Coronavirus Disease Outbreak COVID-19 #33

[KateESJ]

teenagers are so stubborn.
At the end of the day we’re supposed to be staying in anyway. As long as he’s eating, drinking and sleeping well then I wouldn’t worry. I bet the majority of teenagers haven’t been taking advantage of the daily exercise. I wouldn’t have done when I was a teenager.

 

[Web30]

We booked haven for 13th of July. We wanted to go cornwall (good 8 hour trip inc stop offs). Weve never been in a caravan before and chose haven for the kids (wouldnt dream of going in one other wise, no offence).
The onsite facilities were great if weather wasnt too good.
So now I've potentially spent £800 to sit in a massive bean tin for a week, cant go anywhere other that a take away and a shop
I wish they would just cancel ours.

Surely they are going to give you some money back if you do go. I priced one up near us and it was £214. Which I wouldn't mind paying.

You should also be allowed to cancel with full refund!

 

[50sGirl]

My older teenager has been exactly the same. He's occasionally pottered in to the garden for an hour but he hasn't wanted to come out for a walk with us at all. I usually have very strict restrictions on screen time / gaming but I have relaxed those as let's face it there's no reason not to , he doesn't have to get up early for school etc. He has done all his online school work with minimal moaning so if that's how he has wanted to spend his time rather than walking with us. I don't have a problem with that. He's safe , he's happy , he's getting excellent feedback from his teachers and pre covid he wouldn't have been seen dead out for a walk with his mum and younger siblings .

Exactly thisit is not a cool thing to be seen with parents .They'd rather be facetiming or chatting online to their friends,if they can't" meet up" with the crowd they don't see a point of going for a walk on their own.

Are you me? Do you know my son? No. He’s been in the back garden as I said but he had no desire to go for a walk. Now he has, and I will make sure he keeps doing it. He eats healthily and gets emotional support. I also had and recovered from Corona at the beginning of the lockdown and he wasn’t in a rush to go outside because of seeing that too. I feel this is quite a calm response compared to what you have written.

Welcome to the Piss Poor Parenting Posse!

 

[Detty pig]

I understand that completely but there may be a lot of other reasons that parents need that support. It’s not just the mental health of the children but also of their parents. Take a child with severe extra needs for example, parents rely on schools for that bit of help and respite. I don’t think we can classify all parents who send their children to school in June as selfish when we don’t know the individual situations and reasons for them making that choice.

Fair point.

 

[Belle83]

Thank you for your advice re. Dr. I spoke to him and he’s extended my sick note for 3 weeks and was surprised work (work in a surgery near the one I’m a patient at) are being so unsupportive. If I had a broken leg I’m sure I’d have heard from my boss sympathetically but with mental health they give me the impression I’m a huge inconvenience. Now I’m worried about emailing my boss to say sick note extended.

 

[monga]

Welcome to the Piss Poor Parenting Posse!

#NAGGINGmums

 

[Detty pig]

Question would you rather send your older kids back who can understand about social distance or the younger ones?

I may think about sending my eldest on a minimal schedule just to be able to check with his teachers at secondary but not full time and no way to a full class or no safety measures

 

[Titntat]

Surely they are going to give you some money back if you do go. I priced one up near us and it was £214. Which I wouldn't mind paying.

You should also be allowed to cancel with full refund!

Yes I'll have to see. Haven holidays really arent my thing. I know there is the beaches and walks. But my kids will just have turned 6 & 1. Massive walks really arent an option. And stuck in a bean tin cooking three meals a day is my idea of hell

 

[50sGirl]

#NAGGINGmums

#PPPProck!

Off topic but over the past couple of days I keep getting ads popping up from the left side of my screen which I constantly have to close in order to see who has posted. Is anyone else getting them? I’ve always had the ones in between posts which are fine because they’re not intrusive but these are so irritating.

 

[Web30]

Yes I'll have to see. Haven holidays really arent my thing. I know there is the beaches and walks. But my kids will just have turned 6 & 1. Massive walks really arent an option. And stuck in a bean tin cooking three meals a day is my idea of hell

In that case get your money back!

 

[monga]

#PPPProck!

Off topic but over the past couple of days I keep getting ads popping up from the left side of my screen which I constantly have to close in order to see who has posted. Is anyone else getting them? I’ve always had the ones in between posts which are fine because they’re not intrusive but these are so irritating.

Yes they're so annoying the Ad's that is ,I thought it was just my laptop. They keep popping up every few seconds too..

 

[TwooTwooTwitTwitTwoo]

That shocked me as well. Mine are 9, 10, and 12 and we've been out every day for our hour of fresh air (often more like 2 hrs tbh #rebel) and as their Mum I've made that a non-negotiable.

There is a reason the govenment have consistently encouraged those who aren't shielding to go outside for daily exersize; it's really vital for your mental and physical health.

I don't want to be too judgemental, but there's no sugar-coating it sometimes, and to oversee a teenager not leaving the house for approx 7 weeks (without any particular reason) is piss poor parenting by anyones standards.

I have no doubt that if allowed, my kids would sit on gadgets all bloody day, and always decline fresh air(!), but I'm the adult in the relationship so I make suee they get their fruit and veg, fresh air, academic input, emotional support. I mean duck me I ain't no Mary Poppins but 7 weeks of staying inside

My 19yr old is autistic. He rarely (almost never) leaves the house to socialise under normal circumstancesn, so would only go out to college or to the shop. He suffers from severe anxiety, including social anxiety and is understandably anxious about becoming unwell as well as how the world has changed.

He has an online test to complete in order for him to pass a college course he's spent two years working toward. If I push him, he will meltdown and as well as this being very bad for him mentally, it also means he is unlikely to be in the right frame of mind to complete work. His meltdowns include violence, breaking things and harming himself and cause huge anxiety for the whole house. I'm just trying to keep everything balanced.

My younger ones have been either for a walk or outside every day and I'll be encouraging the older one more once the college situation is over.

This may be an unpopular view but if you send your child back on the 1st Of june knowing teachers are scared and unprotected, that it's not going to be normal and you dont have work it's pretty selfish. The less kids the safer for everyone, so if there is a way around sending them you should take it. It wont be a normal environment that helps their mental health at all.

This is what is forming most of my dilemma. From the teacher friends/acquaintances I've been able to ask, the views are mixed. Some are against it, some are working anyway so don't see an issue with more kids going back, others see a need to begin to get back to normal but are unsure of how it will work. I would have liked to have asked my children's school teachers directly but this week is not phone call week. I also doubt they'd be able to be openly honest anyway.

In terms of work my husband and I are both still working, predominantly at home. It would certainly be easier to juggle this with two less children at home to home school but I'm not sure that's a good enough reason. If my husband is required to go back to the office full time it will incredibly difficult for me to get any work done.
I also wonder if there's any real value in the kids going back so close to the end of the school year, especially given they won't necessarily be following the curriculum.

I want to do the 'right' thing - for everyone. I just don't think it's clear what that is. Especially when we are being told by the government everything should be beginning to get back to normal.

 

[Youtubegossip]

I saw Haven put a Facebook post up earlier. They are allowing people to book caravans for July, nothing on the sites will be open other then a shop and takeaway, it's also pretty cheap.

Not sure how I feel about it.. on one hand if this is still on in August we may book for the week we were meant to be in Spain, on the other what's the point.

There’s not much point of going away when nothing is open to do or see, no evening entertainment etc though.

 

[SarahGard83]

Having a crappy day today. Chemo side effects well and truly kicking in and I can't even be arsed to get dressed today. Days like these where I really need my mum but I'll have to settle with ringing her for a cry. Kids have way too much energy today too and the husband thinks he's Mary Berry today and is currently making a mess of my nice clean kitchen. Today can just do one!

 

[Ding]

My brother whos 21 has come home from uni and is living at home again (I've moved in with my partner for lockdown) has not been out for the whole of lockdown Hes not one for sitting in garden either so he's literally been in the house for 8 weeks!!

Im going to try and persuade him to come for a walk with me next week. We are really close, hes my best friend as well as brother so its been awful not seeing him

 

[mummy2under2]

Had our ELISA COVID Antibody test results back this morning...
We've both tested positive for IgG antibodies to SARS-CoV-2 indicating we both have contracted the virus previously.

I was so sure we had it too and I'm glad we have.
We both had awful flu when we came back from France in Feb and knocked us for six.
The boys picked up coughs although nothing unusual but now I'm wondering whether they also had contracted it.

 

[Greencatfysh]

I’m getting annoyed by all these stories about TfL having to cut concessions and businesses having to make cuts. I don’t think it’s that shocking that as a business, a not for profit, like TfL will have to make cuts in order to keep running. They aren’t magically going to be able to get over a loss like this and bounce back. Similarly taxes are going to have to go up to pay for this all. Why is that a shock?

 

[Platypusfattypus]

Another midwife has died as a result of covid. Every death is shocking but when it's someone who does the same job as you it's pretty scary.

 

[leoladyxo]

Perhaps by staying inside she meant not left their property, rather than not gone in their garden.
Mine haven’t gone outside our gates either and no I am not a “piss poor“ parent thank you very much!

And yes you ARE being extremely judgemental.

This is the same person that said a while back that vulnerable people shouldn’t expect to receive the same type of healthcare assistance for Covid-19 if the system becomes overwhelmed, because it suited them just fine. It shouldn’t be a surprise, but....

 

[Belle83]

Had our ELISA COVID Antibody test results back this morning...
We've both tested positive for IgG antibodies to SARS-CoV-2 indicating we both have contracted the virus previously.

I was so sure we had it too and I'm glad we have.
We both had awful flu when we came back from France in Feb and knocked us for six.
The boys picked up coughs although nothing unusual but now I'm wondering whether they also had contracted it.

How did you get the test? I’m eager to have one as I lost taste and smell end of March. No idea if I had it.