birdiefly246
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Just popping on the thread to say:
PLEASE don't do any diets that mean you're only eating one meal a day!! It will mess up your digestive system because your body gets used to not digesting food. I had anorexia and did this and now I have IBS as a result.
I think the best weight loss strategy is honestly a lifestyle change with an everything in moderation attitude. If you deny yourself something you're going to desperately want it. Either have a small bit, substitute it for something (for example, if you really like chocolate bars, try having a chocolate and nut cereal bar. It's not the same thing but it will satisfy the sweet craving and it is healthier) or cut down to once a day or tell yourself that you're only going to have it on weekends. (this works well with fizzy drinks and ice cream imo - nothing better than a Saturday night in with treats). It takes 21 days to break a habit so it really is going to be trial and error for what works for you.
Work with what you are as a person. Some people do not like breakfast, if you don't that's fine. Don't force it. I hate eating breakfast and I tried for ages to eat a healthy one at breakfast time. Now I normally have chocolate milkshake or nothing until around an hour and half later and then try some fruit or a cereal bar, or a healthy wrap. I still eat my healthy breakfast but I eat it as an evening snack. Still got the nutrition but not at the time where I hate it. If you force it you're just going to miserable. -also I find that if I eat breakfast 1. I'm hungrier throughout my day and 2. I can only have a few mouthfuls before I start to feel sick which is just pointless.
Don't look at the number on the scale, especially if you're weight lifting. I'm actually the heaviest I've ever been but I'm also the smallest and most toned. Measure inches if you want to but what's most important is how you feel (and to a degree how your clothes fit)
also on comfort eating, I can't remember the poster who said it but you absolutely can seek help for comfort eating. There's a reason that we eat for comfort and it's probably not your fault. Think about it, when you were a kid and you got an injection/went to hospital/had to have something done in the dentist, afterwards they give you a lollipop, or you'd be bought sweets etc. It's ingrained in you that food is a comfort. It comes with so much shame as well which is just so unhelpful. Remember that if you are comfort eating, then you do need the comfort so don't be nasty to yourself about it because you need it and that is the time you deserve the most love and care.
I'll be really honest about my own experiences with comfort eating. I ate McDonald's a lot (I'm talking almost every day, even if it was just some chips or whatever. I still struggle with this but it's a bit better now). Even at the worst of my anorexia I still ate McDonalds so, during a therapy session I went mental cause I'd had enough of feeling like I was addicted and having no control over it. We established that the reason I eat it so much is because when I was kid no one spent any time with me, food was just sort of thrown my way and it was always something that could just be chucked in the oven or the microwave. We never ate together. We didn't even own a dining table. I don't remember ever seeing my parents eat. They certainly never made healthy family meals.
After my parents split, once a week when my dad would pick me up from school and we'd go to McDonald's. It was the only time anyone ever sat with me and actually spent any time with me. It's really no wonder why it's such a comfort to me as an adult. Sounds airy-fairy but after I realised this, I really did just let it go and forgave myself for it. It's just what I need while I work on other things and it'll fall into place when I've sorted out the other stuff.
I didn't mean for this to be so long but it properly breaks my heart to see everyone on here beating themselves up. once again, don't want to sound like an airy fairy twat but please try and be kinder to yourselves and remember that you're not bad for eating food. There's no such thing as bad foods. There's just food with less value than other foods. Forgive yourself for not eating perfectly, it's okay. Just pick yourself up and try again for the next meal/snack
PLEASE don't do any diets that mean you're only eating one meal a day!! It will mess up your digestive system because your body gets used to not digesting food. I had anorexia and did this and now I have IBS as a result.
I think the best weight loss strategy is honestly a lifestyle change with an everything in moderation attitude. If you deny yourself something you're going to desperately want it. Either have a small bit, substitute it for something (for example, if you really like chocolate bars, try having a chocolate and nut cereal bar. It's not the same thing but it will satisfy the sweet craving and it is healthier) or cut down to once a day or tell yourself that you're only going to have it on weekends. (this works well with fizzy drinks and ice cream imo - nothing better than a Saturday night in with treats). It takes 21 days to break a habit so it really is going to be trial and error for what works for you.
Work with what you are as a person. Some people do not like breakfast, if you don't that's fine. Don't force it. I hate eating breakfast and I tried for ages to eat a healthy one at breakfast time. Now I normally have chocolate milkshake or nothing until around an hour and half later and then try some fruit or a cereal bar, or a healthy wrap. I still eat my healthy breakfast but I eat it as an evening snack. Still got the nutrition but not at the time where I hate it. If you force it you're just going to miserable. -also I find that if I eat breakfast 1. I'm hungrier throughout my day and 2. I can only have a few mouthfuls before I start to feel sick which is just pointless.
Don't look at the number on the scale, especially if you're weight lifting. I'm actually the heaviest I've ever been but I'm also the smallest and most toned. Measure inches if you want to but what's most important is how you feel (and to a degree how your clothes fit)
also on comfort eating, I can't remember the poster who said it but you absolutely can seek help for comfort eating. There's a reason that we eat for comfort and it's probably not your fault. Think about it, when you were a kid and you got an injection/went to hospital/had to have something done in the dentist, afterwards they give you a lollipop, or you'd be bought sweets etc. It's ingrained in you that food is a comfort. It comes with so much shame as well which is just so unhelpful. Remember that if you are comfort eating, then you do need the comfort so don't be nasty to yourself about it because you need it and that is the time you deserve the most love and care.
I'll be really honest about my own experiences with comfort eating. I ate McDonald's a lot (I'm talking almost every day, even if it was just some chips or whatever. I still struggle with this but it's a bit better now). Even at the worst of my anorexia I still ate McDonalds so, during a therapy session I went mental cause I'd had enough of feeling like I was addicted and having no control over it. We established that the reason I eat it so much is because when I was kid no one spent any time with me, food was just sort of thrown my way and it was always something that could just be chucked in the oven or the microwave. We never ate together. We didn't even own a dining table. I don't remember ever seeing my parents eat. They certainly never made healthy family meals.
After my parents split, once a week when my dad would pick me up from school and we'd go to McDonald's. It was the only time anyone ever sat with me and actually spent any time with me. It's really no wonder why it's such a comfort to me as an adult. Sounds airy-fairy but after I realised this, I really did just let it go and forgave myself for it. It's just what I need while I work on other things and it'll fall into place when I've sorted out the other stuff.
I didn't mean for this to be so long but it properly breaks my heart to see everyone on here beating themselves up. once again, don't want to sound like an airy fairy twat but please try and be kinder to yourselves and remember that you're not bad for eating food. There's no such thing as bad foods. There's just food with less value than other foods. Forgive yourself for not eating perfectly, it's okay. Just pick yourself up and try again for the next meal/snack
).It’s also given me a freedom around food that I never thought I could have- nothing is off limits.
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