Like Draco Malfoy in Harry Potter. He always said that his father would hear about this. Gabbie is like Draco; a self obsessed child who thinks they are better than everyone.
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Someone suggested on twitter that it can feel like a therapist is judging you sometimes but they’re not. Gabby of course replied to say she was being judged.
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My therapist always checks my ‘foundations’ whenever I see her and maybe it was something similar that triggered Gabby? For example, my foundations are:
‘am I eating well?’
‘am I sleeping well?’
‘am I exercising and moving?’
‘Are my relationships solid?’
if she had anything like that thrown at her I can see her getting offended at more than just one of those and probably gojng WHATS THAT GOT TO DO WITH ANYTHING
she’s watched too many tV shows where they lie on a chaise lounge and are asked ‘and how does that make you feel?’ But therapy isn’t like that at all. You have to do all the work.
‘am I eating well?’
‘am I sleeping well?’
‘am I exercising and moving?’
‘Are my relationships solid?’
if she had anything like that thrown at her I can see her getting offended at more than just one of those and probably gojng WHATS THAT GOT TO DO WITH ANYTHING
she’s watched too many tV shows where they lie on a chaise lounge and are asked ‘and how does that make you feel?’ But therapy isn’t like that at all. You have to do all the work.
it doesn't even surprise us does it? Gabs being offended. Look at her tweets? She goes off on people's kind suggestions?
The therapist maybe told her her first steps is to ''grow up" (not in these words) because she is an young adult and there you have it. The therapist was judgemental.
The therapist maybe told her her first steps is to ''grow up" (not in these words) because she is an young adult and there you have it. The therapist was judgemental.
“I know when I’m in the wrong” of course you do Gobbie
Her reply above is in response to someone saying that she shouldn’t say this as it could put other people off seeking help, who follow her and need it.
Someone has literally replied on Twitter tagging a friend saying “this is why I don’t want to see a therapist”.
Once again she has no consideration for her young, influential audience who she’s probably convincing now to never seek help from a therapist. So irresponsible!
Someone has literally replied on Twitter tagging a friend saying “this is why I don’t want to see a therapist”.
Once again she has no consideration for her young, influential audience who she’s probably convincing now to never seek help from a therapist. So irresponsible!
When I saw a therapist my anxiety was so bad that I usually had my mum sit in on GP appointments etc with me but the therapist insisted I had to do sessions alone - wonder if this is what her therapist said and she’s thrown her toys out the pram?
She’s probably just mad because she can’t block the therapist. Wonder if she will name and shame them. That’s what she normally does when people tell her home truths.
As someone who has been to counselling, the first session is getting to know you and what you want to get out of therapy. But the therapist can’t do the work for you. I remember my therapist saying to me you can’t expect things to change if you don’t change.
As someone who has been to counselling, the first session is getting to know you and what you want to get out of therapy. But the therapist can’t do the work for you. I remember my therapist saying to me you can’t expect things to change if you don’t change.
Going to get a bit personal here but I suffered with mental health issues really really badly about 5-6 years ago. I spent the best part of a year in a psychiatric unit because of it. And yeah maybe she is overreacting, but maybe her therapist was a complete witch. It’s possible. I’ve had my fair share. All under the NHS too so the first appointment only being an assessment isn’t necessarily true- it may be how things are supposed to be done but it’s definitely not how they are always done, and she may not be under the NHS either.
I met my first therapist when I was about 12. My dad was really unwell and I was isolating myself because I wasn’t coping well with it, so my school referred me and she was horrific. Not in just a ‘I feel uncomfortable talking about this’ kind of way because I wanted to talk about it, and I did to my teachers. But she was just nasty, rude, judgemental and I got upset so I ran out of the room crying my eyes out and my teacher actually put in a complaint on my behalf after I told her what happened. When questioned she admitted it all (I didn’t realise at the time but another teacher was in a separate room and could actually hear what was being said, so she couldn’t exactly deny it when another member of staff heard it). Looking back I would say it’s still the worst therapy experience I’ve ever had so if hers was anything like that, I get it. I really do and I feel bad for her. It put me off of going to therapy for years and I wish I hadn’t let it do that but it had taken a lot for me to accept the help and to have a bad experience ruined it for me.
Then I got a bit older and things got a bit more complicated and I was referred to a more specialised therapist. He was incredible. He changed my life to the point that it’s been about 5 years since I last saw him and I still consider reaching out to him to do some private therapy sessions because it was like WOW, finally someone gets it. It wasn’t easy. We basically spent 6 months in silence and he even wrote that in the card he gave me when I left therapy- it must have been torture for him trying to make conversation with me. Then one day it clicked. And I started talking and explained what was going on and then I went into hospital and he drove once or twice a week to see me in the hospital after work as he was worried that once I was discharged we’d be back at square one in building the patient-therapist relationship again. But that didn’t happen and I managed to work through issues that I never thought I’d overcome. I owe him my life and that is why despite my bad experiences, I would always recommend that people keep trying with therapists until you find one that you click with. You can’t expect it to happen instantly but I also know that you can tell instantly when you are NOT going to click with a therapist.
Whilst in hospital I also had to partake in the therapy that they offered, which I was fine with. I attended therapy with a guy from South Africa, he was harmless, I nodded and smiled and answered his questions and then left. I didn’t get much out of it but it gave me an easier life because they could tick the box on their to do list. It was something to pass the time and just nice to have a conversion with someone different for an hour a week I guess.
And then came my second awful experience. She ended up being banned from communicating with me because the way she handled a particular situation (in front of other patients and members of staff too). I don’t want to go into the details but it was horrible, I was a very quiet, shy and terrified person at the time and she was the complete opposite of what I needed in a therapist. Three nurses put in complaints against her because of how she treated me which is why she ended up being banned from any form of communication with me as she became detrimental to my recovery.
I had a couple of other experiences that weren’t too bad but they weren’t great either. And I’ve also had a really nice therapist since. I can’t say much helped me long term with the most recent one but it helped me cope with life at the time so it worth it.
I guess what I’m trying to get across is that therapists can have all the credentials and qualifications in the world but if they don’t have empathy and can’t adapt to the needs of each individual then it just isn’t enough. I’d hate to think that people looked at my situations and thought it was me that was the problem in those circumstances when in reality it was other people who had no obligation to be on ‘my side’ that stepped in and did something about it, because they knew it was the ‘professionals’ that were in the wrong.
I truly hope that she finds a therapist she can connect well with and that she doesn’t let this set her back or stop her from looking for a new one. But I do understand that you build yourself up and when it isn’t how you expect it to be it can be very upsetting and disheartening. There’s a lot I don’t like about Gabby from what I’ve seen of her online but my main concern is that somebody who has had a bad experience with a therapist will read this thread and think they are the problem rather than the therapist when in reality that may not be the case at all.
anyway sorry for rambling I won’t say anything else on the matter now. I just had to make sure anyone reading knows that they aren’t to blame or to feel guilty if they didn’t get on well with a therapist in the past
I met my first therapist when I was about 12. My dad was really unwell and I was isolating myself because I wasn’t coping well with it, so my school referred me and she was horrific. Not in just a ‘I feel uncomfortable talking about this’ kind of way because I wanted to talk about it, and I did to my teachers. But she was just nasty, rude, judgemental and I got upset so I ran out of the room crying my eyes out and my teacher actually put in a complaint on my behalf after I told her what happened. When questioned she admitted it all (I didn’t realise at the time but another teacher was in a separate room and could actually hear what was being said, so she couldn’t exactly deny it when another member of staff heard it). Looking back I would say it’s still the worst therapy experience I’ve ever had so if hers was anything like that, I get it. I really do and I feel bad for her. It put me off of going to therapy for years and I wish I hadn’t let it do that but it had taken a lot for me to accept the help and to have a bad experience ruined it for me.
Then I got a bit older and things got a bit more complicated and I was referred to a more specialised therapist. He was incredible. He changed my life to the point that it’s been about 5 years since I last saw him and I still consider reaching out to him to do some private therapy sessions because it was like WOW, finally someone gets it. It wasn’t easy. We basically spent 6 months in silence and he even wrote that in the card he gave me when I left therapy- it must have been torture for him trying to make conversation with me. Then one day it clicked. And I started talking and explained what was going on and then I went into hospital and he drove once or twice a week to see me in the hospital after work as he was worried that once I was discharged we’d be back at square one in building the patient-therapist relationship again. But that didn’t happen and I managed to work through issues that I never thought I’d overcome. I owe him my life and that is why despite my bad experiences, I would always recommend that people keep trying with therapists until you find one that you click with. You can’t expect it to happen instantly but I also know that you can tell instantly when you are NOT going to click with a therapist.
Whilst in hospital I also had to partake in the therapy that they offered, which I was fine with. I attended therapy with a guy from South Africa, he was harmless, I nodded and smiled and answered his questions and then left. I didn’t get much out of it but it gave me an easier life because they could tick the box on their to do list. It was something to pass the time and just nice to have a conversion with someone different for an hour a week I guess.
And then came my second awful experience. She ended up being banned from communicating with me because the way she handled a particular situation (in front of other patients and members of staff too). I don’t want to go into the details but it was horrible, I was a very quiet, shy and terrified person at the time and she was the complete opposite of what I needed in a therapist. Three nurses put in complaints against her because of how she treated me which is why she ended up being banned from any form of communication with me as she became detrimental to my recovery.
I had a couple of other experiences that weren’t too bad but they weren’t great either. And I’ve also had a really nice therapist since. I can’t say much helped me long term with the most recent one but it helped me cope with life at the time so it worth it.
I guess what I’m trying to get across is that therapists can have all the credentials and qualifications in the world but if they don’t have empathy and can’t adapt to the needs of each individual then it just isn’t enough. I’d hate to think that people looked at my situations and thought it was me that was the problem in those circumstances when in reality it was other people who had no obligation to be on ‘my side’ that stepped in and did something about it, because they knew it was the ‘professionals’ that were in the wrong.
I truly hope that she finds a therapist she can connect well with and that she doesn’t let this set her back or stop her from looking for a new one. But I do understand that you build yourself up and when it isn’t how you expect it to be it can be very upsetting and disheartening. There’s a lot I don’t like about Gabby from what I’ve seen of her online but my main concern is that somebody who has had a bad experience with a therapist will read this thread and think they are the problem rather than the therapist when in reality that may not be the case at all.
anyway sorry for rambling I won’t say anything else on the matter now. I just had to make sure anyone reading knows that they aren’t to blame or to feel guilty if they didn’t get on well with a therapist in the past
If she wants a therapist that will blow smoke up her arse, text her long lost friend Zoella and see her therapist because hers has done tit all
She’s been trying her hardest with her click bait titles, I particularly enjoy the painfully forced selfies for them all. My favourite shot is where she smiles creepily to herself in the mirror stroking her faceLiterally worst click bait known to man. Big news being some new flooring
I would be really upset if any of my children were friendless and I was their best friend. We are close, they can come to me with anything, I love the bones of them but it is my responsibility to display proper relationships and friendships to them and it is my responsibility to prepare them for adult life and more importantly to prepare them with the ability to function independently as an individual.
Gabby’s problem is she DOESN’T know when she is in the wrong.
Therapy shines a light on a lot of stuff. For a long time I didn’t know my self worth was rock bleeping bottom and it was hard to hear that, it was hard for me to realise that. Often realising something about yourself is more difficult than someone else suggesting it. But that shows progress.
If only she would stick it out through those difficult initial few sessions. I expect if she told the therapist she felt judged, the therapist may have asked why that’s important to Gabby.
Yes we don’t always gel with therapists, psychologists or health care professionals in general and that’s ok but giving up at the first hurdle is a set back she can ill afford.
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Knowing Gabby and how she's lied in the past, I wouldn't put it past her if there was no therapist at all and she's just concocted this story for the sake of it..
Knowing Gabby and how she's lied in the past, I wouldn't put it past her if there was no therapist at all and she's just concocted this story for the sake of it..
If Jane wasn’t in the vlogs I’d be getting a full Eleanor Oliphant is completely fine vibe.
She's always boasting how fast her hair grows and yet there's 3 years of dye in it
Loving these big stories, waiting for the dramatic reveal and then her hair looks exactly the same / still terrible.
Can’t wait for her to dye it light to only throw a brown box dye on it two weeks later and ruin it against
Can’t wait for her to dye it light to only throw a brown box dye on it two weeks later and ruin it against
Such a waste of money, we all know she'll be back dark within less than a month! just like when she goes auburn EVERY YEAR (which btw is my fave hair colour on her) and within weeks goes back dark brown
She is such a hypocrite. A little while ago she lambasted someone on Twitter for suggesting names have a gender - Gabby doesn't think they do...until today when she posted her top 3 girl names on Instagram. She basically just changes her mind and approach depending on what she perceives as cool and woke in that moment. Gah!
I thought this too!!
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