I do know what you mean.My anxiety feels through the roof at the moment due to a few things that have happened to me and the uncertainty of what’s going to happen next/in the future makes me feel so sick. Like I know there are so many coping mechanisms for anxiety but honestly speaking, when your anxiety is because of a specific situation and it can’t be easily resolved or is out of your control, how can any of these methods actually work?
I find it so hard to function when I am consumed by worry. I lose my appetite which makes me feel weak and faint, I can’t stop going to the toilet which is draining in itself and I just feel like my heart is racing and dry mouth. It’s a horrible feeling and you can’t switch off the thoughts in your head or even put them to the back of your mind.
I have the same reactions and it's horrendous to experience.
Things I do to cope that genuinely help me:
Do something. You are full of nervous anxious energy so use it to do something that you need to do that can be done mindlessly. Like a shower, or dishes, or any cleaning, or walking, moving around. You can't control everything but you can use your nervous energy productively.
Accept the feeling and don't try to fight it or get rid of it. Try to name what it is and the reason for it. Your body and brain are reacting in this way because they think it will protect you. So thank them for it and acknowledge the true and genuine concerns that you feel. You aren't wrong for feeling this way and you dont need to fight it or fix it. Sounds silly but this genuinely helps me to calm down.
Accept what is happening. Tell yourself you will deal with each event as it happens, to the best of your ability, one step at a time. And remind yourself you will get through it. Even if it is terrible, you will deal with it in the best way you can.
I am a terrible perfectionist and very hard on myself so this helps me to get a bit off perspective. You can make mistakes and you can fuck up and you can deal with it. And sometimes things are just monumentally shit and you need to breathe through it and accept that surviving it is what matters.