Downright insulting!

[Sibz]

Yes, it was the fact she persisted, even after I said no. The whole carriage heard her and I was just so embarrassed.

Most people would have been so embaressed and apologised to you profusely!! The fact she tried to turn it around and blame you for what you were wearing is disgraceful, believe me everyone in the carriage would have been thinking negatively of her not you!

 

[Loubro]

My mother...
On the day she dropped me off at uni.. we were walking behind another student when my mum pipes up "that's how nice and skinny you'll be soon, as you won't be able to afford food, being a student". That was 24 years ago and still vivid.

..perhaps because tonight, my toddler has these cards (with animals and people on) and my mother says "she immediately recognised the mummy card. I mean, she's short, fat and ginger". I'm not short, but I tick the other boxes.

I have so many mother comments, but have only just realised, in the last few years, just how cruel she's been my whole life.

 

[cowtastrophe]

I’ve just remembered one from years ago. I was a bit of an ugly duckling at school but improved with age. I was in a pub where I grew up and some guy started chatting me up. We suddenly realised we’d been at school together and he blurted out, ‘you were a minger at school but you’re fit now! Want to go out next week?’

No, mate, no I don’t.

 

[hehehe]

Went to the self checkout in Tesco with a Red Bull, which apparently is age restricted.

Till flags the purchase as restricted.

I had a mask on.

Girl at the checkout looks over at me, wondering whether to approve the purchase remotely from her till.

At this point I still had a hope in hell of being mistaken for being under 25.

The second I pulled down my mask she approved the purchase no questions asked.

 

[Rosie glow]

It still amazes me that people think they have a right to comment of someone's weight mind your own fecking buisness

 

[Pinhead Larry]

My boyfriend is a doctor and I had the displeasure of going to social events with three of the worst people I have probably ever met who were also doctors. Idk how he even made friends with them in the first place because they have nothing in common apart from work.

Once we were at this awful meal with them and they were speaking about how busy work was. I also work on the same site in the nhs, but I am office based and I agreed it’s been quite manic recently. This snotty cow looked at me and went ‘but how could you be busy?’ Sorry forgot only doctors are allowed to be busy

not the only rude comment made when in that groups company and my bf has distanced from them after seeing how they treat non medics in social settings

 

[cowtastrophe]

Yes, it was the fact she persisted, even after I said no. The whole carriage heard her and I was just so embarrassed.

 

[Piff paff puff]

Fella who wanted a relationship with me said I looked like olive oyl

 

[Lalla]

The first (and last) time I met my friends mum, she said to me 'you'd be attractive if you sorted out your weight problem'. I was a size 18. So overweight, yes, but not a candidate for my 600lb life.

Worse was when another friend (back when we were teenagers at uni, and I was a size 14...but this was pre vanity sizing so more like a 12 now) was talking about when she was at her fattest, and said to me 'well of course I was never as big as you'
She was a size 16-18, I saw her old clothes (and photos). She was also 6 inches shorter than me so looked bigger too.
I've held onto that grudge for over 30 years!
Edited to add: she also told me a few other pearls of wisdom, that my curly hair was common and that more men would be interested in me if I dressed more acceptably! (and had straighter hair of course).

Oh, one more...I come from a poor background, grew up in a HA house. First person in my family to get a degree (and a law degree at that).
After I graduated a girl I knew from school told me that uni was a waste of time for me as I didn't manage to get a boyfriend there

 

[cowtastrophe]

Reading this thread, just wanted to say some people are absolute arseholes aren't they?!

Also lots of sympathy to those where it's a parent making the cruel comments I always think that in life your mum and dad should be your biggest cheerleaders, mine always were.

Slightly O/T.

It‘s only now that I’m older that I realise how seriously disordered my mum’s eating was the whole time we were growing up. Any time she saw me or my sister eating biscuits or cake, she’d comment that we’d get fat. She had stacks of slimming magazines piled all around which she made us read and she was always really critical of how we looked but at the same time as deliberately making us look shit, like when she cut our lovely long hair badly to collar length or put us in awful oversized clothes. One of my abiding memories is her telling me she was ashamed of me and she wonders why we don’t have a close relationship now.

 

[MrsFishandChips]

I was reading through this thread and it struck me how many of these comments are weight related.
I lose five stone a few years ago… a family member said to me.. you’ve lost weight, you look great, Jesus you were awful fat

 

[Elmhart]

My mother...
On the day she dropped me off at uni.. we were walking behind another student when my mum pipes up "that's how nice and skinny you'll be soon, as you won't be able to afford food, being a student". That was 24 years ago and still vivid.

..perhaps because tonight, my toddler has these cards (with animals and people on) and my mother says "she immediately recognised the mummy card. I mean, she's short, fat and ginger". I'm not short, but I tick the other boxes.

I have so many mother comments, but have only just realised, in the last few years, just how cruel she's been my whole life.

I can relate. My mother has said many comments about my weight over the years. I still vividly remember her saying how i had a lot of "puppy fat" It's also extremely rare to have a compliment from her. It's no wonder my self confidence is on the floor!
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I had a lady at school gates ask me, are you pregnant again!?! Obviously not! 12 months post partum and just a bit overweight. But who says this to someone? I felt so ashamed.

 

[nopenopenopejustno]

I was once told by an elderly relative that I had a body "like a farmer's daughter" and my child-bearing hips made me look like "a Russian peasant". I told her that was better than looking like a shriveled hag. She was offended
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I was once told by an elderly relative that I had a body "like a farmer's daughter" and my child-bearing hips made me look like "a Russian peasant". I told her that was better than looking like a shriveled hag. She was offended
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I was once told by an elderly relative that I had a body "like a farmer's daughter" and my child-bearing hips made me look like "a Russian peasant". I told her that was better than looking like a shriveled hag. She was offended
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I was once told by an elderly relative that I had a body "like a farmer's daughter" and my child-bearing hips made me look like "a Russian peasant". I told her that was better than looking like a shriveled hag. She was offended

 

[ElChanguito]

“Is that what she looks like now,” was said about me by the village gossip, right after she was incredibly sickly sweet to my face! I was so hurt that I have completely avoided her ever since, if I see her I literally put my head down, turn around and walk out. There’s just no need to be so unkind! I hate it!

 

[JoeBloggs]

I used to work with my now husband and his mums ex. His mums ex was a 5ft nothing dumpy bald man, alcoholic and creepy. We were all at the pub after work and I was in my favourite top at the time, size 12, 11 stone and 19. He asked loudly if I was pregnant, never wore that top again and still to this day think of it.

 

[Gloria Rostron]

I find it a bit insulting when people think I'm younger than I am , too. I started a thread about it .

I understand the need for enforcing age restrictions , and that some people may be crap at guessing ages . It's the things they say when they find out someone is much older than they thought.

I can understand expecting people up to age 21 to prove it but now it is becoming 25 plus and over! We have lived to a level of maturity, so should be given the respect earned. I have lived without any parental guidance since my mother died when I was 20. I have paid bills, cooked, cleaned, worked, paid taxes. So I do not appreciate being treated as a child after all of these years!

 

[Naffdoff]

Tried on 2 dresses for my brothers wedding which 1 i asked my mum oh the 1st 1 she said you look proper fat in the 2nd

 

[zody38]

my partners (odd) Irish aunt who i have never met (friends on fb) messaged me once to ask basically why I am still fat when i train and compete in triathlons I was offended to start with and then found it hilarious! I am still fat Geraldine because I like beer and food and my training keeps it stable!

 

[mcfeez]

Honestly I could write a book on the nasty things my mother has said to me. Nearly all appearance based. The high point was on my wedding day when I asked how I looked literally about to walk out the door, she said my dress was nice but it was a shame you could still see my lower tummy sitting out a bit.

 

[Mejustme]

My dad once asked me if I had to buy two plane seats, I am 5' 4" and 11 stone, exactly half a stone overweight