late for one anyway it wouldn’t mean anything to me now. I don’t miss him in a loving way I wouldn’t want him back but I think I’m more hurt than anything someone could do that to me.
To hear him say things like “she’s crazy , she’s a psycho , we broke up a long time ago she won’t accept it, I barely even know her, she’s lying and she’s scaring me ” all this coming out of his mouth just because I got upset he cheated on me and told him where to go. Some people are so clever and able to play the victim and pass blame onto someone else. Your ex sounds disgusting they always move on so quick I’ve no idea what goes on inside their heads.
I want to focus on the new year too and hopefully it’ll be a better one for all of us.
Whether you’re on your own or with someone as long as you’re good mentally is what is important so make sure you look after your mind.
Don’t worry I’m sure we’ve all had that thought now and again haha.
I might not know you but you are a strong and independent woman you’ve just gone through a painful time so don’t call yourself an idiot cause if anything I admire your attitude.
My ex must have been on the drink yesterday because I have just noticed a message request on Instagram which is him on a fake profile.. calling me really disgusting things, telling me he hopes my boyfriend and I drop dead, that i should have died instead of my sister, that everyone hates me blah blah... heard it all before so it is fine but it just drums it in to me how lucky I was to get away from such toxic, nasty behaviour. This is the person I saw for a little while after the long term relationship and just goes to prove a point, do not jump into just any old relationship because you miss your ex, work on yourself, get into a good place mentally.. Biggest mistake I made! xx
He needs some seriously help if he’s going to be spending him messaging you abuse like that. Don’t take any of the things he’s saying to heart he’s clearly just out to hurt you wow I feel your pain. Maybe we’re all lucky to be shown someone’s true colours before we’re in too deep. The last thing I could even think of right now is dating again so I agree you have to focus on yourself and actually feel happy. I hope you’re ok xx
No contact since September (we met up to try and talk things over) then this appears this morning. It’s like he’s trying to still be present in my life. It’s just thrown me off completely as I was trying to get my head in the space of enjoying Christmas with my family and taking care of myself as I struggle this time of year. Bloody men!!!
I ended up looking at my ex on SM and seen that a girl has followed him and has been liking a few of his posts. I hadn’t looked him up for months and I felt strong, but my depression has been bad this week and I don’t know, I just looked. Now I’m hurt to think he’s moved on, and I’m here ‘alone’. I know I shouldn’t care and I know I’m wasting my valuable time looking him up but I think we’re all guilty of it? I just want to get over him!!!