For anybody struggling ❤️ #2

[neroli]

Best to stick to realistic thoughts and not get sucked into the "positive thoughts" cure for all evils..

Platitudes and stale mantras have a very limited effect and are patronising and predictable. Life events and circumstances make us feel low and depressed and no meds can alter that fact.

Concentrate on getting through the next hour and cut the expectations which just exhaust and deplete precious energy.

 

[Rocket Queen]

My mum has hours to live. I'm not sure how I'll cope when she's gone

Thoughts are with you. I’m so sorry and I hope you are as ok as you possibly can be. Sending you love. X

 

[CrazyGiraffeLady]

My mum has hours to live. I'm not sure how I'll cope when she's gone

I’m so sorry. Please be kind to yourself

 

[charlied0106]

Thank you, you're all so kind she died on Thursday morning and I'm just so sad, but so angry too. It shouldn't have happened. I truly believe the hospital were negligent. I'm pretty much on my own now, my sister died last year, and my step dad has his daughter (my step sister), my mum was all I had really. No partner, no kids. I feel very alone in the world.

I've registered her death and now need to start organising her funeral, but I feel out of my depth. I've never experienced heartbreak like this and I genuinely don't know how to just carry on. It's so hard.

 

[Rocket Queen]

Thank you, you're all so kind she died on Thursday morning and I'm just so sad, but so angry too. It shouldn't have happened. I truly believe the hospital were negligent. I'm pretty much on my own now, my sister died last year, and my step dad has his daughter (my step sister), my mum was all I had really. No partner, no kids. I feel very alone in the world.

I've registered her death and now need to start organising her funeral, but I feel out of my depth. I've never experienced heartbreak like this and I genuinely don't know how to just carry on. It's so hard.

It’s pure heartbreak isn’t it. The pain of losing my Mum was indescribable. Sounds like you’ve had it really rough. One step at a time, one minute at a time. Sending you all the hugs xx

 

[Phil Anne Throw Pee]

Thank you, you're all so kind she died on Thursday morning and I'm just so sad, but so angry too. It shouldn't have happened. I truly believe the hospital were negligent. I'm pretty much on my own now, my sister died last year, and my step dad has his daughter (my step sister), my mum was all I had really. No partner, no kids. I feel very alone in the world.

I've registered her death and now need to start organising her funeral, but I feel out of my depth. I've never experienced heartbreak like this and I genuinely don't know how to just carry on. It's so hard.

Sending you lots of love. Take good care of yourself xxx

 

[CrazyGiraffeLady]

Thank you, you're all so kind she died on Thursday morning and I'm just so sad, but so angry too. It shouldn't have happened. I truly believe the hospital were negligent. I'm pretty much on my own now, my sister died last year, and my step dad has his daughter (my step sister), my mum was all I had really. No partner, no kids. I feel very alone in the world.

I've registered her death and now need to start organising her funeral, but I feel out of my depth. I've never experienced heartbreak like this and I genuinely don't know how to just carry on. It's so hard.

There is no pain like this but somebody on here gave me the advice of taking things a minute at a time, then an hour and eventually a day at a time. Funeral directors will help you to prepare the funeral. I’m so so sorry for your loss

 

[Tinkerbell cat]

I'm sorry if this is the wrong thread to post on so please delete it if it is.
I know by some of the posts that my problems are so insignificant, sending love to those who need it


I just feel so overwhelmed right now, I feel like my head is just the worst place to be and I feel like I'm creating scenarios that aren't true and then letting those made-up scenarios control how I'm thinking and feeling.

For example... Lately, I feel like one of my friends doesn't really want to be friends with me and it seems she puts little effort into the friendship, its always me reaching out, clapping for her, etc and I don't get the same energy back. I think I notice it more because I see her be better friends to other mutual friends although this could just be what I want to see and not really the case, as in me just reading too much into it. I know this all seems very childish in the grand scheme of things but I can't help how it's made me feel. It could potentially be all in my head because I know I'm anxious and overthink but I just feel down about it all and its affecting me. How do I get out of this unhealthy mindset I seem to have found myself in? I'm getting married soon and she is one of my bridesmaids but even trying to look forward to that feels like I can't because of this weird distance between us which again might be solely on my part but then she isn't trying with me either. I feel like deep down I know people have their own lives and stuff going on, people are busy and my thoughts aren't facts but my head just feels so heavy.
I think I've always struggled with my insecurities, feeling like a bit of a loner, like I'm a bit weird because I'm a bit of an introvert and because I think and feel deeply. I've struggled with my mental health for years and I just really don't want to sink into being in a dark place like that again.

I guess I just wanted to post this and see if anyone else has felt like this before, like their head is just never done thinking, creating false scenarios, etc and what is the best way to deal with the overthinking. I guess I just need to repeat the manta, thoughts are not facts. Hateful feeling though

 

[Caramel Latte]

Hormones with long work hours (and having an exhausting work colleague) have ducked me up a little these past days. Also my husband is abroad on a work trip and i miss him terribly.
Every month before my period i feel like quitting but i get back to normal after, even appreciate having a job. Actually i feel so helpless with my mood swings and they're not that serious that i need a medication but i don't have a method to beat them.

 

[Jadejones9596]

I hate how my life has turned out

It just never gets better, I don’t think I want to be here anymore, I no longer care about anything

 

[mee43]

I hate how my life has turned out

It just never gets better, I don’t think I want to be here anymore, I no longer care about anything

That’s such a horrible feeling.
I don’t want to say anything trivial and meaningless but i just wanted to acknowledge your post.
Take care

 

[Silverback]

I hate how my life has turned out

It just never gets better, I don’t think I want to be here anymore, I no longer care about anything

Hang in there. I was in some really dark places years ago but I’m in a good place now with my own family. Never would have thought that would happen. Wanted to share that in the hope that it encourages you to hang on. Keep talking to us on here if it helps xx

 

[or JusRollWithIt]

I hate how my life has turned out

It just never gets better, I don’t think I want to be here anymore, I no longer care about anything

One of the hardest things in my life has been accepting things, things I did not want or plan for and in fact planned against, so to speak, and failed. Acceptance was hard. Accepting realities I didn’t want and didn’t always have control over. And sometimes I slip back to fighting acceptance. But coming back to acceptance is the only thing I’ve found to move past that horrible feeling you describe. Please share here if it helps.

 

[qqwertyy]

Does anyone else struggle with change, even though it’s nothing major? A few things have happened recently, one of my friends is in a new relationship, another is moving away, and even ridiculous minor stuff like a podcast I like is ending, a coffee shop I like is closing and one of the concierges in my building has left. It makes me so unsettled and I don’t know why, because none of it has any impact on my life but it really seems to affect me.

 

[HankMcPrank]

Fed up, like genuinely fed up. My poor son has been waiting 11 weeks for an operation, its scheduled for thursday morning, he has come down with a cold. Im gutted for him, he is 15, he has autism and a CVL line as he had cancer treatment.

 

[Silverback]

Fed up, like genuinely fed up. My poor son has been waiting 11 weeks for an operation, its scheduled for thursday morning, he has come down with a cold. Im gutted for him, he is 15, he has autism and a CVL line as he had cancer treatment.

Oh you poor things, what a rough ride you’ve had. Hoping that things get smoother and easier from here x

 

[PillowsofFluff]

Not really sure if this is the right thread, but I don't really have anywhere else to get my feelings out.
I came downstairs from doing bedtime with my 5 year old and went to give my partner a hug, he'd been sorting dinner while I did bedtime and I'd been a bit snappy with him for being late home from work and I was trying to apologise and show him I care.
He was a bit distant and didn't accept my hug, so I asked him what was wrong. Over and over he insisted nothing was wrong but I could tell by his whole vibe something was off. Eventually he basically says that he thinks he doesn't want to be with me any more?
He's gone off out for a drive to sort his head out and I've just basically been left sitting here sobbing, thinking after 11 years and a child together, how has this happened?
Things have been hard in the last 18 months, his mum died, we went a long time without sex, I pushed him away emotionally and yeah it hasn't been great. But I thought we were getting back on track, the sex has picked back up and we make each other laugh all the time.
I just feel completely blindsided. I have no one to talk to as I have no friends and my mum lives an hour away. I just keep thinking of my daughter and how this will break her heart.

 

[Silverback]

Not really sure if this is the right thread, but I don't really have anywhere else to get my feelings out.
I came downstairs from doing bedtime with my 5 year old and went to give my partner a hug, he'd been sorting dinner while I did bedtime and I'd been a bit snappy with him for being late home from work and I was trying to apologise and show him I care.
He was a bit distant and didn't accept my hug, so I asked him what was wrong. Over and over he insisted nothing was wrong but I could tell by his whole vibe something was off. Eventually he basically says that he thinks he doesn't want to be with me any more?
He's gone off out for a drive to sort his head out and I've just basically been left sitting here sobbing, thinking after 11 years and a child together, how has this happened?
Things have been hard in the last 18 months, his mum died, we went a long time without sex, I pushed him away emotionally and yeah it hasn't been great. But I thought we were getting back on track, the sex has picked back up and we make each other laugh all the time.
I just feel completely blindsided. I have no one to talk to as I have no friends and my mum lives an hour away. I just keep thinking of my daughter and how this will break her heart.

I’m so sorry. How are things now? Sometimes big blow up arguments can happen but then things settle down again x

 

[PillowsofFluff]

I’m so sorry. How are things now? Sometimes big blow up arguments can happen but then things settle down again x

He isn't back yet. It sounds awful, but I wish we'd had a big blow up, because then it might make sense? He just seemed so... resigned. Like he didn't want to fight for us anymore. And I think that's the hardest thing

 

[Silverback]

He isn't back yet. It sounds awful, but I wish we'd had a big blow up, because then it might make sense? He just seemed so... resigned. Like he didn't want to fight for us anymore. And I think that's the hardest thing

Oh that’s so horrible. Has anything happened since last night?