I blame the toxic side of feminism for that, coupled with the rise in consumerism
As a young mum in the 70s, I didnt have to work nor did any of my peers, one wage was enough to get through the basics of life. OK no holidays abroad or takeaways a few times a week etc but no one did that anyway.
People were conned that if both parents worked we could have it all,. All it really achieved is everyone paying for others to look after their children even those who look after children are paying people to look after their children. The breakdown of families and communities all came about at the same time.
Sorry but I can’t agree with this. There’s something to be said for the unpaid and oftentimes unacknowledged labour of women/mothers, the marriage premium we confer onto our partner’s earning potential, the mental burden of motherhood, etc etc etc but I don’t think the above is it tbh.
I don’t have to work but choose to because I enjoy it and tbh because I’m in a career that earns well and took a lot of hard work to achieve so I don’t want to squander it. Me working enables us to make massive overpayments on the mortgage & save for our LO’s future. We’re second gen to this country and first gen grad/high earners so all we’ve got is all we’ve got and I’d be insane to squander an opportunity to build intergenerational wealth for my LO?
I don’t think an early years setting is just paying someone to look after your child, it’s more like a preschool and my child is more capable and confident for being there. Maybe back in the day it was more possible to socialise and educate your children in informal settings with friends who’ve all got similarly aged children but now the best case alternative is a 60-90 minute baby class is the best you’ll get in a day and oftentimes they’re naff with very little interaction between the children or educational value.
Idk I don’t like the idea of feminism being dragged into this, until men are getting the same level of questioning re their childcare choices it’s not a convo I want to have so not sure why I even replied really. Big ups working mums you’re doing it for your reasons and children of working mums have better educational outcomes so your kids are noticing your hard work