Dating a colleague- is it a good or bad idea?

[judgejohndeed]

Don’t shit where you eat!

 

[coconochanel]

I dated one once it was awful and awkward when we broke up.

 

[They See Me Trolling...]

I personally would say avoid. Don’t shit where you eat. I know there are many happy couples on this thread but if it goes south it would get very awkward

 

[Chandler Bing]

Been married to one for 5 years now so...

Honestly I think it also depends on how closely you work together, if your company has a policy against it and how easy it would be for you to avoid each other if ot didn't work out? In a way that you didn't make others uncomfortable or choose sides.

 

[gossboss14]

Been married to one for 5 years now so...

Honestly I think it also depends on how closely you work together, if your company has a policy against it and how easy it would be for you to avoid each other if ot didn't work out? In a way that you didn't make others uncomfortable or choose sides.

We are the only 2 on our team that are in the office everyday, everyone else works from home majority of the time but for our jobs we can’t honestly I don’t see anything actually happening, he is my type but so is every male with dark hair and a beard lol I think it is just a case of me being newly single and him being the only male I am around a lot at the moment but I am glad to hear it worked out for you! Did you work closely with your husband when you first started dating?

 

[ClockworkDolly]

I can’t decide if I’m in love with my work colleague or if it’s just the lack of any male interaction this year getting to my head

I recently went through a breakup, we were long distance so I hadn’t actually seen him since January. Anyway I’ve always had very firm lines between professional and personal life, so I’m curious how other people feel about the idea of dating a work colleague?

Messy, complicated, one to avoid.

 

[Sosig]

Me and my ex of around 9 months worked for the same company and knew the same colleagues/circles. The ex had a reputation for dating colleagues in the past so every move we made the gossip was spread like wildfire.

I then left company as I had a new job, we split up a few months later and he had to deal with the gossip and the questions which was the least he deserved

In the new job I had a casual encounter with an immediate colleague which was exciting at first but then that fizzled very quickly.

My boyfriend works for the same company as me however it’s huge and he’s in a totally different department to me with totally different colleagues/circles/management so I technically don’t class him as a colleague.

 

[Chandler Bing]

We are the only 2 on our team that are in the office everyday, everyone else works from home majority of the time but for our jobs we can’t honestly I don’t see anything actually happening, he is my type but so is every male with dark hair and a beard lol I think it is just a case of me being newly single and him being the only male I am around a lot at the moment but I am glad to hear it worked out for you! Did you work closely with your husband when you first started dating?

We didn't work closely together, not in the same team but we were in the same building etc so did see each other every day, had many mutual friends and stuff. Funnily enough now we still don't work together but our workspaces are separated by one window so I have to look at him every waking moment basically!

 

[gossboss14]

I can’t decide if I’m in love with my work colleague or if it’s just the lack of any male interaction this year getting to my head

I recently went through a breakup, we were long distance so I hadn’t actually seen him since January. Anyway I’ve always had very firm lines between professional and personal life, so I’m curious how other people feel about the idea of dating a work colleague?

 

[Trolleydollycoffeelover]

In my workplace it’s very normal to date/marry a colleague but my job isn’t a regular 9-5 one. Don’t know how it would be in a regular office setting though and how it would affect your work. I’m in two minds- my professional head says stay away as especially in the current environment it’s difficult to switch jobs now if it goes tits up but my romantic head says none of us are getting any younger and he could be The One and would be sad for you to miss out on something that would potentially make you happy.

 

[Chickenandgravy]

I was a little promiscuous when I was younger and slept with 5 people I worked with. Ended up really falling for one and he absolutely broke my heart so I left. Fast forward 4 years and I met my new partner in work (diff department) and we have a house together and are stable.
I would say if your working that close then don't, it's hard seeing them everyday when all you want is them to love you back

 

[Suzesnooze]

no I’m not seeing him lol I’ve just realised my sense of humour definitely hasn’t been made clear in my post, oops I was just joking about the idea of being in love with him

Yes I got that but your title is 'dating a colleague is it good or bad' so I assumed you were asking the question before you decided to date him but then couldn't work out if you were dating him as when you said you couldn't see anything happening and I thought you meant you couldn't see it lasting!

My advice is to not go there if you work so closely together!

 

[Likkleone]

I think this is the type of thing where the idea is more exciting than the reality if I were you and he was single, I’d be enjoying the flirt and excitement but not look for anything more than that

 

[Vivian124]

And the amount of people that say oh my God i could neeeeever work my with OH. But they didn't meet through work so can't really relate.

 

[Scullybob]

I have 2 different experiences. When I was much younger, I had an intense relationship with a man at work. It ended horribly, I was totally heartbroken and it was so painful having to see him everyday. Thankfully he moved away not long afterwards. Then I started dating another guy in the same organisation but we never worked together. We're married now and have been together for 25 years. He always knows what I'm talking about when ive had a bad day, and vice versa. We're really solid and have a great relationship xx

 

[Vivian124]

I was with a work colleague before. It ended i was broken hearted and still had to see him every day which killed me cos i didn't want to see him at all. So regretted that. Now with my oh/ work colleague the last 18 months and see him every day. All good. But for us to progress i.e live together we've said one of us has to move departments. That will happen in about 6 months.
If it ended tomorrow it would be a complete nightmare cos we work close enough together. Thankfully i don't see that happening. It was a huge risk we took.

 

[Lulu Goss]

I met my partner at work. I joined a team that he was in and the rest is history! We’re still together and it’s been 7 years now. He left the company about a year after we got together though.

 

[gossboss14]

Are you not actually seeing each other yet?

I used to work for a big company with loads of young people. Everyone was seeing one another! I had a few flings but the place was so big, I never really saw them much afterwards. But if I had worked closely with someone, I would have thought twice as when it ends you still have to see them everyday.

no I’m not seeing him lol I’ve just realised my sense of humour definitely hasn’t been made clear in my post, oops I was just joking about the idea of being in love with him

 

[Tricham]

Bit different, maybe, because we were together before working together, but my hubby and i have been colleagues for 7 years and I don't really get the issue with mixing work and personal life! In fact, I like that my husband appreciates what I go through on a daily basis (and vice versa) it also saves us tonnes of money as we only need one car to commute! At our company a lot of relationships have been formed as well.

And the amount of people that say oh my God i could neeeeever work my with OH. But they didn't meet through work so can't really relate.

I didn't meet my husband throught work. In fact, i was telling my boss that my then-Fiance was looking for a job, when she suggested he join us (I never thought it was a bad idea.. mind you we weren't living together then!)! 7 years later we're both still working together there.

 

[Prodcon21]

Been married to mine for 3 years. Work in the same team.