HahaI had that tik tok stuck in my head of the lassie shouting “why are you running!? Is someone chasing you?!” When I read you went out for one. Good for you tho
Mums know best.
9, 10 and 12 are still children. A 16 year old is not a child. Maybe save your opinion of people with older teenagers until you have experience in that area and can share helpful tips, rather than unhelpful judgements.That shocked me as well. Mine are 9, 10, and 12 and we've been out every day for our hour of fresh air (often more like 2 hrs tbh #rebel) and as their Mum I've made that a non-negotiable.
There is a reason the govenment have consistently encouraged those who aren't shielding to go outside for daily exersize; it's really vital for your mental and physical health.
I don't want to be too judgemental, but there's no sugar-coating it sometimes, and to oversee a teenager not leaving the house for approx 7 weeks (without any particular reason) is piss poor parenting by anyones standards.
I have no doubt that if allowed, my kids would sit on gadgets all bloody day, and always decline fresh air(!), but I'm the adult in the relationship so I make suee they get their fruit and veg, fresh air, academic input, emotional support. I mean duck me I ain't no Mary Poppins but 7 weeks of staying inside
Depends if you've had a falling out recently
Thank you. Exactly. My sons been through a lot this last year in school due to bullying from friends he trusted, they turned to drugs and cut him out as he didn’t want to be involved so he had a hard year with no friends in school anymore, Then coronavirus hit, locked down and it’s all made his anxiety worse. He’s become more anxious about going outside than he was before the virus, he was worried incase he bumped into those old friends. Now the virus, I can’t say I blame him for wanting some time out from the world. I’m supporting him as his mum. Mental health is priority and we can’t all be Joe Wickes wanting to walk and run for better mental health. He’s a young man and in time he will get back out there when the world feels less of a scary place and he has his family right behind him.Haha
I just imagine my kids chasing me asking for yet more snacks
Soon gets me moving.
I run so I can consume gin. There is nothing joyful about it at all
Mums know best.
ALWAYS!
Whatever keeps him safe and happy is all that matters
Even parents evenings in my sons school is like your making them do the "walk of shame", I've never seen so many boys not wanting to be "seen dead " with their parents
Parents are not cool 
..Bless him! he's happy and comfortable so it really doesn't matter! and you and him know what's best for him.
I think we could be friendsRun Fat boy Run is pretty accurate
Ahh I remember weeks ago when lockdown first started you said about him cutting ties with them.
Thank you, that’s very ressuring as I always worry about his future. What if after school he doesn’t go onto college etc due to anxiety but whatever he does he will do it in time. His anxiety getting better is all that matters now. He has social anxiety after his bad experiences in high school. He’s been through bullying and then lost his circle of friends he’s known since he was 3, due to drugs. He’s been lonely, he cried to us saying ‘why aren’t I like normal kids my age? Why do I have panic attacks? Why do I have no friends anymore like kids my age have? It broke my heart as I’ve nor seen him cry since he was a little boy. This was all at the beginning of lockdown.
It must be so hard to watch your son go through this. You sound a lovely mum and all you can do is what’s best at the time - if feeling safe and secure within your own 4 walls is it, then so be it. Once this is over he’ll get through it and he will gain confidence I’m sureThank you, that’s very ressuring as I always worry about his future. What if after school he doesn’t go onto college etc due to anxiety but whatever he does he will do it in time. His anxiety getting better is all that matters now. He has social anxiety after his bad experiences in high school. He’s been through bullying and then lost his circle of friends he’s known since he was 3, due to drugs. He’s been lonely, he cried to us saying ‘why aren’t I like normal kids my age? Why do I have panic attacks? Why do I have no friends anymore like kids my age have? It broke my heart as I’ve nor seen him cry since he was a little boy. This was all at the beginning of lockdown.
He’s doing much better now and he’s content at home. His anxiety is coming down, just the odd surge of adrenaline but he seems calmer now he’s out of school, he still has anxiety which I keep an eye on but he’s doing well. He’s been in his room a lot talking to friends online, awake later at night talking to his friends on the Pc games in America but if it makes him happy I’m happy. After lockdown we’re going to see if he will come to a private therapist or do a video therapy session just for a few weeks as a pick me up and some extra support.
Im an introvert and my son is too, he just takes after me. We love being at home. I don’t go out much myself. He would happily stay in lockdown all year I’m sure, going out doesn’t bother him where as his sisters are climbing the walls
Im glad you’re doing ok. You’re a strong person going to uni and not letting anxiety hold you back.
You made me tear up, thank you so much. I had a huge cry to my husband today as deep down I do worry about my son in the future incase anxiety stops him going onto college etc. I have an anxiety disorder after an assault years ago but I never expected my children to suffer. All of the things my sons been through in school triggered anxiety so it is really hard when you have anxiety yourself as you know how they feel, you feel their panic attacks and you want to take it away from them. My husband said I’d he can’t go onto college straight away and needs time out to have a bit of therapy for his anxiety and panic so what, 8t means this old group of friends who’ve caused him this anxiety move on and he doesn’t have t see them. I guess he’s right, he’s only young and often kids take time out of education for one reason or another after they leave school. Yes I think that far ahead to next year lol,Ahh I remember weeks ago when lockdown first started you said about him cutting ties with them.
He's safe at home, from them and from this virus, so I can completely see why he wouldnt want to go out.
If he's happy inside, so be it, it won't be long until he'll have to go out so until then let him do whatever relieves his anxiety
Doing a great job lovely
i can too ..i went to our local Iceland to do a cheap food shop ..i wish i hadnt now .it was absolute carnage in there. no real control on door ..left to customers to decide when to go in. no customers or majority of staff had any idea about social distancing. i moved aside to make space between me and a family of 3 divvy women who kept getting near everone and some woman virtually mowed me down with her trolley. it was as if she didnt even see me. I won't be going in there again..ill pay more and go sainsburys least they have it under control!
Thank you so muchIt must be so hard to watch your son go through this. You sound a lovely mum and all you can do is what’s best at the time - if feeling safe and secure within your own 4 walls is it, then so be it. Once this is over he’ll get through it and he will gain confidence I’m sure
It has been an incredibly hard time for him and us seeing him anxious. He suffered anxiety in year 6 when he was bullied, he struggled badly with panic going to high school but he had a bit of school therapy and got over the bullying he’d experienced. All because he had gained weight after an operation, kids can be so cruel picking on someone’s weight.Don't want to derail the thread but feel free to message me! I can really relate to a lot of what he's been through. I come from a family of party animals and I was always the one hidden upstairs reading a book lol! Hated sleepovers and going over other kids houses. I'm an only child as well so was really used to playing alone. I've spent so many nights in my teenage years wishing I could be like other people and I still have those moments but as I got older and my social circle expanded I realised that there are people like me and most importantly is there's really nothing wrong with me!! and like him I have a lot of online friends who are interested in the same things as me and you can find people who are interested in the same thing a lot easier! I really hope the extra support works for him and you sound like such a marvellous, supportive mother, he's very lucky to have you!Thank you, that’s very ressuring as I always worry about his future. What if after school he doesn’t go onto college etc due to anxiety but whatever he does he will do it in time. His anxiety getting better is all that matters now. He has social anxiety after his bad experiences in high school. He’s been through bullying and then lost his circle of friends he’s known since he was 3, due to drugs. He’s been lonely, he cried to us saying ‘why aren’t I like normal kids my age? Why do I have panic attacks? Why do I have no friends anymore like kids my age have? It broke my heart as I’ve nor seen him cry since he was a little boy. This was all at the beginning of lockdown.
He’s doing much better now and he’s content at home. His anxiety is coming down, just the odd surge of adrenaline but he seems calmer now he’s out of school, he still has anxiety which I keep an eye on but he’s doing well. He’s been in his room a lot talking to friends online, awake later at night talking to his friends on the Pc games in America but if it makes him happy I’m happy. After lockdown we’re going to see if he will come to a private therapist or do a video therapy session just for a few weeks as a pick me up and some extra support.
Im an introvert and my son is too, he just takes after me. We love being at home. I don’t go out much myself. He would happily stay in lockdown all year I’m sure, going out doesn’t bother him where as his sisters are climbing the walls
Im glad you’re doing ok. You’re a strong person going to uni and not letting anxiety hold you back.
Your husband is spot on.
I was the same due to being bullied and such social anxiety stemming from that. I went to college a little late and then uni, I don't regret waiting a couple+ of years longer because I was ready then, my family are and were just the best and most supportive, you sound the same. It will get easier for him, he will find friends worthy of his friendship and subjects and interests he wants to pursue further. It's ok to take a little time.
I’m crying, thank you, I’ve had an emotional day worrying about his future. I don’t want him to end up like me having an anxiety disorder and it affecting his future.
