Does anyone hate their job? #2

[Sunflower91]

does Anyone manage to shut off and not worry about work the rest of the weekend?

I’ve been trying to work many more hours to compensate for the time I spend daydreaming…. so I am constantly worried about work. The entire weekend I think I should just be working, So that I can catch up. Then blink and the weekend is over and I have spent it feeling guilty.

Is there an I love my job thread so I can read how the other half live? Maybe I just hate work - so all jobs are going to be disappointing…

I really struggle with daydreaming/ getting distracted especially if my tasks are repetitive and I’m not being challenged. And I used to try and compensate by working over. It never worked because I’d end up burnt out and in a cycle of procrastinate>work over> procrastinate.

Only in the last year or so have I got to grips with stopping that. I realised there’s always going to be more work- as long as my work is delivered and will be on time (even then there’s nothing wrong with pushing back and saying you want to QC it), then I take the daydream time and don’t work extra to fill it. I allow myself to be booked for up to 80% of my capacity (incase there’s something urgent comes up) and I only work over if It’s absolutely necessary and I’ve found it actually balances out quite nicely with the natural flow of work volume. For me I can have a week where things are lighter to the point I even have the odd day where I do very little, so then when the busier week comes I don’t feel burnt out by it.

I still get Sunday night anxiety about work on the Monday but a lot less now I’m not totally burned out by the time the weekend arrives.

 

[Lico]

Are people going to their work Xmas parties? I really don’t want to but think it would be rude if I didn’t as missed every other event this year

My work party is next Friday. No way I'm going. I hate a lot of my colleagues, and I drink too much, so a recipe for disaster. I'd rather sit home watching TV and annoying my cats.
Plus, on the charity donations, I have several animal charities that I donate to. I don't care about the charities that my employer has nominated to donate to, so I'm not giving any of my hard earned cash to them, so that my employer looks like the good guy. Let them donate themselves.

 

[TheGlossy]

I hate to complain, but I think my job is making me dead inside.

I changed jobs with a title upgrade only to realize the responsibilities are about 10% of what I used to have. A graduate can do my job. The work-life balance is better than my previous role but I spend weeks if not months looking at the same spreadsheets everyday. There is no variety of tasks.

This in addition that I have colleagues who scrutinize my every move. It’s very cliquey and they’re judgmental.

I’ve honestly mentally checked out because it’s the only way I can low tolerate this job. Yeah, the work-life balance is good but is it enough to keep me going? Not really. I get zero adrenaline from this role.

 

[User_name_100]

Just got an email from my boss asking why I didn't do enough work yesterday.

That was literally it.

Sorry guys, feeling really teary about it. Fucking worked from 7am until 7pm too to try and clear my inbox, working through my lunch etc and just wake up to emails like that.
Why do I bother?

 

[Sunflower91]

I’m on annual leave but so stressed about work. I made a reversible error last week which affected a coworker and I know from past experience he’ll now be telling everyone I ducked up and I already know he’s spoken to a senior manager about it. I’m so close to getting another position in the company but there’s possibility I could be investigated for what I did so now I’m worried it will stop me moving on from this toxic workplace. I want to go off sick with mental health and have felt like this for a while but that will definately stop me moving

Good management and good colleagues know that mistakes happen. No one is perfect or gets things right 100% of the time. Like you said, it was reversible. But I get it. Some places are so toxic it’s like they expect you to build a time machine to have never made a mistake and say you’ll never ever make a mistake ever again. It’s not realistic and it just adds unnecessary pressure.

Put you first, if you’re not in a good place right now- take the time you need. You’re replaceable to companies but you’re not replaceable to you, your family and your friends. You’re a person not an employee number. If this means you don’t get another position in the company, then maybe this company isn’t right for you? And I know that brings its own anxieties but I’m a firm believer that everything happens for a reason and I’ve no doubt that there’s a company out there that would be glad to have someone who clearly cares about what they do, and will look after you.

 

[House of Tea]

Thank you.

I've always had poor mental health (although I've had long periods where I've been OK). This whole situation has really affected me and I can feel myself spiralling.

With the high(ish) turnover in my department I have a gut feeling this has happened before with previous members of staff. My boss seems to be the 'gatekeeper' of my department and I have a feeling if he feels your face doesn't fit then he doesn't want you there.

Seriously, get signed off. This guying is toying with you. Your health is everything. You don’t owe them anything more, you owe it to yourself to take care of you.

 

[House of Tea]

I think a lot of people get their validation from being at work. They think it makes them someone. And they get off on hierarchies and telling people how they should be. Managers who try to change their direct reports personality are on power trips. Critique outcomes and productivity sure, but telling you you are X or not enough Y or the team were happier when you were absent is out of line.

 

[Littleelf]

I formally asked to move teams a month ago after being on the same team with some of the same people for 10 years. Can't stand the manager and I've been put in a box and not given the same opportunities to progress as other people on the team despite having way more experience than any of the others on the team. I was also treated pretty badly on my return to wark after mat leave in January, I wanted to leave my first day back.

My request was accepted and now I'm moving onto a new team with a new manager and all new work. I've known the managers for years and they are all very nice and seem happy to have me on the team. Just hoping that I won't regret the move as I had a look at some of the work they will be having me do and its a lot more complicated and in the one area u don't have experience in. They are bringing me in as a senior member of the team with quote high expectations that I'm going to check other people work so I'm nervous. I don't want them to think I'm shit basically

 

[StrawberryBanana90]

Sooo our manager has resigned with immediate effect right before the boss is going on a business trip and has wiped her computer no handover, we have no idea what she does day to day or what was in the pipeline and she’s left customer accounts in a right state
I feel so anxious and sick thinking about where the hell we even start…

 

[House of Tea]

I think the next few years are going to be harsh for employment. I dislike my job but I am in a good position at the moment, I earn decent money and my terms and conditions are good. I am just going to grit my teeth and endure it. Others may not be so lucky and will be in dire straits with a loss of income and the cost of living price rises. We don’t know what lies around the corner. The next few years are about clinging onto things for me, rather than finding something new.

 

[kendallroysdownfall]

Just about summed up my day.

 

[Codiaeum]

I really wish I had the confidence to do things like this, but thank you.

I honestly don't know if this is a game for him or not now. He sent an email this morning asking for screenshots of how many emails I have in my inbox. It's just ridiculous and has no rhyme or reason to it. He'll get his fucking screenshot once I've done everything else on my to-do list (if I don't do it he'll just use it as a stick to beat me with next time).

I told him that I didn't have the time to do everything in my inbox when he wanted it done by. The reason for this? I have to deal with other department work too so I don't have enough hours in the day. I even worked early and through my lunch yesterday and I got a "if you don't have time then I want proof that you have no time" response from him.

Can you get a note from the doctor to get out fast? This is first-class bullying and even if it's "only" three weeks or so left, this is a horrible situation to be in.

 

[it’s not been changed?!]

2 girls on my team are still making me feel uncomfortable when it’s just the 3 of us in. I think anyone would feel paranoid if 2 people were messaging each other while sat next to one another. It makes me want to not engage with them as when I do, they’ll be on their phones. I don’t have proof they are talking about me, but they exclude me, so I wouldn’t be surprised. I’ve been here 2 months and I’m a lot older than they are, so I shouldn’t let it get to me, but it makes me dread going into work. I’ve tried killing them with kindness. Not sure what else to do. We have a work night out and I really don’t want to go.

 

[Gossipdollxoxo]

I fucking hate my job. I am trained in a highly specific role and spent decades working around the world performing it. For the last year I’ve been given a role which has zero to do with my expertise and I’ve come to the conclusion it’s trashing my MH. I’m PT and get to choose my hours- but I’m finding I’m putting it off until Thursday/Friday because I just can’t face it. Last week my manager told me the news that he’s found someone to do what I’m doing now and I can go back to doing what I was doing before. This didn’t make me feel any better at all - so I’m handing in my notice this week.

Not sure what the future holds, but it’s got to be better than this torture.

Totally. I feel like handing in my notice also, it’s 12 weeks long, I don’t know whether to take the chance and hope that I find something within those 3 months.

My manager says she feels there is a lot of self doubt there around me coming from myself, not realising that it’s because of her & the things she says to me. I’ve had enough, I feel I’m a round peg trying to fit into a square hole.

The only trouble is I really love my place of work & my team. So I’m trying my best to block her out & try to carry on, as she WFH. However, I also feel whilst I have someone like that ‘leading’ me I feel I’m never going to enjoy my experience & there will always be a lid kept on me as I feel that’s what she’s trying to do.

 

[ImDavidBrent]

Just to jump on the teacher chat. I completely with how terrible behaviour is at the moment, its on another scale to what it use to be (and I’m primary). But the SLT in my school and in particular the head teacher is a known bully and micromanager/dictator (words the union used). Schools got so bad that I can’t actually face going in on Monday. I can’t do it.

 

[EasterEggs]

I had a first stage interview this week and it went well, job sounds good, the lady was really nice. But then at the end she said it was actually across two offices and I’d have to commute to the other one (an hour and a half away) once a week I feel like this should have been in the job advert surely

 

[it’s not been changed?!]

Good Luck, hope all goes well

Hmm I’m only 2 days in and the person who is meant to be training isn’t being helpful in any way! I’m spending time sat next to her but she’s not telling me why does does xyz, how you do it, how often it gets done etc it’s as if I’m not there. I’m asking questions, but I’d rather she sat with me and went through it all instead of working away like I’m not there. I’m assuming she didn’t put herself forward and was appointed to do the training, and tbh, it get the feeling she doesn’t enjoy her job and it’s a chore. The thing is, the senior member of the team is sat next to her and doesn’t seem to be taking any notice. I want to have a word with her but I don’t want to rock the boat when I’ve not even done a full week. I’m feeling frustrated and like a spare part.

 

[House of Tea]

Two days in. I was feeling positive. Was going to change my mindset. WAH yesterday. It was ok. Went into the office today. Was not ok. Positive mood has hit the floor. It’s an odd, uncooperative team. Trying to work collaboratively is like pushing a boulder up a hill. It’s shit. No amount of Fresh start, Be Positive mantras are going to cut it.

 

[User_name_100]

Me and boss are in the office today. I asked him if we could talk about concerns etc today seeing as it would be face to face and if he wants me gone then a face to face meeting is what I deserve. I even suggested a time we'd both be free and offered to book a meeting room etc. The answer was "no I'll call you tomorrow"... You couldn't make it up.

 

[Cossie]

Ever feel like you don’t want to leave but you don’t to stay because it’s toxic! But if you left you have to go through all the interview process yuck