I’m going up from 225 mg but I guess I wanted more instant results haha. I’ve been on venlfaxine for a few years priorIt works for some, it was awful for me, and just if youre changing medications, come off that one very very slowly, its known for the withdrawals.
If it is working for you then thats a good thing
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Thank you. I hope everyone is doing as well as they can xx
Six weeks ago my grandpa passed away and today, my uncle has died suddenly, out of the blue. Only 70 years old. Im devestated 
I’m so sorry Amy, that’s so horrible. What a horrendous thing you’re going through. I’m sending you all my loveSix weeks ago my grandpa passed away and today, my uncle has died suddenly, out of the blue. Only 70 years old. Im devestated
I’m so sorry for your lossesSix weeks ago my grandpa passed away and today, my uncle has died suddenly, out of the blue. Only 70 years old. Im devestated
So very sorry for your loss xSix weeks ago my grandpa passed away and today, my uncle has died suddenly, out of the blue. Only 70 years old. Im devestated
May you find comfort in your loving memories 🤍Six weeks ago my grandpa passed away and today, my uncle has died suddenly, out of the blue. Only 70 years old. Im devestated
I'm so sorry. Grief so close together makes an already heartbreaking situation feel even heavier.Six weeks ago my grandpa passed away and today, my uncle has died suddenly, out of the blue. Only 70 years old. Im devestated
My grandad passed in June and less than 2 months later, my mama died too.
I try to take comfort in the fact that they are together but it still feels incredibly heavy. I'm sending you so much love. Cry it out. Hit something. Throw some weight around. Eat all the bad food. Do whatever you need to do to make it through the storm.
And be kind to yourself. Don't feel guilty if you laugh. Don't judge yourself if you dont feel you are grieving the "right way"
Do what you need to do when you need to do it.
I'm here if you need to vent
Thank you everyone for the lovely words of support
That’s horrendous I am so sorry for your losses, I can’t imagine the pain you’re feeling losing your mamaI'm so sorry. Grief so close together makes an already heartbreaking situation feel even heavier.
My grandad passed in June and less than 2 months later, my mama died too.
I try to take comfort in the fact that they are together but it still feels incredibly heavy. I'm sending you so much love. Cry it out. Hit something. Throw some weight around. Eat all the bad food. Do whatever you need to do to make it through the storm.
And be kind to yourself. Don't feel guilty if you laugh. Don't judge yourself if you dont feel you are grieving the "right way"
Do what you need to do when you need to do it.
I'm here if you need to vent
Honestly I'm at the point where if I didnt laugh or try to make the best of it, I wouldnt get out of bedThat’s horrendous I am so sorry for your losses, I can’t imagine the pain you’re feeling losing your mama
It's hard though. Like her funeral song came on today, sometimes i can listen to it but today I just cried.
I also find it quite difficult at work. They were my grandparents but I feel like work policies and bereavement support at work just expects everything to be tied up in a nice little bow with it being grandparents and I dont feel like I could take a day off to just have a day. I would feel guilty for needing a griefy day.
it’s 17 years today since my mum died and i still can’t listen to her funeral song on some days. you just become comfortable with the grief. if you need time off, take it. don’t feel guilty. there’s no right or wrong way to handle it, it’s not black and whiteHonestly I'm at the point where if I didnt laugh or try to make the best of it, I wouldnt get out of bed
It's hard though. Like her funeral song came on today, sometimes i can listen to it but today I just cried.
I also find it quite difficult at work. They were my grandparents but I feel like work policies and bereavement support at work just expects everything to be tied up in a nice little bow with it being grandparents and I dont feel like I could take a day off to just have a day. I would feel guilty for needing a griefy day.
Hi everyone, I hope this is okay to share! I'm having a rough time in my marriage at the moment, long story short my husband drinks quite a lot (in my opinion) and it's been a point of contention between us for a while (years). He has sometimes stopped drinking but it sneaks back it or he cuts down and it slowly increases again. In the past year or so he has lied to my face about it several times. I'm now at a point where it's less about the drinking and more about the fact that he has lied directly to me about it, and I'm quite unhappy in the marriage. I brought this up today with him and he's said he doesn't think he has a problem and that he feels like I've backed him into a corner of either he stops or we break up, and we're kind of at an impasse. I don't want to get divorced but I'm feeling like I will fall out of love with him eventually. Has anyone used couples counselling before? I don't know what else to do.
Im sorry that you are going through this. My boyfriend was a heavy drinker and unfortunately he passed away from alcohol abuse. My biggest regret was not kicking him out sooner. He was lovely sober but he would lie to me about how much he was drinking etc and then when I tried to get him help he would refuse. He was a really mean drunk too. I fell out off love with him eventually and I feel bad even saying that. We never tried counselling only because he refused. My advice to you is try speak to him again, really explain what impact this is having on you and your relationship, explain to him that if he doesn't want to try fix things and admit to his problems it will only get worse. Don't do anything too hasty but for me personally my boyfriend needed a wake up call and I never did that. Just make sure you are looking after yourself too, I know how hard it can be.
You can go to couples counselling in your own - helps you understand what you need in the relationship and whether it’s worth fighting for.
I go to counselling now, just to help with his death etc and it has really helped. I cared a lot about him and that's why I stayed.
Sick of this bull , sick of being a human punching bag , I Miss Me Mam
I lost my mum last year unexpectedly and when she died, so did any joy I had in life and it seemingly hasn’t come back. I think I’m stuck in the guilt phase of grieving but instead of being guilt directed towards my mum and what we could have done differently (I don’t honestly think anything else could have been done or changed), my guilt surrounds things I’ve done as a kid. I’m really struggling with ruminating thoughts and also access to therapy which in my region seems near on impossible. I have tried quite a few times to access help but whenever I do, the person doing the assessment decides that they think it’s specific grief therapy I need and I’m directed to the usual, massively under resourced charities like Cruse or Sue Ryder.
My memory is also absolutely shot from around the time that my mum passed away and it’s like my body is stopping me from trying to remember what happened and when. A friend told me she’d lost loads of weight and I said “I haven’t seen you in a couple years so I probably didn’t see you at your highest” (not a witchy comment, she’d mentioned that time as being her highest) and she said “no I saw you last year” and I’d just completely forgotten that she was at my mum’s funeral. I’m not sure if this is my body’s way of protecting me and redirecting me to other, less painful things to feel guilty about? But it’s driving me insane
My memory is also absolutely shot from around the time that my mum passed away and it’s like my body is stopping me from trying to remember what happened and when. A friend told me she’d lost loads of weight and I said “I haven’t seen you in a couple years so I probably didn’t see you at your highest” (not a witchy comment, she’d mentioned that time as being her highest) and she said “no I saw you last year” and I’d just completely forgotten that she was at my mum’s funeral. I’m not sure if this is my body’s way of protecting me and redirecting me to other, less painful things to feel guilty about? But it’s driving me insane
I don’t know if this is the right place to post but this thread has kept me going on some of my darkest days. It’s coming to a year since my mum passed away and I’ve just realised that I don’t want to have any contact with any “family”. I know everyone can grieve however they need to but i feel like I’m the only one that remembers her. Everybody else is going through her things, decorating her house. I just don’t want any part of anything anymore. I don’t know if this is grief or my actual feelings?
i just wanted to say to all of us who have sadly lost a parent, we’re in it together. you’re not alone. the way you grieve is valid. the way you feel is valid. take it from someone who has 17 years of experience, it does get easier, i promise. it doesn’t go away but it does get easier. hang in there all of you