Does he like me ?

[ChipsAhoy]

Feeling like a totally teenager writing this but I started a new job in November and due to covid I haven’t been in office but we weekly zoom with my colleagues. We also have a work WhatsApp.

One of the guys broke away from the WhatsApp and messaged me directly. At first it was about work stuff but our friendship blossomed and we would text every day now mostly. Not texting all day but we would be in contact. The chat isn’t flirty just friendly. Talking about work, tv and general chit chat and banter.

However at around Christmas time he said I was “lush” ? But didn’t elaborate further. The chat is mainly him checking in asking how I am, and a how is my day etc. He would refer to me as “mate

In these covid times it’s hard to read signals since we aren’t actually seeing each other at work in real life. But maybe I’m reading into the friend signals too much.

I feel so ridiculous writing this but Lockdown is making my head spin with all this.

 

[Begborrowsteal]

Aww I would definitely being reading in to it, because im soft

Just go with the flow, romantic or not, its a friendship

 

[ChipsAhoy]

Aww thank you for this!! I think I’m reading into more than usual because of lockdown! Usually things like this wouldn’t consume me but I find it’s all I’m thinking about !

Aww I would definitely being reading in to it, because im soft

Just go with the flow, romantic or not, its a friendship

 

[Begborrowsteal]

Aww thank you for this!! I think I’m reading into more than usual because of lockdown! Usually things like this wouldn’t consume me but I find it’s all I’m thinking about !

Completely understandable, life as we knew it has come to a standstill. We're lacking the social interaction we need as humans. Enjoy the companionship, enjoy the chatter! Its a nice little distraction!

 

[Kim Mild]

I'd say he likes talking to you, likes the company and interaction. Do you fancy him?

It is probably doing you both good at the moment considering.

It depends whether you want to take things further or have interactions in person? ( post lockdown perhaps) .
Sometimes men do just like the texting and don't want anything further ( speaking from my own past experiences, nothing to do with lockdown) .

 

[Gellymaccy]

I think it sounds like he does, maybe try flirting more a bit to gage his response then you will know if he likes you in that Way or not?

 

[Walnutss]

I think it sounds like he does, maybe try flirting more a bit to gage his response then you will know if he likes you in that Way or not?

U didnt specify are u are girl seeking guy? Guys dont usually seek out friends like that so I would say hes defo into u! My friend is in the same situation and the guys issue is its lockdown u cant really have a date or do anything fun?

Maybe hes waiting for u to make it a bit more flirty?

 

[SunshineSally]

I don't want to be a debbie downer but you haven't met him in real life yet. As lovely as the attention is, you might not have any chemistry at all when you finally see him in the flesh so to speak

 

[ChipsAhoy]

Oh sorry yes I’m a girl and he’s a guy. Lockdown makes it very complicated

U didnt specify are u are girl seeking guy? Guys dont usually seek out friends like that so I would say hes defo into u! My friend is in the same situation and the guys issue is its lockdown u cant really have a date or do anything fun?

Maybe hes waiting for u to make it a bit more flirty?

This is very true ... he has mentioned about meeting up for drinks or he’s quite outdoorsy and suggested he would take me rock climbing?!?

I don't want to be a debbie downer but you haven't met him in real life yet. As lovely as the attention is, you might not have any chemistry at all when you finally see him in the flesh so to speak

I'd say he likes talking to you, likes the company and interaction. Do you fancy him?

It is probably doing you both good at the moment considering.

Thank you this is very true. We seem to be on the same “journey” career wise at the minute so we have that in common. It could just be he likes having something in common with me.

It depends whether you want to take things further or have interactions in person? ( post lockdown perhaps) .
Sometimes men do just like the texting and don't want anything further ( speaking from my own past experiences, nothing to do with lockdown) .

 

[BettyCrocker]

Go carefully with this one. You’ve never met this guy, and he’s a colleague. He may well be messaging loads of women from work in the same way, as a way of passing the time. He could be one of those guys at work that always goes after the new girl, who you would ordinarily be warned about by the other people you work with! I’d actually find it a bit creepy if someone started contacting me like this in this kind or scenario.....!

I’d try to just keep it professional, until you can at least meet him in person and start to really gauge what he’s actually like.

 

[ChipsAhoy]

This is actually really great advice! Thank you!

Go carefully with this one. You’ve never met this guy, and he’s a colleague. He may well be messaging loads of women from work in the same way, as a way of passing the time. He could be one of those guys at work that always goes after the new girl, who you would ordinarily be warned about by the other people you work with! I’d actually find it a bit creepy if someone started contacting me like this in this kind or scenario.....!

I’d try to just keep it professional, until you can at least meet him in person and start to really gauge what he’s actually like.

 

[GeorgeP123]

Go carefully with this one. You’ve never met this guy, and he’s a colleague. He may well be messaging loads of women from work in the same way, as a way of passing the time. He could be one of those guys at work that always goes after the new girl, who you would ordinarily be warned about by the other people you work with! I’d actually find it a bit creepy if someone started contacting me like this in this kind or scenario.....!

I’d try to just keep it professional, until you can at least meet him in person and start to really gauge what he’s actually like.

Yeah that is good advice. I'd say he probably does like you if he's suggested drinks and suggested rock climbing. Do you know his situation? Has he said he's single etc.

 

[ChipsAhoy]

Yeah that is good advice. I'd say he probably does like you if he's suggested drinks and suggested rock climbing. Do you know his situation? Has he said he's single etc.

Yeah he’s single but he has mentioned he has two kids.

 

[BettyCrocker]

Yeah he’s single but he has mentioned he has two kids.

Hmmmmm. I dunno. Again, this is all a bit much isn’t it, for a guy you’ve never met who is meant to be your colleague? I just find his behaviour a bit off - not particularly professional is it? You’ve never met, you have no personal relationship, he’s randomly contacted you online off the back of work related communication and he’s telling you stuff about his personal life..... how old are you both if you don’t mind me asking?

 

[ChipsAhoy]

Yeah it does seem a bit much I guess. Which is why I’m slightly confused about it all. We are both 30.

Hmmmmm. I dunno. Again, this is all a bit much isn’t it, for a guy you’ve never met who is meant to be your colleague? I just find his behaviour a bit off - not particularly professional is it? You’ve never met, you have no personal relationship, he’s randomly contacted you online off the back of work related communication and he’s telling you stuff about his personal life..... how old are you both if you don’t mind me asking?

 

[BettyCrocker]

Yeah it does seem a bit much I guess. Which is why I’m slightly confused about it all. We are both 30.

Yeah it’s just too much and I just think it’s a bit inappropriate. Like I say, it’s impossible to really judge what he’s like and what this is all about when you haven’t met him in real life or haven’t had any input from others at work about him or even seen how he is with other people. I’ve seen this kind of thing before - new female starts at work and office creep is straight in there, all over her - before everyone else at work warns her off and then he’s onto the next new starter! You’ve just started your job in November right? Concrete on work, be professional, don’t get involved with this guy because honestly..... it all just sounds a bit off.

 

[Walnutss]

Yeah it does seem a bit much I guess. Which is why I’m slightly confused about it all. We are both 30.

Uck so how are people supposed to meet nowadays? U cant go out u cant go anywhere he may have seen a girl he likes and went for it. I like it

 

[Readread]

I must be the only one to think this but if he's seen you on a Zoom and messaged you privately he obviously is attracted to you. If he's being friendly, ask if he wants to meet up when lockdown is over, what have you got to lose?

 

[Walnutss]

I must be the only one but if he's seen you on a Zoom and messaged you privately he obviously is attracted to you. If he's being friendly, ask if he wants to meet up when lockdown is over, what have you got to lose?

Exactly negative Nellys on this thread u meet him u dont like him that's it jeeez
It's very mumsnet turning him into a creep the mans not even being flirty

 

[Secretadmirer]

Aw if he’s taking time out his day to message you/check in on you etc then I’d say he’s keen? I mean of course you never know how things will work out, in person it might be completely different but you have to start somewhere and I’d say getting along well and him wanting to talk to you a lot is a good sign? Perhaps at first he just wanted to make you feel welcome as he can’t do it in the work place like he normally would but obviously he’s enjoyed speaking with you, perhaps fancies you too so thought he’s try his luck! But then I’m someone who’s quite stupid and naive when it comes to men and relationships