Downright insulting!

[Sketchy]

Ok, just a fun sort of thread. But please do feel free to have a rant about any other insults/slights/put-downs you've ever had to get it off your chest.

Has anyone ever insulted you - by accident - or whatever? (it can happen!) And imo, an unintended insult stings much more than a direct insult.

I'll start ...

Not that I'm bitter and harboring resentment or anything against this person, you understand ... even though it happened more than 30 years ago ... but one day a woman in work asked me if I knew who was standing outside our workplace waiting for a lift home the previous day. The conversation went like this:

Her: You stand outside work waiting for a lift home, don't you?'
Me: Yes.
Her: Was there anyone else with you yesterday?
Me: No, don't think so, only me.
Her: Oh.
Another work friend: Why are you asking?
Her: Just that my son came home last night and said there was a nice looking girl standing outside our work at finishing time and asked me who she was.

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Then Her again to me: Are you sure there was nobody else?

BITCH!

As I say - not that I'm still bitter or anything ...

 

[The Devils Arse]

I've never wanted kids, and my mate at time knew my stance.

He said to me once

"What's the point in you then if you don't want kids?"

Quite flabbergasted, I said what about women who want children but can't have children?"

Him - "you should all be put down!"

We aren't friends anymore.

 

[cowtastrophe]

I was on the tube, standing up, reading and minding my own business. Woman on a seat in front of me (deffo a Mumsnetter) pipes up loudly, ‘excuse me, would you like a seat?’

A bit nonplussed, I said no thanks, I’m fine. The conversation then went like this:

Her: Honestly, please sit down.
Me: No, I’m not far from my stop, it’s fine.
Her: But you‘re pregnant!
Me: I’m not pregnant.
Whole carriage: Sharp intake of breath
Her: Oh!

30 seconds later:

Her: Are you sure? I thought you were because of your flat shoes and your scarf.
Me: death stare

So. Fucking. Rude.

 

[kittypaws]

My mum does it on the regular

My friend bought me a framed cartoon picture of 2 girls shopping for my 30th - was basically 2 skinny girls with shopping bags and it was supposed to be us

Mum looks and it and goes “that’s nice, shame you don’t look like that though” in front of all my family

 

[Sibz]

Next time someone insults us we shouldn't just take it, we should confront them and say "Why did you just say that? That was really rude" preferably loudly in public, so that people turn and look at them. They wont be expecting that and it'll make them look like a right arse

 

[Copacapybara]

Ok, just a fun sort of thread. But please do feel free to have a rant about any other insults/slights/put-downs you've ever had to get it off your chest.

Has anyone ever insulted you - by accident - or whatever? (it can happen!) And imo, an unintended insult stings much more than a direct insult.

I'll start ...

Not that I'm bitter and harboring resentment or anything against this person, you understand ... even though it happened more than 30 years ago ... but one day a woman in work asked me if I knew who was standing outside our workplace waiting for a lift home the previous day. The conversation went like this:

Her: You stand outside work waiting for a lift home, don't you?'
Me: Yes.
Her: Was there anyone else with you yesterday?
Me: No, don't think so, only me.
Her: Oh.
Another work friend: Why are you asking?
Her: Just that my son came home last night and said there was a nice looking girl standing outside our work at finishing time and asked me who she was.

. Pause
. Pause
. Pause

Then Her again to me: Are you sure there was nobody else?

BITCH!

As I say - not that I'm still bitter or anything ...

A militant Christian in a backpacking hostel once went well out of his way to tell me his pastor said it was important to consider marrying ugly women because they might have a good heart compared to attractive ones
I explained I wasn’t keen on men who were both ugly and stupid and it didn’t go down at all well

 

[MrsO74]

My stepmum told me not long after I had my second child that I lost the weight much quicker when I had my first child!
My mum - about a week after my first miscarriage asked why I was upset. I said why do you think and she said “oh I thought you’d be over that by now”

 

[Lynn’ssnazzycardigan]

My little girl. She said “chunky’s a kind word for fat. You are quite chunky aren’t you”

 

[shadowcat5]

I've never wanted kids, and my mate at time knew my stance.

He said to me once

"What's the point in you then if you don't want kids?"

Quite flabbergasted, I said what about women who want children but can't have children?"

Him - "you should all be put down!"

We aren't friends anymore.

I told my mum once that I wasn’t put on this earth to give her grandkids. She replied with “well what were you put on this earth for them?”

well cause you had sex you fucking muppet

 

[Sibz]

Recently my boss complimented me on how far I've come since I started there. I thought he was being nice for a change and felt good about myself for about 5 seconds until he added he didn't know how I blagged the interview prick.

 

[lasttime]

First of all I love that there's a thread for this...
Secondly my Nan is this person, you could argue that it's her generation but her brother is the complete opposite of her.
Just a few... at my cousins wedding she patted me on the stomach and told me I looked as pregnant as she did when she was full term with my aunt (I was a Size 12 at this point so not exactly massive). Last year she told me and I quote 'you can tell you've gained some weight, the stairs are bending under you' (she's got those wooden stairs that don't have anything under them sort of ladder like) AND that was whilst I stayed with her for a week instead of going away as she'd just come out of hospital. Then the other day she told me that if I've bought a tight dress for a wedding I'm going to then I should buy a new one as the one I wore in the previously mentioned comment was too tight and I shouldn't wear a tight dress. No wonder i have a complex about how i look...

 

[Rosie glow]

I've never wanted kids, and my mate at time knew my stance.

He said to me once

"What's the point in you then if you don't want kids?"

Quite flabbergasted, I said what about women who want children but can't have children?"

Him - "you should all be put down!"

We aren't friends anymore.

My husbands mate once said to him He would never date an infertile woman because whats the point, (he knew we had infertility) the idiot already has 2 kids with 2 different women I was ready to go round and lump him when hubby told me

 

[ILoveMyBrick]

I once mentioned in the presence of my (now-ex) father in law that I had backache. He replied “I’m not surprised, dragging that bum around with you”. RUDE!!

 

[Funny_bunny]

Totally random. Many years ago I was walking along a road and some man heading towards me had to comment as he passed that I was the most disgusting looking female he’d ever seen. Quite frankly he looked pretty grim himself and his opinion was of no consequence, but how rude to make such a nasty comment to a total stranger.

 

[Sketchy]

I was reading through this thread and it struck me how many of these comments are weight related.
I lose five stone a few years ago… a family member said to me.. you’ve lost weight, you look great, Jesus you were awful fat

THIS! One of the nicest compliments I've ever had in my life - and I've never ever forgotten it, nor the person who said it - was when I'd lost a lot of weight, and obviously people did comment on it, but this one person (a man as it happens) said to me: 'I see you've lost a lot of weight, but you know, there was nothing wrong with you before you lost it anyway'. God bless him.

... Which was just as well cos I put it all on again. And some!

 

[Grizzlybear]

Yes, it was the fact she persisted, even after I said no. The whole carriage heard her and I was just so embarrassed.

Can guarantee it was her behaviour which people will be judging, try not to be embarrassed! I imagine every woman on the train came home and vented about the arsehole, and we’re horrified on your behalf

 

[Lalla]

Reading this thread, just wanted to say some people are absolute arseholes aren't they?!

Also lots of sympathy to those where it's a parent making the cruel comments I always think that in life your mum and dad should be your biggest cheerleaders, mine always were.

 

[Sickofinstacrap]

A man in work, who I wasn’t even friendly with. Came up to me and said ‘wow you’ve lost alot of weight’ I smiled, didn’t know what to say, he said ‘no seriously this is horrible’ I said it’s none of your business, he replied ‘are you like anorexic or something’. I tore him a new arsehole. He will never speak on another woman’s weight again after I finished with him

 

[Norfolking Good]

We had an apprentice start at work (they lasted a whole 6 weeks before resigning) but she said to me ‘I like your name Norfolking, if I had a horse that’s what I’d call it…’
No answer to that one

 

[EllenDeGenerate]

My brother in law said to me whilst staring at me in my shorts ( a long time ago - never to be forgotten) :
" Those legs would hold up the Trump Tower Plaza".
I had gained weight, but wasn't fat - at 5'8" and just under 11 stone.
The tears stung my eyes, I can tell you.