maytoseptember
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FWIW your description of her poor social skills, stimming and obsessive daily routine absolutely screams ASD and I can’t believe you’ve been so badly advised by the primary school.Thanks for your reply she has no diagnosis of anything. Academically she is fine and behaviour great as she is practically mute so nobody at school notices her anyway.
Actually I can, because when I spoke to the school about my then year 3 daughter about autism, I think they thought I was making it up. She masks hugely at school. At school she is a model kid. She prefers the company of adults to her peers and comes across as confident and mature.
At home the mask falls off and she talks in baby talk if she talks at all. Sometimes she communicates in squeaks and miaows (she’s 10 now and still does it!).
I went ahead and pursued a diagnosis without any input from the school. I was lucky because my son is also autistic so I was able to contact the team who diagnosed him who spoke to me at length before agreeing to refer to the paediatrician.
Secondary school is often the time when the wheels fall off for autistic kids. They move from a smaller, more nurturing primary school environment to a huge, not nurturing at all secondary school environment, and they can’t cope.
Hopefully the secondary might be more supportive in getting your daughter assessed. I really suggest you do it.
People might try to convince you that a diagnosis will be a hindrance in her life, but I promise you it won’t make her any less autistic. I’m convinced I’m also autistic and I’ve spent my entire life hating and blaming myself and feeling like a failed adult. It’s a really heavy burden to carry.