Getting out of a lease

[The Devils Arse]

If he is an illegal, can you not call the police to get him picked up?!! He will be out the way and won't be able to do owt with the animals and gives you a bit of breathing space.

(Am I being a totally OTT harsh cow?!!)

 

[Georgethecat]

I'd be concerned that he's made you move across country, put the apartment lease in your name, he's still using dating apps. All this is huge red flags. You are right, he won't change. He's not shown an ounce of commitment at all. He's actually trapped you there with him away from all your friends and family.

how long have you been together if you have animals together? I thought from your post this was a recent relationship since you are not long into the lease.

so sorry you're faced with this not sure what I'd do in the same situation. I wouldn't want to stay but I wouldn't want to be faced with paying the rent on my own in a place I didn't want to live. If you can't trust him it's going to cause you so much stress for the remainder of your relationship if you don't break it off with him.

 

[Definitelyme]

Take your animals and leave, go home to your family and friends. Then contact your landlord and citizens advice and work to sort out the best possible solution.

Your safety and well-being are paramount above any contract. I understand money can be an issue, but it will be the same issue whether you are in the location of the flat, or elsewhere.

 

[yankydoo]

Omg I didn’t read it properly sorry. If the Tenancy is in your name only he’s technically a lodger so you can kick him out and change the locks

 

[Sazbee]

Can anyone give me any advice about ending a lease early? I've caught my boyfriend on dating sites numerous times and 2 months after we have moved in together I have caught him again. I'm a fucking mug. He's not on the lease, it's just in my name only but it's my first time renting and I'm not sure if I could get out of it early or not??

Sorry that's a bit garbled I'm just not doing well.

 

[Sazbee]

The one thing I really need to do is talk to my family and get their help when I can. Lockdown has not helped this situation either.

If he is an illegal, can you not call the police to get him picked up?!! He will be out the way and won't be able to do owt with the animals and gives you a bit of breathing space.

(Am I being a totally OTT harsh cow?!!)

That's definitely an option but I want that to be a last resort and hopefully only involve the police if I need to. I also work for the police myself (not a police officer) and I don't want my dirty laundry aired to my colleagues who would be likely to see any investigations/arrests against him. Despite all his shitty behaviour I can't put him through it.

 

[DoctorWho]

Can’t you just kick him out if it’s under your name?

 

[Clickbait]

Sometimes that’s why we allow ourselves to put up with things that we’d tell our friends to run a mile from, ignore red flags, listen to words that don’t match actions. Happiness shouldn’t come with conditions. Keep your chin up and focus on getting better x

 

[Clickbait]

Sorry to bombard you with more questions but... Are you currently working where you’ve moved to and could you cope with the rent by yourself for a couple of months until you resolve this situation? If so, I’d seek some advice on how best to resolve it in a way that saves you money/does not impact your credit rating or ability to rent another flat. Others have mentioned CAB. If you work for the Police there may be an employee helpline you can call as well for advice.

Depending on the pets you have, you may be able to get them temporarily re-homed. A friend got her cat put into foster care for 3 months whilst she dealt with a similar situation. You sign over temporary custodianship so no one will get rid of the animals. You can then get them back, or if circumstances change they will work with you to get them re-homed.

Aside from the fact your boyfriend has been talking to other women (and possibly doing more besides), he’s put you in a terrible situation with potential financial burden and with your employers given he has no legal right to be in the country. It also sounds like he’s manipulative and you sound really tired and worn down which means this might have been going on for longer than you can even remember.

Please seek some advice and if you can reach out to your friends/family. You don’t have to tell them everything but if a friend or family member was in this situation I’d want to know so I could help. Good luck.

 

[Sazbee]

There are a lot of other problems with the flat itself that I could cite as reasons. There is a large amount of damp and mould appearing which is causing me health problems. I dunno. I'm tired and ill and so sad and broken I can't cope with it all.

 

[Countrybumpkingirl]

Can anyone give me any advice about ending a lease early? I've caught my boyfriend on dating sites numerous times and 2 months after we have moved in together I have caught him again. I'm a fucking mug. He's not on the lease, it's just in my name only but it's my first time renting and I'm not sure if I could get out of it early or not??

Sorry that's a bit garbled I'm just not doing well.

Hi, firstly sorry to hear your boyfriend has been a grade a dickhead.

Secondly, are you still in the initial fixed term of your agreement. If so you could only end your tenancy if landlord agrees and potentially they can charge you for costs or make you carry on paying rent until a new tenant is found.

If you are now in the rolling part of the tenancy all you need to do is give 1 months written notice before the date you pay rent. So say your rent day is 1st of Dec, give notice by 31st and then you give back keys on 31st December.

I am a chartered surveyor so used to do lots of these things.

However as the tenancy is in your name he has no right to be in the property and so you do not have to leave (and technically if landlord hadn't given you permission for him to be there you are in breach of your agreement anyway).

Give me a shout if you need any help.

 

[Bexybest]

How long was the original tenancy agreement you signed? If it was 6 months unfortunately you are contractually bound to another 4 months, unless the landlord is particularly nice and will release you early. It's worth asking at least.

Kick out the boyfriend. If it's a 2 bed could you get a lodger to help out with the rent?

 

[Bellaboo83]

How long was the original tenancy agreement you signed? If it was 6 months unfortunately you are contractually bound to another 4 months, unless the landlord is particularly nice and will release you early. It's worth asking at least.

Kick out the boyfriend. If it's a 2 bed could you get a lodger to help out with the rent?

Yes you are stuck there if it's a 6/12 month contract however what you could try is explaining the situation to the landlord and offering to cover his costs to re-let and stay until someone else can move in. You might have to pay a couple of hundred for advertising, new inventory and contracts for the new tennant but would be cheaper in the long run than another say 10 months of your contract

ETA definitely chuck the BF out. Change the locks while he's out, nice surprise for him x all the best x

 

[JoeBloggs]

If your in England and have a standard tenancy your boyfriend is technically a sitting tenant and your landlord would probably not be happy with that. But I’ve just read that he is an illegal immigrant with no papers, landlords have a duty to check tenants are legally allowed to be in the UK. I would be very careful how you word wanting out to your landlord.

I regards to getting out of the lease, technically no you have agreed to the 6 months so your stuck but you maybe to able to assign it if you can get someone else to move in or agree to get your boyfriend to take it over. Alternatively you can only ask your landlord. My parents had a couple who split after 3 months and they agreed to let them out early. You will probably need to give at least one months notice.

 

[Londoncailín]

Can anyone give me any advice about ending a lease early? I've caught my boyfriend on dating sites numerous times and 2 months after we have moved in together I have caught him again. I'm a fucking mug. He's not on the lease, it's just in my name only but it's my first time renting and I'm not sure if I could get out of it early or not??

Sorry that's a bit garbled I'm just not doing well.

Check the rental agreement to see if it includes a break clause.

 

[JoeBloggs]

I'm sorry I haven't replied to anyone. I've been very ill and been admitted to hospital. I've only been replying to the more lighthearted threads on here because I'm struggling to think about everything. My family are about 50 miles away which isn't too far. The saddest thing is I don't want to leave him. I know I have to. I don't have much choice. But I don't want to.

Oh @Sazbee I'm sorry you are ill. Have you been able to speak to any of your family yet? Even to let them know where you are? I completely understand that you love him and want to stay in the relationship but you deserve so much better. Wishing you a speedy recovery.

 

[Georgethecat]

I think with rentals now you just need to give the landlord 1 months notice to leave so it is more in the tenants favour. (I'm in Scotland though so this may be different elsewhere) Check what your contract states , speak to your landlord and citizens advice. Sorry to hear about your boyfriend, what a dick. Better off without him.

 

[Clickbait]

@Sazbee you poor thing, I hope you get well soon. It can be hard to walk away from a relationship, even when you know it’s the right thing to do. If you still love someone, you can’t switch those feelings off, but at some point your survival instincts need to kick in - this relationship is not making you happy and it sounds like it’s making you quite unwell.

It may sound like a cliche, but it will get better and in time you’ll look back on this time and realise that you’re a lot stronger than maybe you give yourself credit for.

 

[WhatABore]

I have always been able to get out of mine with giving a month's notice.
However, you have to be careful if he isn't down as living there at all as they are not happy with this normally at all. You're supposed to make them aware of anyone living in the property.

 

[Kim Mild]

Are you allowed pets in your rented accommodation?