Lucy Aeroplane
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Hi everyone, I’m another poster who’s ended up over here from the JM threads. Kept seeing what I thought were perfectly reasonable questions (about whether she’s been wearing a trans identity as another cloak from criticism) being deleted - even though they seemed like completely fair questions, in the context of someone who lies about or weaponises every aspect of their identity, including stuff I know for a fact is BS, namely her social class stuff. Mods kept telling posters to come over here if they wanted to discuss it, so eventually I did come and lurk on this thread for a bit.
I had no idea about a lot of the stuff that’s discussed here. I’ve always been a very “live and let live” sort of person (I’m diagnosed autistic and ADHD, so have been on the receiving end of plenty of bad judgmental takes myself in my lifetime, and therefore I don’t really bother judging other people).
My professional specialism hasn’t really been affected by a push on gender stuff so far, (although I do get a bit annoyed when the word gender is substituted for sex, when the data we need for what we do is sex). I’m a working single mum and am busy busy busy most of the time. I’m not big on social media and never really use my social media accounts - I prefer to unwind with TV, or music and books, instead of internet. Or at least I did, until one day I googled whether anyone else actually knew Jack Monroe was full of shit, and ended up on Tattle
I’ve never been into Harry Potter so never actually paid attention to what people were saying about JKR, like, I was aware there was some sort of controversy but just dismissed it as one of those sort of overblown internet furores that I can’t be bothered to waste energy on.
IRL I know a couple of transwomen who have always seemed like perfectly nice ordinary people, have had all the surgery and everything, and blend in rather than try to be the centre of attention. Both are over 50, one has a wife who stayed with her after she transitioned, the other one has an older male partner (not married, but they’re long-term and happy together). And that’s pretty much been the extent of my interaction with transgender people - so theres never been anything remarkable, and there’s certainly been nothing to make me question the concept.
So I’ve never really realised there was anything to be concerned about till recently. And being totally honest, if I’d had a strong position on trans stuff at all, I would probably have been on the “other” side, the side that thinks “terfs” are evil.
Anyway, I’ve been lurking here on and off around couple of months now I think, and there’s some gender/trans stuff posted on these threads that’s been frankly so unbelievable (sorry but it is!) that I’ve had to go and cross check it with other sources, and it turns out it’s actually all TRUE. And it also turns out there’s much worse stuff, too. Recently I’ve had a couple of weeks off work so have had more time to look into it all.
Detransitioners are totally breaking my heart, it’s so bad, how can any of that be ethical at all? And the whole Mermaids pweirdo stuff is just blowing my damn mind, seriously, a charity whose target audience is children has trustees who are p*edo apologists/enablers (at least) and amateur weird porn models (that collage of Darren Mew made me ), wtf, I just can’t get my head round how distanced from reality they must be to have thought that is okay. And I realise now that I’ve always taken for granted my right - and my kids’ rights - to single sex spaces for safety. And that’s now been taken away, but nobody checked whether it was okay with those of us who actually need single sex spaces.
So yeah now I am pretty concerned.
I’ll stop there for now because this is already verging on an essay, but I could go on for ages. But thanks for discussing this with references and links, I’ve really had my eyes opened. (And thanks to JM for bringing me here in the first place, I guess.)
I had no idea about a lot of the stuff that’s discussed here. I’ve always been a very “live and let live” sort of person (I’m diagnosed autistic and ADHD, so have been on the receiving end of plenty of bad judgmental takes myself in my lifetime, and therefore I don’t really bother judging other people).
My professional specialism hasn’t really been affected by a push on gender stuff so far, (although I do get a bit annoyed when the word gender is substituted for sex, when the data we need for what we do is sex). I’m a working single mum and am busy busy busy most of the time. I’m not big on social media and never really use my social media accounts - I prefer to unwind with TV, or music and books, instead of internet. Or at least I did, until one day I googled whether anyone else actually knew Jack Monroe was full of shit, and ended up on Tattle
I’ve never been into Harry Potter so never actually paid attention to what people were saying about JKR, like, I was aware there was some sort of controversy but just dismissed it as one of those sort of overblown internet furores that I can’t be bothered to waste energy on.
IRL I know a couple of transwomen who have always seemed like perfectly nice ordinary people, have had all the surgery and everything, and blend in rather than try to be the centre of attention. Both are over 50, one has a wife who stayed with her after she transitioned, the other one has an older male partner (not married, but they’re long-term and happy together). And that’s pretty much been the extent of my interaction with transgender people - so theres never been anything remarkable, and there’s certainly been nothing to make me question the concept.
So I’ve never really realised there was anything to be concerned about till recently. And being totally honest, if I’d had a strong position on trans stuff at all, I would probably have been on the “other” side, the side that thinks “terfs” are evil.
Anyway, I’ve been lurking here on and off around couple of months now I think, and there’s some gender/trans stuff posted on these threads that’s been frankly so unbelievable (sorry but it is!) that I’ve had to go and cross check it with other sources, and it turns out it’s actually all TRUE. And it also turns out there’s much worse stuff, too. Recently I’ve had a couple of weeks off work so have had more time to look into it all.
Detransitioners are totally breaking my heart, it’s so bad, how can any of that be ethical at all? And the whole Mermaids pweirdo stuff is just blowing my damn mind, seriously, a charity whose target audience is children has trustees who are p*edo apologists/enablers (at least) and amateur weird porn models (that collage of Darren Mew made me ), wtf, I just can’t get my head round how distanced from reality they must be to have thought that is okay. And I realise now that I’ve always taken for granted my right - and my kids’ rights - to single sex spaces for safety. And that’s now been taken away, but nobody checked whether it was okay with those of us who actually need single sex spaces.
So yeah now I am pretty concerned.
I’ll stop there for now because this is already verging on an essay, but I could go on for ages. But thanks for discussing this with references and links, I’ve really had my eyes opened. (And thanks to JM for bringing me here in the first place, I guess.)