I know I'm stating the obvious but one of the things I really dislike about some DS Forum threads (R.I.P.) is that there are definite 'in' groups and heaven forbid if you say anything that even slightly challenges the prevailing narrative. I'm someone who thinks in 'grey' and can often see different sides of an issue, which can make me seem a bit flaky or indecisive. That's the downside but at least, after 16 years there, I have the cajones to admit if I'm shown to be wrong or unreasonable about something. Some FMs over there would only apologize or 'own' their mistakes under pain of death. FFS, it's a written exchange with relative strangers. Is your precious ego going to totally collapse if you- gasp- admit you're wrong about something or someone? I'll hold my own if I can back up what I'm saying but know when to walk away and chill when on a hiding to nothing rather than doggedly clinging to the last melting icicle.
Seems more even-paced here but, as a newbie, just feeling my way around atm, having lurked for many months.