Dreading Xmas and Winter

[Blockster]

In light of all the pro Halloween/Bonfire Night/Christmas threads, is their anyone dreading it like I am?
The thought of dark nights, cold weather and Christmas fills me with horror.
Perhaps it's because we had a poor summer it felt like it went so quick and here we are again. The cosy thing people talk about makes me feel claustrophobic. Maybe it's also because I've lost so many loved ones this time of year, especially Xmas exaggerates that loss.
Anyway sorry to be a moaner but misery does love company after all, feel free to tell me off.

 

[zoominmoom]

I know what you mean. I'm quite enjoying autumn at the moment because I basically live in a greenhouse so that last week of heat at the end of summer almost killed me off, but I'm not looking forward to when the clocks go back because I know that's when I start to feel bad. I've always had a weird sort of impending doom feeling in the darker months and it got worse when something bad happened over the winter a few years back. The thought of winter just fills me with dread because I know how anxiety inducing it can be.

I have no advice for you, but you're not alone. I try to find a few things to look forward to from now until December, then once it's January it feels like spring is on the horizon, even if it's still months away - psychologically being in the new year makes it seems like winter's on its way out! When the clocks go forward in the spring I feel so much better it's almost a spiritual experience for me From now until March time I'm basically on springwatch!

I'm sure there's loads of us who feel the same so maybe we can keep a thread going to try and keep our spirits up over the next few months.

 

[Joon]

I love being on my own Xmas day, the thought of going to someone's house sitting there until they can drop me off as I don't drive gives me the shudders..All their kids screaming and I always end up washing up for something to do.. I can stay in my jim jams, eat when I want, I'm not a selfish person but Xmas is my time...and it's only one day...bliss.

 

[emerald]

I always think if insta huns can start getting excited for Christmas in July, I can start getting excited for spring/summer on Boxing Day. So happy spring everyone!

 

[Gym&Tonic]

Only one week until the winter solstice and then the nights will start to draw out again! Once that is out of the way I always slowly start to feel better. The lack of daylight is absolutely killing me. I just want to hibernate

 

[Blockster]

The impending sense of doom I can really relate to and how the darkness brings on anxiety. I get that.
Winter is never crisp, cold days where you can wrap up and get out, it's mostly grey and damp, or grey and raining. It feels relentless.
I will try and find things to look forward to and take the edge of it, plus I agree we should use this thread as a bit of support till the lighter days return.

 

[Sniffing Eggs]

Seeing all the Christmas stuff in the stores already, no idea why, but this year is giving me the rage.
Maybe it's an age thing, but I'm finding myself getting more and more annoyed at the commercialisation of everything.

And then it gets cold, rain and then ice. It's just crap

 

[Blockster]

My father passed away in 2020 and since then my family has disintegrated, he was the anchor. So the Xmas adverts coming soon of families together really hurts, I know it's all a veneer and alot of families aren't all harmonious but it just hits home what I've lost.

 

[AManWalksDownTheStreet]

It’s all too much of everything. Food, pressure, the same old mawkish music. I’m going to stay off insta and Facebook and just do what I feel like even if that’s nothing at all.

 

[JodieGreen123]

I tried to put my positive pants on and embrace Christmas this year but here I am on Christmas Eve and I can’t wait for it to be over. Why is everything always so over hyped? The food, the music, the movies, I can’t stand any of it.

To make matters worse, everything that could go wrong this week has gone wrong. Like nothing majorly serious but just one annoying shit thing after another. Wake me up in 2024 when it’s all over!

 

[yogiessexdubs]

Christmas gives me the creeps. Always has since I was about 12 and realised how overblown and overhyped it all was.
That was in the 80's when Christmas celebrating was far more laid back. Now it's ridiculous.
I'm not a grinch and buy presents and cards and stuff and socialise but I think I'm allergic to it.
It's jinxed also for me in many ways-someone/me gets ill/some domestic disaster happens/a pet dies etc. I'm happy when it's passed me by unscathed tbh.
I've voluntarily spent christmas on my own quite a few times. I intend to do it this year. Then of course you put the telly on and it's all "you shouldn't be alone at Christmas". Don't tell me what to do or how I should be feeling thanks.
I totally get it if you're religious, have children under 12 or a scattered family joining up together but it's a definite no from me.
I've no problem with new year. That one makes sense to me.

I’m also spending it alone, it’s one day .. & I quite like the idea of hibernating for the day.

 

[RaveChampion]

Christmas gives me the creeps. Always has since I was about 12 and realised how overblown and overhyped it all was.
That was in the 80's when Christmas celebrating was far more laid back. Now it's ridiculous.
I'm not a grinch and buy presents and cards and stuff and socialise but I think I'm allergic to it.
It's jinxed also for me in many ways-someone/me gets ill/some domestic disaster happens/a pet dies etc. I'm happy when it's passed me by unscathed tbh.
I've voluntarily spent christmas on my own quite a few times. I intend to do it this year. Then of course you put the telly on and it's all "you shouldn't be alone at Christmas". Don't tell me what to do or how I should be feeling thanks.
I totally get it if you're religious, have children under 12 or a scattered family joining up together but it's a definite no from me.
I've no problem with new year. That one makes sense to me.

 

[Blockster]

So here we are, first day of early darkness. I hung some fairy lights in the lounge to bring some light in. Popped out to tesco earlier and it was pouring down, no chance of daily walks, does anyone else struggle with the rain and wearing glasses? My mind Is thinking in less than 2 months it will be the shortest day and light will return.

 

[JodieGreen123]

Yes; dark nights and cold and wet weather fill me with horror too. I hate how social media glamourises being cosy at this time of year. I know it’s not an option for a lot of people but I usually book a beach holiday for early March so I have something to look forward to.

 

[Meehee69]

My least favourite day of the year is when the clocks go back.
I am an anxious person and winter just seems to make it worse.
I love the sunshine and being outdoors and I get nothing from being all cosy inside with a hot chocolate.
I haven’t got a lot of money at all in fact I’m skint but I’ve booked to go to Tenerife next month and it will be done on the cheap whilst I’m there.
Will go to the supermarket and eat on the balcony.
January and February are the pits absolutely nothing about them months that I like.
March the clocks go forward Yipee and I then hope and pray for a good summer.
I’m whining and should be grateful that I’m alive to live these shitty winter days and I am but I’m still going to whinge lol
Thank you for this thread xx

 

[Mamacita]

I'm already fed up with Xmas and it's not even November already have so many stupid Xmas nights out planned which will be expensive. Then Xmas itself which is just boring to me. It's a combination of all things I dislike- stuffing your face, drinking too much, watching TV. It doesn't help that I'm never with my own family, only with my partner's.

Winter is also awful. Actually wouldn't mind a bit of snow but it's usually just windy, rainy and miserable and I can't do my usual walks and running outside.

Also hate wearing winter clothes.

Here, I had to get this of my chest

 

[Sibz]

I find it helps to see autumn and winter as a time of rest and relaxation, instead of just thinking of it as darkness and coldness closing in. Summer is all about being out and about doing things, but now you can slow down, sleep more, catch up on TV shows, movies or books, pamper yourself more, have long soaks in the bath, have soothing warm drinks, wear warm soft clothing, anything that makes you feel relaxed. And from December 21st winter solstice the days will no longer get darker, only lighter, even if you dread Christmas, that's something to look forward to around that time

 

[Reality_tv_lover]

March, April and may are my favourites. I love looking at the time and thinking it's half 8 and it's not even dark yet. The blossom, the different feel in the air too and I am way more upbeat and happier in those months

 

[ElChanguito]

Yeah, same, it’s very claustrophobic from now till march, I hate it!

 

[pinkypurr]

I feel a bit anxious in winter, the worst was winter lockdown which i found extremely isolating and depressing.
Things i am going to do this winter to keep myself happier - walk or gym during daylight hours, reading, self care e.g. home beauty treatments on dark evenings. Taking vitamin D, making sure i play some soft background music while working so i am not in the dark and alone!
I think the cost of living crisis has added to everyone's anxiety. I have just bought some new Pjs with an m&s code and the £5 i won during the sparks month. this means i can keep warmer and more comfortable

I really empathise with you Blockster. Christmas especially always makes me miss my Grandad in particular and I get very tearful a lot.