for the first time in my life I feel like I’m dealing with genuine loneliness.
I had a bit of a toxic relationship a couple of months ago that ended and left me completely devastated and emotionally broken (despite the fact I don’t think I really liked him that much, I was just drawn to the comfort) and whilst I feel mostly over the situation itself minus some trauma I think it’s amplified a lot of feelings of loneliness and insecurity.
I’m an introvert by nature so I’ve always been really happy with my own company, never had any issues doing things alone if anything it was the norm/preference but I’ve always had a good groups of friends/colleague, job etc. I don’t know if it’s because I’m about to turn 30 in a couple of months and the societal pressure I felt free of previously has kicked in but out of nowhere some huge shift in my mental state has happened and I just don’t know who I am anymore.
My friends who I love dearly and have known for years feel very distant all of a sudden we just talk the same things over and over. My job is no longer fulfilling and the idea of doing anything (especially drinking) just knocks me out for days. I’ve come off social media because it’s making me feel even lonelier (although I still re-download insta here and there because of how addictive it is.) most days I find it tough getting out of bed, I’ve put on a stone in 3 months. I used to love the gym but that too is a very solitary activity, I’ve joined some classes but living in a big city no one really talks to each other.
Just wanted some reassurance if there’s any other tattlers who feel the same? Was it just a period you got over? How did you combat it? Any suggestions for new sociable hobbies too would be appreciated!
I had a bit of a toxic relationship a couple of months ago that ended and left me completely devastated and emotionally broken (despite the fact I don’t think I really liked him that much, I was just drawn to the comfort) and whilst I feel mostly over the situation itself minus some trauma I think it’s amplified a lot of feelings of loneliness and insecurity.
I’m an introvert by nature so I’ve always been really happy with my own company, never had any issues doing things alone if anything it was the norm/preference but I’ve always had a good groups of friends/colleague, job etc. I don’t know if it’s because I’m about to turn 30 in a couple of months and the societal pressure I felt free of previously has kicked in but out of nowhere some huge shift in my mental state has happened and I just don’t know who I am anymore.
My friends who I love dearly and have known for years feel very distant all of a sudden we just talk the same things over and over. My job is no longer fulfilling and the idea of doing anything (especially drinking) just knocks me out for days. I’ve come off social media because it’s making me feel even lonelier (although I still re-download insta here and there because of how addictive it is.) most days I find it tough getting out of bed, I’ve put on a stone in 3 months. I used to love the gym but that too is a very solitary activity, I’ve joined some classes but living in a big city no one really talks to each other.
Just wanted some reassurance if there’s any other tattlers who feel the same? Was it just a period you got over? How did you combat it? Any suggestions for new sociable hobbies too would be appreciated!