Dreading Xmas and Winter

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I love being on my own Xmas day, the thought of going to someone's house sitting there until they can drop me off as I don't drive gives me the shudders..All their kids screaming and I always end up washing up for something to do.. I can stay in my jim jams, eat when I want, I'm not a selfish person but Xmas is my time...and it's only one day...bliss.
 
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My least favourite day of the year is when the clocks go back.
I am an anxious person and winter just seems to make it worse.
I love the sunshine and being outdoors and I get nothing from being all cosy inside with a hot chocolate.
I haven’t got a lot of money at all in fact I’m skint but I’ve booked to go to Tenerife next month and it will be done on the cheap whilst I’m there.
Will go to the supermarket and eat on the balcony.
January and February are the pits absolutely nothing about them months that I like.
March the clocks go forward Yipee and I then hope and pray for a good summer.
I’m whining and should be grateful that I’m alive to live these crappy winter days and I am but I’m still going to whinge lol
Thank you for this thread xx ☀🌞🌅
 
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I'm already fed up with Xmas and it's not even November 😂 already have so many stupid Xmas nights out planned which will be expensive. Then Xmas itself which is just boring to me. It's a combination of all things I dislike- stuffing your face, drinking too much, watching TV. It doesn't help that I'm never with my own family, only with my partner's.

Winter is also awful. Actually wouldn't mind a bit of snow but it's usually just windy, rainy and miserable and I can't do my usual walks and running outside.

Also hate wearing winter clothes.

Here, I had to get this of my chest 🤣
 
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Seeing all the Christmas stuff in the stores already, no idea why, but this year is giving me the rage.
Maybe it's an age thing, but I'm finding myself getting more and more annoyed at the commercialisation of everything.

And then it gets cold, rain and then ice. It's just crap
Yes! I actually really like Christmas but even I can't sustain Christmas excitement for 3/4 months. I'm just bored of it all by the 25th and think it would be more fun if Christmas bits were only available for a few weeks. Like you said, it just feels so commercialised now, and don't get me started on Easter eggs appearing in shops on the 26th Dec!
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My least favourite day of the year is when the clocks go back.
I am an anxious person and winter just seems to make it worse.
I love the sunshine and being outdoors and I get nothing from being all cosy inside with a hot chocolate.
I haven’t got a lot of money at all in fact I’m skint but I’ve booked to go to Tenerife next month and it will be done on the cheap whilst I’m there.
Will go to the supermarket and eat on the balcony.
January and February are the pits absolutely nothing about them months that I like.
March the clocks go forward Yipee and I then hope and pray for a good summer.
I’m whining and should be grateful that I’m alive to live these crappy winter days and I am but I’m still going to whinge lol
Thank you for this thread xx ☀🌞🌅
Jan and Feb are the shittest months! What's the point of them?! I'd like to be able to hibernate tbh, or failing that win the lottery so I can leave the UK for a few months each winter and live in California or something ☀
 
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My car has cost me an arm and a leg this month and so my Christmas budget is depleted. I’m not even someone who spends a lot at Christmas either. I see all the tat and can’t be arsed. I just want to curl up with a good book and a hot drink and enjoy the time off. I can’t be arsed with the get-togethers. Bah humbug maybe Scrooge was on to something.
 
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My father passed away in 2020 and since then my family has disintegrated, he was the anchor. So the Xmas adverts coming soon of families together really hurts, I know it's all a veneer and alot of families aren't all harmonious but it just hits home what I've lost.😢
 
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My father passed away in 2020 and since then my family has disintegrated, he was the anchor. So the Xmas adverts coming soon of families together really hurts, I know it's all a veneer and alot of families aren't all harmonious but it just hits home what I've lost.😢
Aww I’m sorry to read this, Christmas is an absolutely awful time for many I for one absolutely hate it ☹ I do feel people can be so insensitive to others! I also hate all the constant adverts and family pictures that are splashed online so I tend to avoid going on there! My ex husband walked out on me right before Christmas and right after my birthday although it was a few years ago now it’s still a constant trigger and a reminder like you say that I too don’t have that perfect “insta” family and have to co parent with him. I totally feel how you do though, wish I could sleep through Christmas 😆
 
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All this rain, I really feel like I’ve been buried alive now! Wake me up in March, someone!
 
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My least favourite day of the year is when the clocks go back.
I am an anxious person and winter just seems to make it worse.
I love the sunshine and being outdoors and I get nothing from being all cosy inside with a hot chocolate.
I haven’t got a lot of money at all in fact I’m skint but I’ve booked to go to Tenerife next month and it will be done on the cheap whilst I’m there.
Will go to the supermarket and eat on the balcony.
January and February are the pits absolutely nothing about them months that I like.
March the clocks go forward Yipee and I then hope and pray for a good summer.
I’m whining and should be grateful that I’m alive to live these crappy winter days and I am but I’m still going to whinge lol
Thank you for this thread xx ☀🌞🌅
Oh, I love Tenerife, I'd be quite happy just sitting at the foot of a volcano, with a bag of crisps and a bottle of water, soaking up the warmth of the sunshine. 🌞🏔
We'd planned to go early next year but our old banger car developed a serious fault and so we had to replace it...holiday budget now gone 😥.
Enjoy your sunny break, take your own teabags and Marmite (or whatever) to save money, and have a wonderful time!
 
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Aah Thankyou @klarakluckbag you little love xx
Gutted for you - we need 2 new tyres so will be making those Lays crisps last whilst on the balcony but I will think of you and mentally teleport you there.
We will be taking coffee - cheese,ham,chocolate,tins of tuna and other bits 😆
No cold, grey and people like you help a lot Thankyou xx
 
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Is anyone else feeling a combination of the Sunday scaries plus winter doom and gloom this evening? This time of year always takes me right back to how I felt on Sunday evenings before school the next day! I've got some Selling The OC on and wondering why my mum couldn't have moved to California to have me ☀ :)

Does anyone have any nice plans this week? Nothing exciting on the agenda for me, but I have some annual leave coming up the week after next which I might get planning for. It also feels like a good time to start looking into holidays for next year.

Fireworks have just started going off which reminded me that it's Bonfire Night! I used to love it as a kid but now I'm an adult I just get anxious that someone's gonna chuck a firework at me 😂 Just a night on the sofa for me.
 
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I don’t hate Christmas but I do hate winter and the shorter dark days. I’ve noticed a dip in my mood this last week and my anxiety has increased even though I don’t have anything to be anxious about.
 
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Yep anxiety through the roof, as soon as it gets dark I feel it creeping up, no idea why. It does have that feeling of school tomorrow, that's a good analogy.
I'm off to see my brother Tuesday at Gunwharf in Portsmouth and will do abit of Xmas shopping and keep telling myself everyday is a step closer to the 21st December and after that slowly light will come back.
 
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I really do not have the mental capacity to care about Christmas yet again, it comes around so quickly each year and I dread the festive season so much, it’s like you have to pretend you’re happy throughout.

I suffer with agoraphobia, and it’s even worse in the winter because I’m like “why would I even want to go out in the cold?”
 
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I really do not have the mental capacity to care about Christmas yet again, it comes around so quickly each year and I dread the festive season so much, it’s like you have to pretend you’re happy throughout.

I suffer with agoraphobia, and it’s even worse in the winter because I’m like “why would I even want to go out in the cold?”
Especially when you start the hearing the songs again, Slade shouting Its Christmas! The Pogues etc as you say it feels like it gets quicker every year!
 
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I find it helps to see autumn and winter as a time of rest and relaxation, instead of just thinking of it as darkness and coldness closing in. Summer is all about being out and about doing things, but now you can slow down, sleep more, catch up on TV shows, movies or books, pamper yourself more, have long soaks in the bath, have soothing warm drinks, wear warm soft clothing, anything that makes you feel relaxed. And from December 21st winter solstice the days will no longer get darker, only lighter, even if you dread Christmas, that's something to look forward to around that time
 
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January and February are the pits absolutely nothing about them months that I like.
March the clocks go forward Yipee and I then hope and pray for a good summer.
Honestly the early Roman calendar had the right idea. Start in March, stop counting in December. Jan and Feb a non descript blur where you just try to survive until spring.

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I find it helps to see autumn and winter as a time of rest and relaxation, instead of just thinking of it as darkness and coldness closing in. Summer is all about being out and about doing things, but now you can slow down, sleep more, catch up on TV shows, movies or books, pamper yourself more, have long soaks in the bath, have soothing warm drinks, wear warm soft clothing, anything that makes you feel relaxed. And from December 21st winter solstice the days will no longer get darker, only lighter, even if you dread Christmas, that's something to look forward to around that time
It is a nice way of looking at it but that's why I don't like winter. I don't find hibernating at home relaxing, it just makes me feel meh. I should definitely live in a hot country 😅

Agree with winter solstice and like someone said above, that's why i also think January and February are better than November as at least we're closer to nicer days 🤣
 
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So tomorrow is the 1st of December so only 20 days until the shortest day then we can say we are turning back to the light. I'll keep telling myself that anyway!
 
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Does anyone resent their extended family at Christmas? Mine just expect to be invited to Boxing Day lunch every year but never bring any food or drink to contribute to the cost. They never help with the clearing up either. I feel I’m constantly waiting on everyone, getting them more drinks and food. I’ve been doing it for 20 years but this year myself and my husband have decided that we‘ve had enough and we aren’t going to do it. Not had the conversation with them yet - dreading it 😬
 
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