I’m in a long term relationship now with a man I met at work but in the past I have used PoF and Tinder. Both apps were a bit cringy in their own ways - cheesy chat up lines etc and why do men always post a photo of them with a big fish?!
Not exactly the same but I have also used Seeking when sugar dating to supplement some income. I didn’t feel good about myself doing it long term though and realised that the guys on there weren’t ever looking to settle down. I needed to find a way to pay my rent (as my circumstances changed) and that happened to be it for a short period of time.
My friend has been using Bumble and has had quite an experience! She met a guy four weeks ago on there and in that timeframe they’ve been having a relationship of sorts in fastforward speed. In that time they’ve been out for dinner, to the zoo, met each other’s families and have been sleeping together and regularly staying round each other’s places. On their first date he serenaded her with the pina colada song in front of a whole bar of people - massive cringe. Obviously worked on her though! He also would text her to ask if she “wanted to go for a drive”, which is a bit strange to me, I would have asked him to make a proper plan with me for another day. He even came to her birthday dinner, which was a week or so ago, so as her friends we have now met him.
Anyway, Valentine’s Day rolls around and bearing in mind that it’s a new “relationship” I think she thought that he might send her a card or flowers. Nothing happens all day - not even a text message. I think she got involved too quickly and he was love bombing her. It gave me a lot of red flags as to how quickly it was all going and so I wasn’t particularly surprised that had avoided Valentine’s Day. He messaged her the day after Valentine’s Day to break things off by saying he “needed some space”. So, there’s a cautionary tale!