Refreshed page a lot - don’t worry I will use my ‘initiative‘ and go to PMs and have a look. XxArghhh ... refresh/reload your page and the tag should be there, the thread is called PMs!
If you have no luck, maybe I can quote the post here, but I don’t know if that’s allowed and I don’t want to accidentally break any rules?
@Oops... if you search for the PMs thread typed exactly like that, you should land on the page you are looking for - the thread only has two posts on it, Helen’s and mine.Refreshed page a lot - don’t worry I will use my ‘initiative‘ and go to PMs and have a look. Xx
I couldn't find it eitherOoh, while I think of it @Oops... I’m going to tag you in a post that explains why the Private Message function has disappeared.
I think I was in hospital when I first came across it, but I couldn’t remember where to find it ... then Helen replied to my delete button query et voila, there it was.
The thread is called PMs and Helen addresses in great detail why the decision to disable PMs was made - it was actually very serious business.
SO KEEP AN EYE ON YOUR NOTIFICATIONS!
Edit: If anybody else is curious and wants to be tagged in this particular post, please let me know because it’s surprisingly difficult to find.
I couldn't find it either
I am on mobile. Go to the thread, Click on web address, then copy. Then go to the thread you want to post, long touch in the post box and it offers to paste it. Then write your post. I prefer to check it in the preview to see if I pasted the right address.Okay, @Rubythefirebat, how did you do that?
Thank you, @Rubythefirebat, that was really helpful!
Thank you, You da Man!! - I bow down to you
Oh, I’m sorry. So very hard to know. Is he willing himself to create distance in order for force you away? I haven’t a damn clue. All I will say to you is what I have learned - men are 20% testosterone and 80% pride. Give him space.
I can hear how difficult this must be for you. I really hope it doesn’t overwhelm you too much. Things can change in a heartbeat can’t they? There’s a book called the I Ching which can be very useful to help give you advice and hope at the same time. I would recommend an English translation as the old Chinese translations can be difficult for us to understand. It is a book of ancient wisdom. It might help you to look into that right now. You throw coins and they create a hexagram and the hexagram answer is likely to be specific to what you need. I will try and find mine (have fairly extensive bookcases to go through first). I will put the book up here for you to see and I hope it helps you. In the meantime ,,,breathe...IT WILL ALL BE OK
I’ve been looking forward to hearing more all day. I am sure she will tell us more about it soon.Thanks, @Oops!
Had to give daughter a lift so ended up ending v abruptly there - what I meant was, why don’t you give eachother one month? He needs it as much as you - this is not a situation to decide right now, for both of your sakes, honestly. And the other thing I would add is there is no right or wrong in love - if that were true, we would have all been easily steered in the right direction. Lots love - it’s v toughThank you, You da Man!! - I bow down to you
Oh, I’m sorry. So very hard to know. Is he willing himself to create distance in order for force you away? I haven’t a damn clue. All I will say to you is what I have learned - men are 20% testosterone and 80% pride. Give him space.
You’re the best. Yes, he was a wonderful man in every way. Your mum sounds pretty phenomenal too. I can see where you get your energy, @ Oops. So positive in every way.I can hear how difficult this must be for you. I really hope it doesn’t overwhelm you too much. Things can change in a heartbeat can’t they? There’s a book called the I Ching which can be very useful to help give you advice and hope at the same time. I would recommend an English translation as the old Chinese translations can be difficult for us to understand. It is a book of ancient wisdom. It might help you to look into that right now. You throw coins and they create a hexagram and the hexagram answer is likely to be specific to what you need. I will try and find mine (have fairly extensive bookcases to go through first). I will put the book up here for you to see and I hope it helps you. In the meantime ,,,breathe...IT WILL ALL BE OK
I’ve been looking forward to hearing more all day. I am sure she will tell us more about it soon.
Yes, you said about him being good at Art. I have a warm picture in my mind of your dear father from what you have said about him. I like drawing (as you can tell from my spell-binding efforts higher up) but definitely better at collecting it rather than actually doing the hard bit. That’s for sure.
How wonderful to know there are people who you have never had the honour to meet can provide so much warmth and comfort. Absolutely needed these words from you two. I’ll try and find the book you recommended. Thank you xxxxThank you ladies @Oops... and @Milking Keynes
Yes, I had already decided to give each other space for a little while, I had told myself that if he wants to come and see Casper and spend some time over mine I wouldn’t stop him. He absolutely dots on him. Also, to give myself some reflection time till may be end of the year. Thank you for gentle but meaningful encouragement. So so touched and grateful X
Nothing but faith in you going forward - you have a lovely heart - it’s obvious.Thank you ladies @Oops... and @Milking Keynes
Yes, I had already decided to give each other space for a little while, I had told myself that if he wants to come and see Casper and spend some time over mine I wouldn’t stop him. He absolutely dots on him. Also, to give myself some reflection time till may be end of the year. Thank you for gentle but meaningful encouragement. So so touched and grateful X
This - thank you - so very kind - xx
I didn't mean it to sound harsh. I was trying to be helpful from a Feng Shui perspective.
Of course. This is a gentle thread and as such unlikely to draw mean spiritedness, which is why I explained our current situation and why at times it may appear to others that we might go off topic. I may have jerked my knee when I reacted to your post since @Milking Keynes and her dear daughter are important to me
. I was wondering if you have used the I Ching? I started with the Whilhelm edition and found it harder to understand and was so grateful when more Western translations became available. It once told me I was using it too much - the memory of that always makes me smile. It‘s a fascinating, eccentric oracle and a book you can have multi-faceted conversations with. 
