Dating a colleague- is it a good or bad idea?

[Suzesnooze]

We are the only 2 on our team that are in the office everyday, everyone else works from home majority of the time but for our jobs we can’t honestly I don’t see anything actually happening, he is my type but so is every male with dark hair and a beard lol I think it is just a case of me being newly single and him being the only male I am around a lot at the moment but I am glad to hear it worked out for you! Did you work closely with your husband when you first started dating?

Are you not actually seeing each other yet?

I used to work for a big company with loads of young people. Everyone was seeing one another! I had a few flings but the place was so big, I never really saw them much afterwards. But if I had worked closely with someone, I would have thought twice as when it ends you still have to see them everyday.

 

[Mumdrum]

We've been married for 16 years worked at the same company although not in the same team, we did keep quiet about it originally, it depends if it's just because of lockdown and lack of men around?? I would say no rush get to know him outside of work but dont rush into anything

 

[JoeBloggs]

I met my husband at work, but he left the store about 3 months after we got together and I left about 6 months after. We didn’t work in the same department.

 

[gossboss14]

Yes I got that but your title is 'dating a colleague is it good or bad' so I assumed you were asking the question before you decided to date him but then couldn't work out if you were dating him as when you said you couldn't see anything happening and I thought you meant you couldn't see it lasting!

My advice is to not go there if you work so closely together!

ohhh no I'm just generally curious as to what peoples opinions are on the idea of it/anyones experience with it haha! yeah that's pretty much my view, I'd feel so awkward if it ended lol

 

[cedarpeach]

I met my OH at work and we’ve been together 6 years now. We didn’t work together long though, we both moved on to new jobs within several months of getting together.

 

[silkytoes]

I know people who've made it work but I also know people where it went horribly wrong - the ones that went well knew each other really well before dating and were both in it for something serious.

The one I'm thinking of particularly that went really bad was my friend who fancied a guy at work that she'd never even spoken to before until they started doing a bit of work together from home over lockdown.

She heard rumours about him in relationships with other staff in the past where he didn't behave great but kinda ignored them. It then turned out he was completely crazy. She didn't want anything too serious yet anyway and tried to take it slow but he was super intense and trying to move really fast which made her back off even more. She ended it and still gets angry ranty crazy texts from him which is super awkward as they still work together and will see each other in person when they go back to work!

 

[toffeejelly]

My ex from years ago worked offshore but for the same company. All fine until we split up and I had to email him for his visas, whilst we were trying to sell our house. Awkward

I then moved departments, and was seeing a guy in the department on and off. He became VERY clingy though and I had to call it off, which was difficult given our desks were right next to each other and we saw one another every day.

Personally I wouldn't recommend it but each to their own

 

[sarahboo]

My ex was a colleague, worked great in the beginning but the people we worked with were nosey & tried at every opportunity to get involved in our business, so it was quite hard going at times. It was great having an understanding of why the other had a shit day at work because we knew what it was like but then sometimes it was a nightmare because we would have opposite views on things, so it became another thing to argue about.
Plus, we couldn't do anything together without other colleagues insinuating that we were off banging in a cupboard or something which was stupid because we did try to keep our relationship outside of work.

Saying all that though, I do think it depends on where you work and how closely you work together. It didn't work for me but I fully believe it can work for others & know people that live & work with their OH & still can't get enough of them!

 

[Flossy2019]

My now boyfriend I met at work and three years later and a baby we are a still going strong , But he has changed roles - still in the same workplace but we work opposite hours so we don’t see each other. If we ended I don’t think it would be awkward as we wouldn’t run into each other much or he’s always said he would leave as he wouldn’t be able to cope

but before him I had a one nighT thing with another colleague. I already knew him before I started we were friends and are still friends now it isn’t awkward or anything but neither of us mention it so we just pretend like it never happened as it shouldn’t have( too many drinks on the Christmas do) we have worked together since and we see each other in the office all the time. People used to comment what a good couple we would make but it’s not like that.
I think it depends on the two people if you’re on the same page then it shouldn’t be awkward it’s quite exciting having an office fling when no one else in the office has a clue