Exactly. It's no different from him meeting you in person at work by the photocopier and asking you out lol. He's seen you on zoom, had a look at your WhatsApp pic and started chatting. How else we meant to date in lockdown?! I say meet him for an outdoor walk and keep us all updated lol. Start making the chat a slightly bit more flirty and meet up. duck it. We only live once lol. Is he attractive?
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Bless you I think he’s definitely into you! I’m currently speaking to a girl (I’m bi) and I’m not sure whether she’s just being nice or not but my friends are like hun she’s clearly wanting to speak to you a lot and asks about my interests...I think either way you will end up good friends and that’s just as amazing (especially in lockdown, when we are missing social interaction) 
Haha! I love this! Thank you! Yes he is 
Aww this is so lovely! It’s very hard read signs while in lockdown and I think because I’ve nothing else on it’s all I’m thinking about and over analysing. I hope you find out more as well! And as you say even it turns out we make good friends out of this it’s a bonus. Especially when life is so bizarre right now
YoloBless you I think he’s definitely into you! I’m currently speaking to a girl (I’m bi) and I’m not sure whether she’s just being nice or not but my friends are like hun she’s clearly wanting to speak to you a lot and asks about my interests...I think either way you will end up good friends and that’s just as amazing (especially in lockdown, when we are missing social interaction)
Thank you
Aw if he’s taking time out his day to message you/check in on you etc then I’d say he’s keen? I mean of course you never know how things will work out, in person it might be completely different but you have to start somewhere and I’d say getting along well and him wanting to talk to you a lot is a good sign? Perhaps at first he just wanted to make you feel welcome as he can’t do it in the work place like he normally would but obviously he’s enjoyed speaking with you, perhaps fancies you too so thought he’s try his luck! But then I’m someone who’s quite stupid and naive when it comes to men and relationships
Oh give over!!!!! I’m just speaking from years of experience of seeing how guys like this operate. Ordinarily she would be able to gauge what he’s like from seeing him at work in a normal environment and would get a general idea of what he’s like from speaking to the other people that work there.Exactly negative Nellys on this thread u meet him u dont like him that's itjeeez
It's very mumsnet turning him into a creep the mans not even being flirty
Please let us know if he ends up to be your future husband 
Rock climbing is good fun and an opportunity for him to check you out - especially your bum! Haha.
Keep going as you are, sounds fun, bit try not to much pressure on it. I agree I suspect he must be physically attracted to you to PM you. Do you follow him on socials?
Keep going as you are, sounds fun, bit try not to much pressure on it. I agree I suspect he must be physically attracted to you to PM you. Do you follow him on socials?
I love this 
He doesn’t have socials! Which instantly makes me suspicious 
but he said he just doesn’t like Facebook and Instagram etc.
He doesn’t have socials! Which instantly makes me suspicious but he said he just doesn’t like Facebook and Instagram etc. 
Hmmm. Yeah, its really unusual now for some this kinda age to not have any social media. I hate that its even a thing, but it is. Potential drama with the kids mum.I love this
Oooh it's annoying when they don't have socials so you can't have a wee look. How about snapchat and then you can see if he gas a dead high score lol or us it just me who is a psycho haha.
Definite red flag for me. Especially as he has kids. Still with the mum of the kids? Some drama there? Its so unusual to not be on SM at 30.
Hmmm not everyone does. I’ve recently deleted fb and I know quite a few people who don’t have it.
OP maybe get snooping and see if you can find him he might have his name different or something like first and middle name .. or ask another girl at work if he has it. I like to think he isn’t lying but with a man you never know. And to see if he does like you maybe don’t reply for a bit longer than usual and if he replies quickly he’s been waiting for your text!
i can’t think of any other way to see if he likes you as it’s lockdown so quite impossible
I personally think it says a lot of good things about a person if they’re not on SM. Basically they don’t care what anyone else thinks about them & they don’t feel the need to share their life/thoughts with the rest of the world - essentially that’s all SM is really isn’t it? People just blowing their own trumpets or snooping on other people
Just keep in mind that he’s your work colleague first and foremost and you’ve only just stated at your job - you don’t really know anything about this guy but you really don’t want it to get awkward if he (likely) turns out to not be what he’s trying to portray himself to be. Also he’s got 2 kids - which means he’s got 1 or maybe even 2 ex partners who are still a part of his life because he’s got kids so.... I dunno. It sounds shady to me. He’s trying to hook up with you over WhatsApp but he claims he’s not on any social media platforms.... sorry but I don’t believe that for a second.
ETA: when you say it’s all communication over WhatsApp is that just conversations via text? Or do you video call each other?? Because if it’s all just being done via text on WhatsApp....! He could just be sitting there with his girlfriend or wife or whoever chatting away to you!!! Ask him to video chat with you, see what he says to that??
ETA: when you say it’s all communication over WhatsApp is that just conversations via text? Or do you video call each other?? Because if it’s all just being done via text on WhatsApp....! He could just be sitting there with his girlfriend or wife or whoever chatting away to you!!! Ask him to video chat with you, see what he says to that??
Nooooo my boyfriend doesnt have any either he hates it. And I love that he doesnt embrace it
I don't have socials. Got rid of it all 4 years ago and don't miss any of it. Doesn't mean I'm weird just got fed up of all the crap people post!
I think it's lovely. Its not like you are going to meet him in the dark or anything! As long as you are just chatting, nothing gets inappropriate or makes you uncomfortable then there is no problem. It's just a friendship at the minute, yes only by message but with lock down and people suffering with mental health and loneliness ect we Should be encouraging people to talk. If he is making you smile then that's a good thing and good luck!!! Hopefully it ends up as something more. If he ends up a creep well fair enough but we can't vilify the poor man just for being friendly
Hmm not sure if I would say red flag, but is unusual.
Oh 100%, social media is our downfall. Its addictive and giving us all headfuck! Ive just heard too many girls tell me theyve found out the guy was dodgy in these casesI personally think it says a lot of good things about a person if they’re not on SM. Basically they don’t care what anyone else thinks about them & they don’t feel the need to share their life/thoughts with the rest of the world - essentially that’s all SM is really isn’t it? People just blowing their own trumpets or snooping on other people
Not weird at all, but it is unusual.
I’m just speaking from experience of seeing tit like this play out before. He’s saying he’s not got any social media profiles, they only communicate via written messages, he’s contacted her off the back of work related comms, wait for it - if she asks for a video chat il bet he won’t be able to because “his camera doesn’t work on his phone” or there will be another excuse....
I’ve just seen and heard it so many times in places I’ve worked and you can spot it a mile off.
So invested in this! I hope he turns out legit
Some people just don't have Facebook or insta. They just aren't arsed. It does normally make them a lovely person tbh. Then there is a flipside. Could be a lying creep but give him benefit of doubt while at the same time try find out name of the mother to his kids and see if they really have split up!
Some people just don't have Facebook or insta. They just aren't arsed. It does normally make them a lovely person tbh. Then there is a flipside. Could be a lying creep but give him benefit of doubt while at the same time try find out name of the mother to his kids and see if they really have split up!