Dating after lockdown #8 Tinder, completed it!

[hereforthememe]

Unless they have switched off their read receipts then it'll always sit on 2 x grey marks

 

[SpindleWhorl]

Downloaded Tinder the other day, says I have 99+ likes but only 2 matches? I'm not THAT picky . I had it a few years ago and used to get multiple matches a day

 

[BunnyLebowski]

Code Red!

The Narc messaged me . Save me

Oh babe. Just say No. that said, I’m phoning Fat Cunt in a minute if i don’t hear back. Failing that, I’ll go bang on his door. He only lives one street away

 

[HelloStereo]

Sending love @HelloStereo - I'm sure it'll be fine! It's natural to fear the worst I think but it's almost NEVER what you're imagining.

Anywayyyyy I'm a wine down, and just writing a little bit of erotic fiction for the guy I'm seeing. He didn't ask me to do it but it's something I enjoy and he bloody loves it.

BUT it got me thinking of a question to start wine night off - what's the weirdest thing someone's asked you to do for/during sex?

Honestly think it must have been a repressed memory or something but today I suddenly remembered that an ex of mine asked me a couple of times at the heat of the moment to bark like a dog. And I did it

Thank you. You know it's not even like I am thinking he is avoiding me. I genuinely think something might have happened because you don't quit your WhatsApp to avoid one person, you'd just block them.

Good luck with your erotic fiction. I am five beers down now . The oddest thing someone has requested has been to see me showering or to film it

 

[NoseyNiamh]

Are any stories of GOOD SEX allowed?

I probably have more of these

 

[Bettyboo2021]

You were able to chat to him and open up to him about your loss on the first date though? Now you can barely string a sentence together so how can you possibly get to know him better if you don't even make an effort? I'm not trying to be mean here and I know you're going through a tough time but I do think you're being a bit unfair to him.

I know and I honestly prefer people telling me the truth than sugar coating everything ...i think it was easy to talk about Betty (we talked about lots of animals too) as she was my biggest passion and I was relieved after days of being cooped up in the house to be able to let it all out..I’m also not really eating and sleeping (I just picked at a salad) so it’s all a bit of a blur really....now the date is over I’m back to being awkward old me not bringing my ex up at all but our dates involved sheds loads of alcohol and drunken sex..I’m absolutely no good at the traditional route...maybe if I had had a few drinks might be different but on a week long empty stomach scraping me off the floor isn’t a good look

 

[BunnyLebowski]

I'm sadly very normal so it ain't me well "normal" hahaha


Yep I'm all for the no contact now. Don't care to contact me? BYEEE

Really??? Well this is a fucking shame. I’ve been spilling my guts here and don’t need the haterz. If there’s any way I can prove I’m legit, someone tell me. I’m not gonna doxx myself on here. Cunts

 

[Jmx]

App day 1:
Got a potential date lined up for next week (prepared for him to cancel) but he’s not my type at all. The chat is easy but I feel like I’m probably only going to try and get over my psycho ex (I’m obsessed even though I know that he’s a horrible person).

Would any of you go on Naked Attraction?

No way! I’ve watched it loads and none of their ‘bits’ ever look like mine, it worries me slightly

 

[ATV2021]

Omg you girls have had way more sex than me I literally don’t think I have the right pheromones or whatever they are I live like a 60 year old nun my neighbours have never seen me with a man

Tbf nor have mine! This last guy did come over but they were all on holiday

 

[ATV2021]

He doesn't even sound like someone you should be wasting emotional energy on if he said something like that to be honest. Imagine if things progressed more with him and he kept making sexist remarks about women. Sounds like a bit of a misogynist.

18th September at St Pancras is honestly good for me!

I know. Like my friend said it was probably just the final straw of everything I've held in over the last couple of years as I'm a strong independent woman! Lol

Yay for 18th St Pancras...! Come on everyone else, get it in the diary lol we can have some cocktails somewhere (or whatever preferred beverage there is)

 

[HelloStereo]

Yeah I know what you mean. It's very odd, I can understand why you're worried. I've no advice I'm afraid, just hoping you'll hear from him very soon x

I hope so too and thank you. I just wanted to get it off my chest rather than look for advice.

It worries me that he's the kind of person who will go off radar due to trouble or personal issues and not say. If he gets back to me and offers an explanation this one time I might let it slide. But I will say if he does it again I won't see him. Is that reasonable? I know I've not known him a long time but it does make me so worried and I can't deal with people suddenly vanishing into thin air.

 

[HelloStereo]

Hey gang,
Dog walking date went very well. He’s currently snoring beside me, but in a cute way. I met him, we took his dog for a walk, then he took me to the pub and bought me a roast and 4 glasses of vino. Then we can back to his and watched a film. Loads of sex. Now sleeping. Fucking hell, I like this one. Wish me luck guys xx

Good luck . Sounds like a great date. I hope you have more like that

 

[Bettyboo2021]

It's still a little while away so you may feel like it nearer the time. The invite will remain open x

Thank you

 

[LaurieLaurie]

I can’t help but read that in Jay’s voice from the inbetweeners (something about a game and he says completed it mate for those who don’t know it)

can anyone advise how to approach the relationship subject clearly? I’ve dropped hints that I want to know if we have a label or not but he seems to avoid it. I’m not sure if that’s rejection or what to be honest. We’ve known each other a few months and been seeing each other for around a month. I don’t know where I stand with him and any sign of emotion he claims up! Too soon maybe?

I think it’s still early days.. I’d go with the flow and enjoy it without putting any pressure on but if you want to know where you stand stop dropping hints and just ask him.

 

[Bettyboo2021]

Needs must! If he can help during this horrific time then absolutely reach out to him!

Thank you xxx

 

[ATV2021]

Be glad he’s gone but don’t let him stop you from finding someone else.
You had anxiety the whole time he was there and shouldn’t have been waiting around wondering when he was going to text you. Next time you get that vibe from a man.. Remove yourself because when someone is interested in you they will be talking to you every day.

I know but I'm genuinely not looking for anyone. I've had someone in the past who text me every morning/during day etc and he dumped me aswell saying no spark. This guy said he deleted apps/we were only seeing each other etc etc like a bloody week ago!! I feel so used....again. I'm just gonna resign to single life as I cannot get hurt and guess that means I'm to bow out of this thread too

 

[realhousewivewannabe]

Oh @LaurieLaurie tell me about it. I think it was clearly an act! And a very confusing one too. I think maybe just so I would sleep with him? And I won’t so maybe this is really him. I’ve been blue ticked since sunday.

 

[LaurieLaurie]

oh goodness, I love the it he wanted to he would phrase, but relating it to me sucks lol. I absolutely hate being ignored, I find it painful. It drives me absolutely insane to the point where my brain flips and I probably like someone more, because they’re ignoring me or want their approval even more (if that even make sense). Ive put myself in some very shitty situations/ irrational thinking because a man is ignoring me.

funnily enough is ignoring me atm and being left on blue ticks by him irks me so much.

Why is he ignoring you?
I thought he was portraying himself as Mr Perfect.

 

[Thank(space)you]

Where are my wine drinkers @? Was looking forward to drunken tales

 

[HelloStereo]

Yes I know I think it’s doubly hard because he was also quite a reserved person..like I never hug people I don’t initiate affection or anything...and he was exactly the same so we were 2 people having a nice meal (which he bought me, even though I tried to pay), I really really struggle with showing my emotions, or asking questions or anything of people...to give you a bit of context I never have had any help my whole life financially, or emotional support I don’t really have any family. I have a few close friends but it’s superficial as in drinks, lunch etc nothing on a deep level. So, over the course of my life I’ve gone into myself, the longest relationships I’ve had is when someone had pursued me constantly and I’ve gone with the flow..then either become attached to them Inside myselF or not. I hope this goes some way to explaining my challenges xx

I understand . I am not so close with my family either and it's only in later years one parent has ever shown me any affection. I know how it feels to be completely self reliant and not really know how to demonstrate affection for people. Then you find one person who you feel understands you on a deeper level and it's so rare you attach yourself to them no matter what they do.

But you also have us here who can give an outside perspective which hopefully helps. No one here has said it would be too forward if you asked him, and you have given us screenshots so we have the whole story. I just think you being scared to open yourself up to him means you are sending messages he could take as a lack of interest.

Did he reply to your message? xxx