Ah thank you. We've been told that the electric may be on this Friday! A fallen tree has pulled the cables down in the village. It very hard work with my son not being in his own space etc. It's just so hard isn't it? I'm so pleased the school have put measures in place and if it helps your son I hope it continues after Christmas.
What a shame Sendiass couldn't attend. I know they had an emergency but your meeting is just as important. Another representative should have attended instead. I would definitely get them on board with regards to an EHCP because your son would always have the back up he needs. We found without one the school changed their mind on so many different aspects of support aids and there was nothing we could do but with the plan we had the back up.
My son takes medikinet for his ADHD but is unable to swallow any tablets so I open the capsule and sprinkle on yogurt and his nightime melatonin I crush the pill and again sprinkle on yogurt. The medication has been a godsend as I've not had a full night's sleep for 15 years! (Nor has he). I expect you have already tried crushing the pills? I don't give him the medikinet at weekends or on school holidays to give his body a break from it and the difference in him is astonishing. People just don't understand how hard and helpless you feel as a mum.
I'll be honest, it took us 6 years to get an EHCP with primary school support and we took the council to court who faught tooth and nail not to give my son any support. But we won the court case and the council still tried to give him less support hours than he deserved and that was another battle. We had to take that route because the school could only support my son for only a few hours a week and he clearly needed so much more.
Four years ago we left South East London and moved up North. The difference in the services from my experience is vastly different. In London we got absolutely no support at all from CAMHS, I know they are under an extreme amount of pressure due the vast amount of people that live there. I needed emergency support for my son and we wasn't seen for 2 1/2 years!! The service we get now from CAHMS is fantastic and I can get an appointment quickly. I would strongly push for an EHCP as it's opened more support from the school.
So sorry for the waffle, hope it makes sense? I've just stopped and started a few times as my son has just had a huge meltdown (in a hotel room and not his own space it's very difficult for him) and woke my other 2 kids up and trying to calm him down.
Hope your week goes ok for you and your son. Will check in again when we get back into our house. Take care xxx and remember you are doing a fantastic job fighting for your son! Night xxx
You're not waffling! I totally understand and can't thank you enough for taking time during a really stressful period in your life to offer kindness and support to a stranger on the internet!
We have tried two types of medication. Equasym XL which we have tried sprinkling in a variety of things; milkshake, yogurt, squash, chocolate spread etc and recently it was swapped to a liquid form of Strattera. He managed four days before complete refusal and we tried giving it straight with sour sweet chaser, mixing it in milkshake, mango juice and orange juice. He just can't cope. He does manage to take Slenyto occasionally which helps. Like you, we take medication breaks during school holidays. We did with the eldest too. Although at one point, when he would take it, we did get him to have it when we went away on holiday because it made life more bearable for everyone (I hope that doesn't come across as too awful but he has siblings who are really struggling to cope with his behaviour).
Something has changed somewhere and I can only think it's anxiety due to Secondary transition because for the bits of year six that he was at school (Covid not school refusal) he took his medication without issue. The anxiety ramps up his sensory difficulties.
We are going to ask for a referral for CBT from CAHMS which I think could be helpful, especially as he has OCD traits as well (they won't diagnose it as a stand alone condition until he's older).
I'm away for work next week and I've realised that I feel guilty. I started a new career earlier in the year, full time, as oppose to working from home part time like I was previously and I feel like I'm failing him by not being around more like I was for the eldest. I need to work though. Not just financially but for my own well being. I also really love my job. I was unwell for a number of years and waited a long time to be able to be physically well enough to work full time.
Sorry, I'm waffling now! x