Do you think about death?

[Hollie Day]

I fear being buried or cremated alive. That we might somehow still have awareness.

I know how mad that makes me sound.

 

[Ibrokethegoddamnwheel]

A relative died suddenly a few years back and since then I’ve thought about death more, mainly that I could literally drop dead at any time like my relative, and that would be it. Before that happened I assumed like most people really that I’d die when I was old, but now I’m acutely aware that anything could happen at any time. Although I know death is inevitable, I am a little scared of dying young when I’ve still got so much life to live and have children who need me. I’m not ready to go yet.

 

[Avenged7Fold]

Last night I had some sort of episode. I woke up with a deep feeling of unease that I wouldn’t see morning. I laid on my back and it was like something passed through me and I sat up with a start. I asked my husband to phone an ambulance and got out of bed. I have never felt so ill in my life. I felt so bad that I told my husband that I thought I was going to die and told him I loved him. It was terrifying.
Unfortunately our local hospital was at capacity for walk ins and we were in a queue for an ambulance. My husband drove me to another hospital further away. I was still suffering with chest pain and palpitations. All I could think is that I was going to die on a country road in the middle of the night and my husband would have no support.
So yes, unless it’s swift and sudden, the thought of death does scare me, and I used to be a nurse !

 

[Purrrrrrr]

I have never been scared of myself dying, but after a run of deaths in my family, I was terrified that more people I loved would die.
I lost an uncle, my mum, my sister, my best friend, another uncle, nephew, my dad then two aunts all within a couple of years

I am ok now but for a while, I could not get out of my mind that everyone I loved would die. At the moment both my brother and my best friend have cancer and I keep thinking the last time both a sibling and a best friend had cancer I lost both right after each other. but I now don't dwell on it as I did a few years back.

 

[thegreencow]

It's something that makes me very anxious and I think about it often. I guess it's just the unknown but I'm working on my health as I need to lose weight and want to be healthier. I know I have to accept that death is the ultimate destinations for us all but It's what's beyond that that scares me. Being unable to breathe but conscious in my final moments terrifies me.

I've been having a few pains in my stomach recently and probably let it a month or so longer than I should've. I'm currently in the early stages of having some tests done so am praying they don't come back as cancer. I've seen a few articles online about celebrities having bowel cancer recently and I'm scared it's a sign of things to come - stupid I know. I'm working on my diet but the topic of death is a very raw topic to me right now. It's nice to know I'm not alone in having this anxiety.

 

[simbi123]

All the time. I am getting better at pushing the thoughts away (not sure if that's the best way to deal with it!), but at one stage it was very crippling for me, especially thinking about it in relation to parents etc

 

[Babyyoda88]

It's quite a scary thought. It's a bit like when I think about the beginning of the universe, I just think "but what was here before then?" There always has to be a 'before'!

Good Grogu avatar by the way!

yes! It’s the same when I think about the universe it just is all really mind blowing, fascinating, incredible and scary at the same time.

aww thanks! I was literally obsessed with the little guy and his cuteness. But I was also really broody and was trying for a baby around the same time so I think that had a part to play in it

 

[HumptyDumptyLou]

I worry about death but worrying doesn’t cause me to make healthier choices to improve my health, it kind of has the opposite affect and I stress eat instead.

Because of decisions made when I was a child all my grandparents died while I lived overseas and in some cases I didn’t know they’d died until after the funeral so I haven’t experienced death of anyone close to me. My parents are both alive and in their 80’s but chose to move overseas three years ago and most likely the same will happen with them.

My son’s BFF died on his 10th birthday (the BFF’s birthday) and it affected my son so much it took years for him to get close to other kids because he was scared they might die too. I worry about dying and leaving him as he’s an only child and I worry he‘ll be stuck looking after his dad because there’s no one else to do that.

 

[strawb]

i am not scared of my own death but the death of my closest ones. obviously my mum, my sister, my boyfriend... but the two deaths i think about the most are my father's and my cat's. my cat's because she's an animal of course so she can't speak to me and tell me when something is wrong so i sometimes get worried for no reason. as for my father, he had a heart attack at 40 and stroke at 50. he's almost 60 now. both times i thought he was going to die, and following the stroke he also had pneumonia and fainted while we were home alone and i found him on the floor and was lying down with him for 10 minutes until he could get up - worst 10 minutes of my life. i guess because of these incidents and his overall health i worry about him the most. i also don't have the closest relationship with him so i worry i'll regret that but i do love him very much

 

[Tatooine_legend1]

If I think too much about life (and death) it freaks me the f out. What on Earth is the point of all the stuff we have to go through (being a child, working, school, depression, illness, marriage, happiness etc etc) for it all to be over in a flash and then it just be nothing forever. Sometimes I think it must be a joke because it’s so bizarre.
Off topic but I once (accidentally) took a load of ketamine (don’t ask I was a young 21 year old at uni thinking I was cool) and I had the most insane trip where I found out it was all a game and when you die you go to a new world which is a lot more simple. I know it’s a load of crap but sometimes it reassures me and my husband jokes that maybe a bit of my brain was accidentally unlocked and I saw something I shouldn’t have
On a serious note however, I do always say, and 100% mean it, that getting older is such a privilege and you should try to enjoy every moment of your life as much as you can. One phone call can change your life forever as you know it, so try and find the light in the good parts

Yeah I know what you mean about life being a joke, and being born and living only for it all to end. I often wonder why humans are even necessary (?) because as we've learned, we don't really give much back to nature and the environment, we seem to be the only animals that take from the environment and seem to need a lot to survive, whereas other animals are designed to survive far better than we are. Maybe I'm totally wrong, but it does seem that way to me.

 

[Silverplume]

I had a stroke/blood clot in my brain last year, age 57. Quit smoking a couple of years before, not ever ill, no problems with blood pressure or anything else. I got excellent emergency surgery and medical care at a supreme medical facility, and didn’t experience many after-effects, thank God.
I’m a Christian, and I’m not afraid of death and look forward to meeting Jesus, reuniting with loved ones and pets, and all of the great things Heaven has in store.
What was weird for me, though, is that I was unconscious for two days, some of which was an induced coma. I remember absolutely nothing about that time period, and that’s what is strange. I went blank. I might as well have been dead, and after that I fully realized that I have no control.
I wasn’t “ready,” was still going through papers and belongings, really doing the “Swedish Death Cleaning,” but hadn’t yet set up legal paperwork, like medical power of attorney or a will. I was trying to make our future calm and decluttered, but was only about half-finished. A few years ago, we prepaid our funerals/cremations because it’s easier for the kids.
I was trying to control my outcomes, and found that I had no control at all over the Main Event.

 

[Sibz]

I'm facinated by stories about near death experiences, out of body experiences, past life memories, people going into comas and waking up speaking fluent in another language, young children that are able to play an instrument expertly without undergoing much training. It's led me to believe that our soul doesn't die when our body does. I think that's why when a loved one dies, they never really feel "gone", it's because they're not really. It's their physical life that's gone. I also think that's why when you meet some people, you have an instant attraction and feel like you've known them before, it's because you probably have in a different lifetime.

There's a good documentry on Netflix called Surving Death which goes into some of this stuff. I'm more wary about the mediums and psychics, I think a lot of them are bogus, as it's so easy to fake, but with near death experiences and past lives the evidence is very convincing that we have a soul/consciousness that survives after death and reincarnates.

 

[Jane Tee]

Yes every day. If it happens it happens. Ive done all i can.

 

[Ensay]

This is exactly the same way I think about it too!! Just how?? Eternity. I can’t go there makes my head explode

It's quite a scary thought. It's a bit like when I think about the beginning of the universe, I just think "but what was here before then?" There always has to be a 'before'!

Good Grogu avatar by the way!

 

[Tinkerbell cat]

I’m feeling very anxious tonight and just keep fearing my parents death. They’re both very much alive but I just keep getting anxious thoughts about when they’re not hear and how il cope without them. I do fear death, I fear the unknown, I’ve lost so many people close to me including my sister and it’s just the thought of never seeing them again or hearing their voice, wondering if they knew how much loved they were and thinking about all the silly irrelevant arguments you had over the years.

 

[Geranium]

All the fucking time

 

[Honeytheonions]

I have quite macabre interests any way (nothing illegal!), so death fascinates me. As a child it frightened me, but I now see it as part of an imevitable process. Grief however is the absolute worst feeling in the world.

 

[Tatooine_legend1]

The one thing that helps ease my mind when it comes to death is thinking about the harsh times my ancestors lived through, and how all the great minds and people of the past are now dead. We currently live in better times than we ever have.

Even 100 years ago the majority of people in this country and around the world wouldn't have travelled on a plane or abroad, yet nowadays flights to Europe are affordable to many and so many people have experienced places, food and cultures that our ancestors would never have.

With a click of a button and some typing we can search anything online and learn new stuff. We live in amazing times, and even though I'm 34, I feel very fortunate to have been born and lived through these times. There are some things I would like to experience from ancient times, but overall I feel fortunate to live through this era.

 

[Pinkii]

@Fancyfeathers So very sorry for your loss. I can’t even imagine what you must be going through.

Please look after yourself, and definitely ask those around you for help.

 

[Fancyfeathers]

@Fancyfeathers So very sorry for your loss. I can’t even imagine what you must be going through.

Please look after yourself, and definitely ask those around you for help.

thankyou yeah I have believe it or not family that hasn’t been bothered with each other have all come together and the support has been nice.