Does anyone else feel the same as me?
I work really hard. I offer to do extra work. I constantly feel the need to prove myself at work (by taking extra work on). I agonise over emails as I’m worried how I will come across. I want to please everyone at work. I take it really personally if someone gives me feed back that they are not happy for some reason (I work in HR, so this is often, and I am often delivering bad news). I really really care what people think of me. I want to be good at my job (I hope I am). I really want to be liked and popular above anything. I want to make people happy. I get feedback that I am doing well at work. I like my colleagues.
But I feel like I am constantly waiting for a tap on the shoulder and someone telling me I’ve cocked up and I’m sacked. Or I’ve made a massive mistake and I’m sacked. I lay awake at night worrying about my emails and I hold my breath when I log on every single morning as I am convinced there will be a horrible email waiting for me. My rational side knows I am doing OK but my confidence is at rock bottom. I know this is holding me back and is starting to affect my personal life. Does anyone feel the same and get the same feelings, if so how do you manage this? How normal is this?
I work really hard. I offer to do extra work. I constantly feel the need to prove myself at work (by taking extra work on). I agonise over emails as I’m worried how I will come across. I want to please everyone at work. I take it really personally if someone gives me feed back that they are not happy for some reason (I work in HR, so this is often, and I am often delivering bad news). I really really care what people think of me. I want to be good at my job (I hope I am). I really want to be liked and popular above anything. I want to make people happy. I get feedback that I am doing well at work. I like my colleagues.
But I feel like I am constantly waiting for a tap on the shoulder and someone telling me I’ve cocked up and I’m sacked. Or I’ve made a massive mistake and I’m sacked. I lay awake at night worrying about my emails and I hold my breath when I log on every single morning as I am convinced there will be a horrible email waiting for me. My rational side knows I am doing OK but my confidence is at rock bottom. I know this is holding me back and is starting to affect my personal life. Does anyone feel the same and get the same feelings, if so how do you manage this? How normal is this?