Hey! This is a very weird situation. I really think you need to clarify with him what his intentions are and where this is going - you don't want to get mixed up or misconstrue things, especially with a work colleague with both professional and personal boundaries - it's a slippery slope if things don't go well.So I typed something into the works group chat. We have a group WhatsApp that isn’t work related.
I was joking about masked singer as one of the other guys at work joked with me last week about watching it, and then he texted me separately about what I was talking to the other guy about in the group chat?!?
Hes keenSo I typed something into the works group chat. We have a group WhatsApp that isn’t work related.
I was joking about masked singer as one of the other guys at work joked with me last week about watching it, and then he texted me separately about what I was talking to the other guy about in the group chat?!?
What?? He messaged you to question why you were chatting to another guy? Seriously?So I typed something into the works group chat. We have a group WhatsApp that isn’t work related.
I was joking about masked singer as one of the other guys at work joked with me last week about watching it, and then he texted me separately about what I was talking to the other guy about in the group chat?!?
I’m definitely going to ask as it feels as if there is an elephant in the room if that makes sense?Hey! This is a very weird situation. I really think you need to clarify with him what his intentions are and where this is going - you don't want to get mixed up or misconstrue things, especially with a work colleague with both professional and personal boundaries - it's a slippery slope if things don't go well.
The guy is a freak.No he didn’t message to ask why I was messaging another guy, he started the same conversation I was having with my other colleagues about the tv show but with me in a private Message.
Communication is so important! At least then you'll know either way. I know these situations can potentially be awkward but if you haven't met face to face yet that might make it less daunting?I’m definitely going to ask as it feels as if there is an elephant in the room if that makes sense?
But.......ask yourself why.No he didn’t message to ask why I was messaging another guy, he started the same conversation I was having with my other colleagues about the tv show but with me in a private Message.
Ask him for a dick pic? If it goes down like a lead balloon you know he wasn’t into you
Maybe it's just an excuse for more private chatting. It doesn't have to be weird.But.......ask yourself why.
Any normal person would have just joined in the conversation. But he made a point of siphoning you off and starting the same conversation just between the two of you. It’s weird. Sorry but this whole thing is weird.
YES! Totally agree. I too have been catfished etc from total freaks online and didn't know until I met them in person that they were total freaks lol. But I did pick up on loads of red flags which I pushed to the back of my mind. I think you know if you're getting red flags or not deep down. I think the same, I think he's seen you on zoom and thought she's really nice and then struck up conversation. It's nothing I wouldn't do if I liked someone at work. Totally genuine. But you do need to meet up for a walk. That's allowed isn't it to meet up with 1 person.I don’t think the guy is a freak at all. Look, we’re in lockdown for god sakeit’s no different to him pursuing you in person if you were in the office.
It sounds like he just really likes the look and sound of you from the video calls and wanted to talk to you. I personally think it’s nice and also my bf doesn’t have any social media other than Twitter for his job! And neither does my brother - they’re 31 and 35!
I would just carry on as you are and maybe just try and find more about his life. I’ve been catfished and lied to from guys online many times so I know the signs. But if you are concerned is there another member of the team you could message in private and just sort of check that this guy isn’t a weirdo?I don’t think he is, but I can see some people are pushing you to think he is so it may reassure you!
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