Has anyone here struggled or struggles with OCD? I'm trying to get help via GP but the meds I'm on aren't working and they just want to keep upping the dose despite them causing me some not so nice side effects. I'm on a wait list for CBT but not sure how long it'll take to be seen. Can't afford private. Free counselling via work can't help me as they can't provide ocd focused counselling. I feel really out of control and struggling so much being out of the house.
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This is a good starting point; helps understand what to expect.
Caught that horrible cold going around and I’m so exhausted and keep coughing loads. Feel so run down. And it’s making me feel mentally low as well. So many things I want to do and I feel so useless at the moment. I have M.E so this cold will knock me for six. Only can manage a few hours awake downstairs then I have to go up to bed to rest.
Poor mental health is wild because one minute you’re fine, looking forward to things, being positive and the next you’re thinking ‘I actually wouldn’t mind if I didn’t wake up tomorrow, in fact it would be a blessing.’
So exhausting!
So exhausting!
i’m really feeling this right now too
Oh my goodness. I could have written this myself, word for word. Thank you.
The past few days I've been deep in rumination over something that happened 15 years ago, and I've felt lower than I've felt in a long time. I so badly want go back in time to change things / "fix" my mistakes / do things differently. I'm tortured by "what if"s and how different my life could be if I'd made different choices, the different experiences I could have had and what I missed out on. I feel like I'm grieving, for versions of my life that didn’t happen.
Everyone says happiness is in the present, but when the present feels flat and the past feels brighter, it’s so hard not to live in memories and daydreams instead. I miss those better times and I feel that I've already had the best years of my life.
What do you want to do Ray?sorry me again but i think i’ve genuinely ruined christmas. my partner’s fuming that i told my dad we’d go to him. he wants it to just be us and our toddler and i genuinely feel like i’ll never get a full family christmas again. i can’t ever get it right
it never matters what i want, no one ever asks… it’s always what everyone else wants.
i want christmasses like when i was a child. i want to not be so scared of upsetting people!
I know it’s not someone you know but I’m asking sweetheart
. What Christmas would you like? One with your husband and child or one with your father included?thankyouI know it’s not someone you know but I’m asking sweetheart
i want us all to be together without any arguments about it! i want our son to have christmases with his grandad while he can because he’s his only grandparentI’d share that with your partner and say this is what you want for Christmas this year and it means a lot for you. And maybe next year it can just be the two of you and your child. Alternate the years or have something where you guys celebrate Christmas alone but go to your father’s on Boxing Day.thankyou
I’ve never noticed this thread before but I’ve just come onto Tattle for the first time in ages and it’s the first one I saw, so I feel it’s a sign to just get something off my chest…
I’m really very unhappy at the moment but I have no reason to feel like this. I have 2 young lovely children but instead of enjoying them and making the most of the present, I just keep thinking how they’re growing up so quickly and soon enough they won’t want/need me anymore and that breaks my heart. I’ve been with my partner for a long time but we’re not particularly close anymore and I feel very resentful towards him because he does the bare minimum in terms of housework, mental load etc (and when I’ve pointed this out he tells me to ‘stop feeling sorry for myself’ which obviously angers me no end, leading to arguments). I have a stable, fairly flexible and well paid job but I don’t really enjoy it, it’s just a necessity to pay the bills and give my children the best experiences I can afford. Nothing excites me anymore and I just can’t imagine this changing - like, this is my life now, this is as good as it gets.
I’ve never really felt like this before, even when going through stressful and upsetting life events (death of a parent, terminal illness in family etc) but I’m wondering whether it could be depression? Or hormonal/perimenopause related as I’m in my late 30s?
I think this is all rhetorical and me just expressing my inner thoughts because I haven’t spoken to anyone about it, but if you’ve read this far then thank you for taking the time to read my ramblings.
I hope everyone else who is having a tough time finds some comfort in sharing their thoughts and seeing they’re not alone 🤍
I’m really very unhappy at the moment but I have no reason to feel like this. I have 2 young lovely children but instead of enjoying them and making the most of the present, I just keep thinking how they’re growing up so quickly and soon enough they won’t want/need me anymore and that breaks my heart. I’ve been with my partner for a long time but we’re not particularly close anymore and I feel very resentful towards him because he does the bare minimum in terms of housework, mental load etc (and when I’ve pointed this out he tells me to ‘stop feeling sorry for myself’ which obviously angers me no end, leading to arguments). I have a stable, fairly flexible and well paid job but I don’t really enjoy it, it’s just a necessity to pay the bills and give my children the best experiences I can afford. Nothing excites me anymore and I just can’t imagine this changing - like, this is my life now, this is as good as it gets.
I’ve never really felt like this before, even when going through stressful and upsetting life events (death of a parent, terminal illness in family etc) but I’m wondering whether it could be depression? Or hormonal/perimenopause related as I’m in my late 30s?
I think this is all rhetorical and me just expressing my inner thoughts because I haven’t spoken to anyone about it, but if you’ve read this far then thank you for taking the time to read my ramblings.
I hope everyone else who is having a tough time finds some comfort in sharing their thoughts and seeing they’re not alone 🤍
If it helps in the slightest, I'm over 40 and I still need my mum. I also feel the same as you about my job and nothing exciting me right now so I empathise. Please be kind to yourself. Depression and perimenopause are both hideous and winter darkness doesn't help.
Thank you, that does actually help
You’re right, I definitely don’t think the darkness and being stuck inside helps - maybe we’ll feel there’s more to look forward to when the sun comes back!
The nights get shorter from now on, so we need to hang in thereThank you, that does actually help
You’re right, I definitely don’t think the darkness and being stuck inside helps - maybe we’ll feel there’s more to look forward to when the sun comes back!
i can’t bring myself to even bring it up. i keep thinking about what a bad reaction he’ll have and i don’t want the argument. i bloody hate this time of year
If you can’t bring it up this year then I really suggest bringing it up next year, earlier on. If you’re that worried about his reaction maybe that’s something else you need to think about. A loving partner wouldn’t have a terribly bad reaction to their loved one wanting to find a solution for Christmas Day.i can’t bring myself to even bring it up. i keep thinking about what a bad reaction he’ll have and i don’t want the argument. i bloody hate this time of year
well now to make matters more complicated toddler has an ear infection and is on antibiotics (went to doctors yesterday) and my dad is still pressuring us to go!
If your child is ill then the best place for them is at home resting.