Does he like me ?

[Barbie2020]

I’m invested loads of people randomly meet and date from SM and dating sites so I don’t see the problem with this at all. Just get to know him through messages until you can meet up properly. It might lead to something, it might not but I think it must be nice to have a bit of a chat with someone when you’re single and struggling through lockdown. A nice distraction.

Keep us updated

 

[ChipsAhoy]

So I typed something into the works group chat. We have a group WhatsApp that isn’t work related.

I was joking about masked singer as one of the other guys at work joked with me last week about watching it, and then he texted me separately about what I was talking to the other guy about in the group chat?!?

 

[lisa94xo]

So I typed something into the works group chat. We have a group WhatsApp that isn’t work related.

I was joking about masked singer as one of the other guys at work joked with me last week about watching it, and then he texted me separately about what I was talking to the other guy about in the group chat?!?

Hey! This is a very weird situation. I really think you need to clarify with him what his intentions are and where this is going - you don't want to get mixed up or misconstrue things, especially with a work colleague with both professional and personal boundaries - it's a slippery slope if things don't go well.

 

[Begborrowsteal]

So I typed something into the works group chat. We have a group WhatsApp that isn’t work related.

I was joking about masked singer as one of the other guys at work joked with me last week about watching it, and then he texted me separately about what I was talking to the other guy about in the group chat?!?

Hes keen

 

[BettyCrocker]

So I typed something into the works group chat. We have a group WhatsApp that isn’t work related.

I was joking about masked singer as one of the other guys at work joked with me last week about watching it, and then he texted me separately about what I was talking to the other guy about in the group chat?!?

What?? He messaged you to question why you were chatting to another guy? Seriously?

I’m sorry but no. You don’t even know him and he’s trying to dictate who you can/can’t talk to.

Everything about this is like a huge red flag.

The guy is a weirdo. Mark my words.

 

[ChipsAhoy]

No he didn’t message to ask why I was messaging another guy, he started the same conversation I was having with my other colleagues about the tv show but with me in a private Message.

 

[Lulu Goss]

I would just keep in mind, as someone else said, that he’s still a work colleague. Whatever happens, friendly or more, you’ll still have to work with him if anything goes sour. That might not be so bad at the moment while everyone’s working from home but you wouldn’t want to be returning to the office worrying about whether things will be awkward or weird, especially if you’re new there.

Maybe stick more to the group chat to start with, or keep your private chat with him as friends until you can get to know him more.

 

[ChipsAhoy]

Hey! This is a very weird situation. I really think you need to clarify with him what his intentions are and where this is going - you don't want to get mixed up or misconstrue things, especially with a work colleague with both professional and personal boundaries - it's a slippery slope if things don't go well.

I’m definitely going to ask as it feels as if there is an elephant in the room if that makes sense?

 

[BettyCrocker]

No he didn’t message to ask why I was messaging another guy, he started the same conversation I was having with my other colleagues about the tv show but with me in a private Message.

The guy is a freak.

 

[lisa94xo]

I’m definitely going to ask as it feels as if there is an elephant in the room if that makes sense?

Communication is so important! At least then you'll know either way. I know these situations can potentially be awkward but if you haven't met face to face yet that might make it less daunting?

 

[ChipsAhoy]

Thank you all so much for your insight. It has really helped me

 

[BettyCrocker]

No he didn’t message to ask why I was messaging another guy, he started the same conversation I was having with my other colleagues about the tv show but with me in a private Message.

But.......ask yourself why.

Any normal person would have just joined in the conversation. But he made a point of siphoning you off and starting the same conversation just between the two of you. It’s weird. Sorry but this whole thing is weird.

 

[Milliehaha123]

Put his phone number into the Facebook search bar and it will come up with his account (if he has one)

I agree with others that the signs are there that he probably does like you ie messaging separately but tread carefully. You’re in no rush and so I probably would just keep it professional, friendly but nothing more until you meet him. He might be totally different IRL (a guy I met on tinder once was so so funny on WhatsApp and ridiculously quiet and tame in real life!) or you might just not fancy him at all when you meet him (and so it might be awkward if you’ve been overly flirty virtually)

best case scenario is that he’s a great guy with no baggage and you meet and fall madly in love. But worst is that you put yourself out there - get hurt or actually realise he’s a freak in real life.

Id take it slow and think about it all once you’ve met him.

 

[Belulah]

I think enjoy the flirting but don’t read too much into it.

 

[Dexy]

Any update?

 

[Blonde123]

Ask him for a fool pic? If it goes down like a lead balloon you know he wasn’t into you

 

[ChipsAhoy]

Ask him for a fool pic? If it goes down like a lead balloon you know he wasn’t into you

too funny

 

[GeorgeP123]

But.......ask yourself why.

Any normal person would have just joined in the conversation. But he made a point of siphoning you off and starting the same conversation just between the two of you. It’s weird. Sorry but this whole thing is weird.

Maybe it's just an excuse for more private chatting. It doesn't have to be weird.

 

[kittypaws]

I don’t think the guy is a freak at all. Look, we’re in lockdown for god sake it’s no different to him pursuing you in person if you were in the office.

It sounds like he just really likes the look and sound of you from the video calls and wanted to talk to you. I personally think it’s nice and also my bf doesn’t have any social media other than Twitter for his job! And neither does my brother - they’re 31 and 35!

I would just carry on as you are and maybe just try and find more about his life. I’ve been catfished and lied to from guys online many times so I know the signs. But if you are concerned is there another member of the team you could message in private and just sort of check that this guy isn’t a weirdo? I don’t think he is, but I can see some people are pushing you to think he is so it may reassure you!

 

[GeorgeP123]

I don’t think the guy is a freak at all. Look, we’re in lockdown for god sake it’s no different to him pursuing you in person if you were in the office.

It sounds like he just really likes the look and sound of you from the video calls and wanted to talk to you. I personally think it’s nice and also my bf doesn’t have any social media other than Twitter for his job! And neither does my brother - they’re 31 and 35!

I would just carry on as you are and maybe just try and find more about his life. I’ve been catfished and lied to from guys online many times so I know the signs. But if you are concerned is there another member of the team you could message in private and just sort of check that this guy isn’t a weirdo? I don’t think he is, but I can see some people are pushing you to think he is so it may reassure you!

YES! Totally agree. I too have been catfished etc from total freaks online and didn't know until I met them in person that they were total freaks lol. But I did pick up on loads of red flags which I pushed to the back of my mind. I think you know if you're getting red flags or not deep down. I think the same, I think he's seen you on zoom and thought she's really nice and then struck up conversation. It's nothing I wouldn't do if I liked someone at work. Totally genuine. But you do need to meet up for a walk. That's allowed isn't it to meet up with 1 person.