Hinchhater1442
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This was my initial thoughts- I just didn’t know if I looked like a bit of a bitch running to the aunts for back up. I don’t want it to cause a family drama. Honestly when it went around the rumour mill last year I asked then what I should do and they told me to keep it. I told her that when she came over but she was very pressing saying how she doesn’t think it would be wrong for me to hand it over there and then etc. I’m not a confrontational person and I felt very awkward sat in my house knowing it was within my reach but it just didn’t feel right.. I’m not sure if that’s because I let the wrong feelings cloud my judgement thoughCan you speak to the aunt about it and ask what they want you to do? That way you can say to her I’ve spoken to the aunt and they want me to keep it. I’d just be very hesitant at refusing a blood relative, even if she is annoying and entitled, you’re not actually in that family and the optics of it are quite bad even though I get now where you’re coming from. if you speak to the aunt about it and can say to her no they’ve said I should keep it sorry then it shifts the decision away from you and back into the family.
Can your husband not speak to her about it or the aunt themselves?
edit to add: I understand it might look like handing over the ring would eliminate any family drama. But I actually think it will kick start an argument with the aunts about how spoilt and entitled they think she is....
So she said something along the lines of one day just the two of them were at Nans. Nan was going through her box and SIL said she liked it so it was just a nice memory that day and Nan said she could have it.Don’t let SIL manipulate but pick your battles. It may well be important to her. Did she explain why it was?
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