Feathering the empty nest.

[Mumof3]

I wonder if it’s difficult living next door to a neighbour who has objected to your planning application. Maybe not considering he wasn’t told in advance.

 

[Nellyboy]

I wonder if it’s difficult living next door to a neighbour who has objected to your planning application. Maybe not considering he wasn’t told in advance.

I’m glad the neighbour put in an objection to it if he had valid reasons. People like Eleanor are used to getting their own way and it’s nice that someone has stood up to her and Nico. They are very me, me, me imo.

 

[Be More Pacific]

It's behind the shed looks like a 2 story structure with a covered window

I think it's just the fence and house behinds he shed. It's clearer here....

 

[MrsHater]

That kitchen is so meh. It just looked like a slightly classier version of Mrs Hinches full grey home imo

 

[Sweetholls]

I absolutely love her kitchen to be fair that’s the only reason I followed her in first place, I love the muted tones style; everyone’s taste is different

 

[Nellyboy]

Not a lot for 100k imo.

 

[Sweetholls]

Not a lot for 100k imo.

oh no not at all worth that you could buy a house for that

 

[Rue Git Le Couer]

I interpreted it as the bump is (or was) her literal bump being pregnant again, isn’t the book about pregnancy after loss? Might be wrong though.

These stories of her being fool are really saddening, I’ve followed her for ages and shared her blog & book with friends who went through similar. Feel a bit duped.

Yeh, I get the double entendre with “bump”; I just don’t think it works as a title. I’m just being picky, but I think I would have used a title that was a bit more meaningful

 

[Pomegranate]

I don’t know to me these Instagram kitchens all look the same and are pretty uninspiring. I find those two kitchens pretty identical.

 

[Nellyboy]

I don’t know to me these Instagram kitchens all look the same and are pretty uninspiring. I find those two kitchens pretty identical.

Who copied who lol , no originality. Can’t stand RVK or Eleanor . Both rude and thinks their don’t stink

 

[Trickywoo]

I don’t know to me these Instagram kitchens all look the same and are pretty uninspiring. I find those two kitchens pretty identical.

Definitely boring ! Yawwwwwwn

 

[Sal288]

What are all the Instagrammers going to do when panelling is no longer fashionable?

 

[No_f_in_clue]

oh no not at all worth that you could buy a house for that

I think (and only think, I don't know for sure so happy to be corrected) that the 100k extension also included converting the roof space, not just the kitchen

 

[Trickywoo]

What are all the Instagrammers going to do when panelling is no longer fashionable?

Ohhh honestly......there's one in a New Build putting paneling all over the house, plus coving and goodness knows what. Haven't they heard the saying - can't polish a curd! (not that there's anything at all wrong with New Builds - just don't try and make them look like a Georgian property).

Who copied who lol , no originality. Can’t stand RVK or Eleanor . Both rude and thinks their don’t stink

Can't stand either of them.

 

[Be More Pacific]

I think (and only think, I don't know for sure so happy to be corrected) that the 100k extension also included converting the roof space, not just the kitchen

That's not what she said on here. £100,000+ for the kitchen alone.

I don't think she's had the loft done has she? I don't know where this has come from but I've never seen her mention it

Wouldn't surprise me though. The nursery is tiny, as they created that bedroom, and they obviously need to keep the second bedroom for when her mum stays all the time!

 

[No_f_in_clue]

That's not what she said on here. £100,000+ for the kitchen alone.

I don't think she's had the loft done has she? I don't know where this has come from but I've never seen her mention it

Wouldn't surprise me though. The nursery is tiny, as they created that bedroom, and they obviously need to keep the second bedroom for when her mum stays all the time!

I've not seen what she's said on here. The planning application for the kitchen extension included converting the roof space though

 

[Be More Pacific]

I've not seen what she's said on here. The planning application for the kitchen extension included converting the roof space though

Oh, I see. I've not seen the planning application. If they have had it (the loft) done, they have kept it very quiet as I've not seen or heard it mentioned at all except on here.

 

[Allthatglitters666]

100k for extension, knock through, roof lantern and expensive kitchen sounds about right to me where she lives . I really like the style although I'm not sure on the panelling phase

 

[Sunshine&clouds]

Reading the synopsis for her next book. I think it’s more about, the Journey from loss, to trying again, with ivf treatment etc rather than pregnancy with O. Probably another book to write on that topic.


Synopsis

'It turns out there are plenty of us: the unlucky ones. The women whose journey into motherhood, or whose yearning for more children, has yet to be fulfilled by the universe. I am certain that in so many parts of my story I really am not the only one to have gone through it, so it makes sense to write it all down. For all of us - and for any parents who might go through some of what we did in the future too. So here it is, our journey to a rainbow. A story of fertility, trying again and, above all, hope.' After the death of her three-day-old son Teddy in 2016, Elle Wright never expected what came next - that the path to bringing home a living child could be so winding. Elle's loss was followed by three and a half years of endless waiting. She and her husband waited for test results, hospital appointments and so many new procedures to help with their experience of secondary infertility. This wait included friends announcing their happy news whilst Elle was experiencing three rounds of IVF and more loss, including a much-wanted second baby at just 15 weeks. Months and years slipped by, of immense physical and emotional toll, and still those two lines were just out of reach. Faced with constant questions, drugs, negative tests, tears, loss, frustration and so many more tears, throughout it all Elle managed to still believe that one day it would happen for her, somehow... A Bump in the Road reflects the reality of becoming a parent for thousands of people like Elle who have difficulty conceiving in the UK today. It captures Elle's journey to a rainbow, comforting through her beautifully written words with a story of fertility that might just reflect yours, too.

I have never lost a baby and I'm not Elle either, so I don't know how she feels. I did think that her continuing to raise awareness and fundraise for those who have lost babies was an incredibly brave thing to do. With the best will in the world, submersing yourself in such acute tragedy must take an almighty toll on your mental health. Likewise, trying to have another baby whilst being a campaigner must have been very difficult. I wouldn't be able to do both. I'm certain it's not really a good idea either. How do you have hope in the midst of such agony? I don't blame her at all for backing off, but obviously it goes without saying that you need to make it clear to people if your previous offer of assistance and support no longer stands.

I too found her benefitting from various freebies and expensive ones at that, to be jarring to say the least. I personally would not feel comfortable to post about baby loss one day and Ads and free gifts the next. I would find it impossible to bear living with an item given to me for free, but with the expectation of publicising the item, when I have received it as a direct consequence of my baby dying. She should have had two accounts at the very least. The thought of bereaved parents on their knees with grief, who sought Elle's page in the hope of some comfort and empathy only to discover an advert for something she had received for free, is really upsetting. I think it was a huge mistake to brag about how expensive alterations to their home were and how much they spent on what was essentially a small extension. Most families can't afford a single course of IVF. Elle, I think, had several courses and I thought she paid for some, if not all. On top of that they spent £100,000 on home alterations. You can buy a house for less than that. Obviously they can do what they want with their money, but the problem is that it did not sit well within a platform she also used for fundraising for baby loss.

I find the new book crass. There are so many mums and dads out there, who have bought Elle's book, followed her story, read her blog and will never have their rainbow. That's not Elle's fault, but it does feel as though she has metaphorically and literally slammed the door in their faces. The other problem I have is that it doesn't sound as though she has taken time off Instagram to be solely with her baby, as she claimed.She's been writing her book. That's fine, but why lie? Also, do you think she signed a contract to write a book before her daughter was born? Surely not, so why the rush? I'm not sure that I'd want to write another book about pregnancy, to follow on from the devastation of losing Teddy and including even more tales of loss, but maybe that's just me.

Finally, I really dislike her faux horror and refusal of freebies. I definately believe selling your kids is horrendous. Their privacy and safety is worth more than a free pram, carrier or toys. The problem is that she's a hypocrite. She's being smug about something she did for years.

They don't owe anyone a photo, but if they are genuinely keeping photos for her book, then that is pretty bad. I can't imagine a book without photos of their daughter. It's selling her to the highest bidder, which isn't those who've cried for her and Teddy. It's a publishing company who can hand over hard cash.

I don't blame Elle for wanting to do happy baby stuff and for not wanting to be one of those parents we all hate, those whose kids are sold on a daily basis. But I think an explanation is the least she can do. Personally I'd stop posting on Feathering the Empty Nest on Instagram and the blog, signing off with a thank you and an explanation. If she's desperate she could open another Instagram account for herself, her house or whatever.

I wish them the happiest of futures. But she needs to make it very clear whether her offer of support has been withdrawn. Parents at rock bottom deserve much more than the treatment she has apparently been dishing out. I think she's going to have awkward questions raised about the profits made from the book too, assuming it sells.

 

[Trickywoo]

I have never lost a baby and I'm not Elle either, so I don't know how she feels. I did think that her continuing to raise awareness and fundraise for those who have lost babies was an incredibly brave thing to do. With the best will in the world, submersing yourself in such acute tragedy must take an almighty toll on your mental health. Likewise, trying to have another baby whilst being a campaigner must have been very difficult. I wouldn't be able to do both. I'm certain it's not really a good idea either. How do you have hope in the midst of such agony? I don't blame her at all for backing off, but obviously it goes without saying that you need to make it clear to people if your previous offer of assistance and support no longer stands.

I too found her benefitting from various freebies and expensive ones at that, to be jarring to say the least. I personally would not feel comfortable to post about baby loss one day and Ads and free gifts the next. I would find it impossible to bear living with an item given to me for free, but with the expectation of publicising the item, when I have received it as a direct consequence of my baby dying. She should have had two accounts at the very least. The thought of bereaved parents on their knees with grief, who sought Elle's page in the hope of some comfort and empathy only to discover an advert for something she had received for free, is really upsetting. I think it was a huge mistake to brag about how expensive alterations to their home were and how much they spent on what was essentially a small extension. Most families can't afford a single course of IVF. Elle, I think, had several courses and I thought she paid for some, if not all. On top of that they spent £100,000 on home alterations. You can buy a house for less than that. Obviously they can do what they want with their money, but the problem is that it did not sit well within a platform she also used for fundraising for baby loss.

I find the new book crass. There are so many mums and dads out there, who have bought Elle's book, followed her story, read her blog and will never have their rainbow. That's not Elle's fault, but it does feel as though she has metaphorically and literally slammed the door in their faces. The other problem I have is that it doesn't sound as though she has taken time off Instagram to be solely with her baby, as she claimed.She's been writing her book. That's fine, but why lie? Also, do you think she signed a contract to write a book before her daughter was born? Surely not, so why the rush? I'm not sure that I'd want to write another book about pregnancy, to follow on from the devastation of losing Teddy and including even more tales of loss, but maybe that's just me.

Finally, I really dislike her faux horror and refusal of freebies. I definately believe selling your kids is horrendous. Their privacy and safety is worth more than a free pram, carrier or toys. The problem is that she's a hypocrite. She's being smug about something she did for years.

They don't owe anyone a photo, but if they are genuinely keeping photos for her book, then that is pretty bad. I can't imagine a book without photos of their daughter. It's selling her to the highest bidder, which isn't those who've cried for her and Teddy. It's a publishing company who can hand over hard cash.

I don't blame Elle for wanting to do happy baby stuff and for not wanting to be one of those parents we all hate, those whose kids are sold on a daily basis. But I think an explanation is the least she can do. Personally I'd stop posting on Feathering the Empty Nest on Instagram and the blog, signing off with a thank you and an explanation. If she's desperate she could open another Instagram account for herself, her house or whatever.

I wish them the happiest of futures. But she needs to make it very clear whether her offer of support has been withdrawn. Parents at rock bottom deserve much more than the treatment she has apparently been dishing out. I think she's going to have awkward questions raised about the profits made from the book too, assuming it sells.

Excellent. Couldn’t have put this better myself. I agree with everything you say.