Does he like me ?

[Blonde123]

That’s awful. My boss a few years ago used to to try it on with lots of women (including me) in our department, even though he was married. Same sort of lines, he wasn’t happy, they weren’t really together anymore and they were thinking about divorcing as they both wanted different things. One woman did fall for it and was seeing him for about 6 months, until he revealed his wife was pregnant and they’d been trying for a baby that whole time .

Omg!! Imagine all the potential STI’s! I nipped in the bud some dodgy attention from some bloke at my work recently (not my husband ). His wife had taken their baby away to see family and out came the violins saying things to me like, “oh it’s so lonely at the weekends blah blah blah” then opening up to me about their relationship problems and telling me about his wife’s nipples and asking me about how I fed my children, really odd and pervy. I just said “don’t you have any friends that can come over at the weekend” and “I’m sorry I don’t have time to chat about this”. Turns out a few weeks later he had an official complaint made against him by his PA for “inappropriate suggestive comments”.

 

[Lulu Goss]

Omg!! Imagine all the potential STI’s! I nipped in the bud some dodgy attention from some bloke at my work recently. His wife had taken their baby away to see family and out came the violins saying things to me like, “oh it’s so lonely at the weekends blah blah blah” then opening up to me about their relationship problems and telling me about his wife’s nipples and asking me about how I fed my children, really odd and not that I asked. I just said “don’t you have any friends that can come over at the weekend” and “I’m sorry I don’t have time to chat about this”. Turns out a few weeks later he had an official complaint made against him by his PA for “inappropriate suggestive comments”.

Gross. It’s always the same lines isn’t it! One of the men I work with is always a bit near the mark to being inappropriate in conversations but I’ve known him for years now so I know how to brush it off/pretend to be oblivious to the inappropriate comment he’s trying to make. His wife was also taking the kids away for the weekend once and he was saying to me how bored he’d be but how he likes the peace and quiet because all she does is nag him and she’s no fun anymore. Then he said he was going to spend the weekend “doing some DIY - not the building kind ”. Sickening, like anyone wants to be thinking about him spending his weekend sat on the sofa wanking

 

[drewydrop]

My friend at work naively believed the “we only got married and had the kids because we were mates and she wanted children” line. Turns out it was all lies and she’d been the other woman. Absolutely heartbreaking for both women, not the dickmunch who played both his wife and mistress though!

This happened to me although he said he’d moved out to live with his parents but couldn’t let anyone know as she’d be an a about him seeing the children. Turns out he did live his parents for a week and then moved back in with her. I found out the truth 6 months later and 2 weeks before they got married

 

[Pixipoppy]

Hmmm. Yeah, its really unusual now for some this kinda age to not have any social media.

My boyfriend hasn’t used “socials” since 2015

I just read this thread from start to finish and I’m so gutted that this guy was a typical creep. Ugh. Some men are gross.

 

[Begborrowsteal]

My boyfriend hasn’t used “socials” since 2015

I just read this thread from start to finish and I’m so gutted that this guy was a typical creep. Ugh. Some men are gross.

I think more and more people are turning away from it. But as this thread shows, its sometimes right to be a red flag.

 

[WilmaHun]

This thread took a turn I didn't expect. I'm really glad you found out the truth sooner rather than later though, definitely see it as a positive that you've found this out!

 

[Readread]

Jesus what a head!! Glad you found out before anything happened.

 

[it’s not been changed?!]

I’m on my dinner break at work in actual shock!
Has he messaged you today??!

 

[ChipsAhoy]

I’m still in shock too!
Yes he has , checking in really. I haven’t responded and I’m now blocking him. Left it unblocked to see if he would “check in”

I just don’t know what to make of all this. I don’t understand why people do this? I also keep thinking was I reading too much into all this when the chat has been nothing but friendly . I feel like an idiot

I’m on my dinner break at work in actual shock!
Has he messaged you today??!

 

[Begborrowsteal]

I’m still in shock too!
Yes he has , checking in really. I haven’t responded and I’m now blocking him. Left it unblocked to see if he would “check in”

I just don’t know what to make of all this. I don’t understand why people do this? I also keep thinking was I reading too much into all this when the chat has been nothing but friendly . I feel like an idiot

Dont feel like an idiot!! You have no reason to x

 

[Jon9090]

Just read the whole story. From a guys perspective eventhough I don't condone his actions, I can get his thought process on what he was trying to do. Glad you've found out he is married though and haven't invested even more time or effort into him..

 

[ChipsAhoy]

I’d love to hear more from a guys point of view just out of interest.

Just read the whole story. From a guys perspective eventhough I don't condone his actions, I can get his thought process on what he was trying to do. Glad you've found out he is married though and haven't invested even more time or effort into him..

 

[lisa94xo]

Just read the whole story. From a guys perspective eventhough I don't condone his actions, I can get his thought process on what he was trying to do. Glad you've found out he is married though and haven't invested even more time or effort into him..

What was he trying to do?

 

[BettyCrocker]

I’m still in shock too!
Yes he has , checking in really. I haven’t responded and I’m now blocking him. Left it unblocked to see if he would “check in”

I just don’t know what to make of all this. I don’t understand why people do this? I also keep thinking was I reading too much into all this when the chat has been nothing but friendly . I feel like an idiot

Some people just enjoy flirting, enjoy the thrill of getting attention in this way. As I was trying to say the other day I’ve seen this kind of tit play out so many times. Some guys are just absolute wankers and treat it like a game. Try to just draw a line under it now, forget about it and just focus on work, he’s honestly not worth your time.

 

[Jon9090]

I’d love to hear more from a guys point of view just out of interest.

Im seeing from the point view. He is married (doubt it's happy, otherwise he wouldn't be taking the risk off attempting to flirt/hook up with you in some capacity) at home with his partner and kids probably never spent this much time with the family or wife but because off the covid situation hasn't got much choice.
And is taking the opportunity to engage in inappropriate talks with you or any other potential women he may be speaking to as a distraction from his own life struggles.
As well as the male ego kicking in and seeing if he could potentially get his leg over in the long run and work his charm onto you.
He definitely done this before hence why he hasn't said or incriminated himself in that inappropriate sexual flirting , pictures or voice notes etc which could been used against him in the future if all went wrong. All in all im glad you've found out.