Dating after lockdown #8 Tinder, completed it!

[LaurieLaurie]

He last text me Wednesday morning. I posted a screenshot earlier of what he said which was a chatty nice message. I replied and it was delivered but never received a response so text again. Everything else has been undelivered.

I feel like this happens so often now that it’s almost normal

 

[Bettyboo2021]

@Bettyboo2021 you seem kind of all over the place. On the one hand putting yourself down and trying to self-diagnose (and also bringing up stuff your ex said which is like...why countenance his opinion anymore?) why you're single, on the other thinking this poor guy should be out invading Carthage in your name after a date that happened last night - please just see this for what it is at the moment, a potentially nice distraction from going through a painful loss. Text the man something concrete!

I wasn’t talking about him fighting wars over me, and aster 1 date I’m not remotely invested...my point was if a man wants a woman it’s natural instinct to go after her...I was only making a joke about being on the spectrum I like to laugh at myself it’s how I handle things when life gets tough, and tough it very much is at the moment

 

[Bettyboo2021]

Oh she's just absolutely gorgeous and you can even tell from the photos that she was a big personality! My dog does that thing of cosying up to visitors instead of me but I know she loves our little morning cuddles the best. My heart is breaking for you but we just have to remember the joy they bring - remember, they are only a small part of our lives but we're their whole life. And clearly you made hers as happy as possible.
Also, you are absolutely stunning, these arsehole dudes fucking WISH.

Sorry I only just saw this!
Thank you these are such lovely thing to say I do take so much comfort in it. what sort of dog do you have? Xx

 

[Sheabutter]

I've just read a preview of this and it's shocked me.... seems a bit "how to be a stepford wife"....

It’s not about becoming a stepford wife It’s about how to keep someone obsessed with you.

 

[Louloublu]

Hi ladies! I've recently returned to the apps (5 years single, just turned 40 - slightly in a rush now ) and seem to be on fire with matches on Bumble. However! I'm really struggling with my openers - I've tried being funny (I think I'm hilarious!), taking a general interest in their profile or just a "hey!" But they don't seem to like my bait - a friend told me not to worry, most guys just like the ego boost of a match. Any tips on openers welcome!!!!

 

[Sheabutter]

Well it's a world I don't think I'll be able to deal with if I'm honest. Loss of any kind really affects me now having lost the most important person in my life. I am so lonely. My friends are evidently useless and even in friendships it seems to be me chasing them. I must be a god awful person and not realise it

Aw It doesn’t sound that way to me! Maybe try reading The Rules by Ellen Fein & Sherrie Schneider. It’s about dating and so-called unspoken rules. I love how they put an emphasis on not getting hurt. They recommend applying some of their principles to friendships and I found it insightful. Much love

 

[ATV2021]

Spend tomorrow crying, give your poor eyes a break tonight

I don't wanna cry at all if I'm honest but can't seem to stop it! Wish he hadn't said things to me like I wouldn't be alone at Xmas.... he also had a week to tell me there was no "great spark" as I asked him, to his face on Saturday last week if he was happy to continue and he said yes and kissed me so WTF. I'm just so confused by it all

 

[NoseyNiamh]

Mr Perfect arranged a date for Friday but I haven't heard from him in two days . Back to the drawing board.

 

[realhousewivewannabe]

We need secret code words hahaha / all need to wear a certain colour or something so we can find each other

 

[Jmx]

how recent is your break up?

3 months but I hoped we’d get back together.

 

[ATV2021]

They also didn’t have mobiles in 1995 or internet dating

Oh they've produced an updated version of the stepford Bible for the digital era

 

[NoseyNiamh]

Thank you. I know it can feel like I'm overreacting but I really did let my guard down and believe what he was saying as figured have to trust people.... but then last weekend when he said all women were C**** I was like erm wtf.

Anyway people let's set a date in the diary to meet haha 18th September? St Pancras lol

He said what?????
I just got sick in my mouth. What absolute dickhead of an excuse of a man.
You have had such a lucky escape so early on!!

 

[square_spoon]

Holy fuck guys, I’ve just found out my ex-husband is having a baby
What the hell do I do with this news. I’m in shock. He wouldn’t let me have a baby as ‘he didn’t want to share me’ the stupid cunt.

it’s ok I already had a daughter from a previous relationship and she’s the best. But honestly, what a cunt. Please learn from my story gang.

Shit, what a bollocks. You’re probably in shock! These dudes are so commitment-phobic at times that they can’t even commit to a point of view on kids and stick to it. Maybe he’s quite happy to share the new lady with a kiddo…

 

[hereforthememe]

Right, I'd be the very one to tell others on this thread to calm down and not over think stuff but here it goes.
Mr Perfect messaged me last night, we only exchanged a few messages. And when the chat was over he was still online for ages afterwards.
He hasn't messaged today ...yet, which is fine.
But what's everyone's attitude when it comes to messaging. What do you all expect?
Also after a first date when they have asked to see you again, when would you expect them to bring that up again.
Also when is it too soon to sleep with someone...he's so hot

I expect a give/take approach - wait for him to initiate the chat now, but I don't expect all day every day contact, especially this early

Sleep with him whenever you feel comfortable. With my ex I slept with him quite quick as it just felt right, with others I've made them wait

 

[ATV2021]

Don't blame you, im never on there long before I get done with it! Although I am sticking around to see what happens with this guy I've basically known all my life just hope it's not too awkward

Yeah I met what I thought was a great guy and yet here I am so just go through everyone going NOPE NOPE NOPE NOPE so I've deleted them again haha this wine is lovely

 

[ATV2021]

Just get the dick, never too soon

Not wait for 3 dates or whatever BS is spouted these days then lol

 

[Very traditional]

I didn't, sorry! I think I had read your reply and automatically quoted

Did you mean to quote me?

 

[ATV2021]

Yeah this is my exact stance too. For something to change so drastically, they know what they’re doing and they know that YOU know what they’re doing. It becomes like a power struggle or a game of Who Cares the Least.

Meeehhh, I’m going through one of those periods of “FFS, why is no one normal??” after a series of hopefuls that have all turned out to be non-starters for one reason or another and it’s making me feel all reflective Someone fucking slap me.

I always think that I'm normal (depending on who you ask) and therefore there MUST be other normal men on these things haha

 

[HelloStereo]

No, I need praise , so thanks

I can't block him, we have money things to sort out next month. He will be blocked then

So after next month he can be out of your life forever?

 

[Jadejones9596]

Well first things first, do some Facebook creeping to make sure he's not still married.
Then just swipe right! What's the worst that could happen?

Thank you, I am going to have a glass or 2 of wine tonight to get brave and match him