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Thank you all for sharing your stories. I’m going through this at the moment. We have 2 small children, we thought we wanted a 3rd, but it’s all happened so quickly, before we really had a chance to decide properly. And now I’ve realised I can’t do it all again, and I’m so anxious. I’m 6 weeks, booked for my consultation and scan tomorrow. All the post here have really helped thank you so much xxx
I just want to send you my love and tell you it does get better. I had my abortion in January this year and I don’t regret it for a minute. I’m the same as you two children already and I just knew I couldn’t do it all again. I think I might have said on here I regretted it after but it was honestly just that my hormones were all over the place for about a month or two but as women I think we know in our hearts what’s best for us and our families. Message again if you need to
Thank you I’m sorry that you have been through this tooI just want to send you my love and tell you it does get better. I had my abortion in January this year and I don’t regret it for a minute. I’m the same as you two children already and I just knew I couldn’t do it all again. I think I might have said on here I regretted it after but it was honestly just that my hormones were all over the place for about a month or two but as women I think we know in our hearts what’s best for us and our families. Message again if you need to
I completely agree with you, I think this is the best decision for our family. I’m glad to hear that you’re in a better place now and hearing that has made me feel so much better. XxxExact same story as me and it was January tooI just want to send you my love and tell you it does get better. I had my abortion in January this year and I don’t regret it for a minute. I’m the same as you two children already and I just knew I couldn’t do it all again. I think I might have said on here I regretted it after but it was honestly just that my hormones were all over the place for about a month or two but as women I think we know in our hearts what’s best for us and our families. Message again if you need to
Wishing you all well
Hi all, so the worst thing has happened. On Tuesday I found out I’m pregnant 
I’m 5 weeks tomorrow. To me this is a tragic accident that never should have happened. As soon as I found out I called Marie Stopes, because of gestation I’d have to wait around 2-3 weeks for a surgical & as you can imagine - timing is crucial. I have opted for a medical. I’ve had quite a few phone calls with different ladies & they have all been SO nice. The medication arrived through my door today. It’s just so surreal staring at the packets of tablets that’s the difference between life & death. That’s how I feel. I 100000% know my decision is the right one but my feelings are just so all over the place. I am starting the process Monday as that’s when my partner is at home with me & kids are at school. Any advice is much appreciated. I feel lost, broken, ashamed & scared
I’m 5 weeks tomorrow. To me this is a tragic accident that never should have happened. As soon as I found out I called Marie Stopes, because of gestation I’d have to wait around 2-3 weeks for a surgical & as you can imagine - timing is crucial. I have opted for a medical. I’ve had quite a few phone calls with different ladies & they have all been SO nice. The medication arrived through my door today. It’s just so surreal staring at the packets of tablets that’s the difference between life & death. That’s how I feel. I 100000% know my decision is the right one but my feelings are just so all over the place. I am starting the process Monday as that’s when my partner is at home with me & kids are at school. Any advice is much appreciated. I feel lost, broken, ashamed & scared 
Please don't feel ashamed. You know your own limits. Your hormones are ruling you but once you're out on the other side you won't feel like this. Go easy on yourself, you'd never judge a friend or even a stranger for doing what you're doingHi all, so the worst thing has happened. On Tuesday I found out I’m pregnant
You know what is best for you and your family, and whatever decision you make is the right one.Hi all, so the worst thing has happened. On Tuesday I found out I’m pregnant
For me, the medication was very easy to take, effective, and i had no pain or sickness.
Sending lots of hugs, it’s such a awful decision to have to make
Please don't feel ashamed! Exactly a year ago we went through the same thing, my mental health wouldn't have survived another child and we had to make a decision. I feel sad every so often thinking of what could've been but then I realise my other kids needed a mother who could focus on them and if we had another I may end up in a unit or worse.Hi all, so the worst thing has happened. On Tuesday I found out I’m pregnant
Be kind to yourself and take time to heal
Hi my love, how did it go for you?Hi all, so the worst thing has happened. On Tuesday I found out I’m pregnant
Is anyone going through this just now that would like to chat? Found out yesterday I am 4 weeks pregnant (have a 4 month old baby!!) and I just can’t go through with this again. I also have a 4 year old and my husband is on the waiting list for a vasectomy and we are 100% done with having children. I’m in my 30s now but had 2x abortions as a teenager and just can’t believe I’m in this situation again. This time, the condom split and I stupidly thought it was too far out from ovulation so didn’t opt for the morning after pill.
It's not your fault you are in this situation, a split condom can happen to anyone.
Popping my head in here even though it’s not very active. Found out yesterday I’m pregnant and probably about 10 weeks 
. I have the copper coil in top which makes it even more tricky. Partner and I have been rocky as it is and this seems to have been the last straw for him and we’re now breaking up as he’s decided family life isn’t for him (he has 2 kids! 1 of which is the child we share). I didn’t want this pregnancy either but feel so alone now having to sort out my abortion and go to it alone.
I have a telephone consultation and 1st appointment next week with Marie Stopes. I’ll have to have surgical due to my gestation but I think I’d pick it anyway as they said they can take my coil out at the same time whereas if I went for the tablet I’d need to get the coil taken out by my gp before they’d treat me
. I have the copper coil in top which makes it even more tricky. Partner and I have been rocky as it is and this seems to have been the last straw for him and we’re now breaking up as he’s decided family life isn’t for him (he has 2 kids! 1 of which is the child we share). I didn’t want this pregnancy either but feel so alone now having to sort out my abortion and go to it alone.I have a telephone consultation and 1st appointment next week with Marie Stopes. I’ll have to have surgical due to my gestation but I think I’d pick it anyway as they said they can take my coil out at the same time whereas if I went for the tablet I’d need to get the coil taken out by my gp before they’d treat me
Sending you lots of love and hugs. What an awful situation. And shame on your ex partner for leaving you in such a difficult time. I had an abortion beginning of last year and it was really hard at first but I’m so glad I did it as I know it was the best decision for me and my family. Here if you need to talk or any advicePopping my head in here even though it’s not very active. Found out yesterday I’m pregnant and probably about 10 weeks
I have a telephone consultation and 1st appointment next week with Marie Stopes. I’ll have to have surgical due to my gestation but I think I’d pick it anyway as they said they can take my coil out at the same time whereas if I went for the tablet I’d need to get the coil taken out by my gp before they’d treat me
Thank you. I know it’s the right decision for us too just can’t believe how cold and uncaring my ex is being and hurts knowing I’m losing my step child too who I adore and they adore me. He’s just so selfish I can’t believe itSending you lots of love and hugs. What an awful situation. And shame on your ex partner for leaving you in such a difficult time. I had an abortion beginning of last year and it was really hard at first but I’m so glad I did it as I know it was the best decision for me and my family. Here if you need to talk or any advice
I am so sorry to hear this. Family life isn’t for him eh and he’s got two children…maybe he should have thought about that prior. Irks me how some men can just walk away and leave everything to the woman.
You are strong I’m sure and you will get through this!
Again just to also wish you the best. I went through mine alone too and honestly I think I would prefer that to some idiot, uncaring man in my way. There were plenty of women there alone.
Thinking of you and wishing you well. We are here if you need any advise or just a supportive ear.
Thinking of you and wishing you well. We are here if you need any advise or just a supportive ear.
Just as an update as I don’t have many other people I can talk to about this. I had my first appointment today at the clinic and they scanned me, I’m 10 weeks 4 days so have to have the surgical abortion. It’s booked for next Thursday. Updated my ex and got a ‘thanks for letting me know, hope you’re ok’ response. Took the rest of the day off work as just wanted to be alone and curl up in a ball.
He's a fool. I hope you're ok. Let yourself wallow for a bit. You'll come out fighting when it's all over and know you've made the right decision and you'll be free of a lump of a man that didn't deserve you
I hope your okay
He’s shown you what type of person he is and it’s a cliche but you absolutely deserve better than that.
you will be stronger at the other side of this but for now take care and be kind to yourself xx