Cheating

[HelloStereo]

I am doing a lot better now thanks. I’m realising he had narcissistic traits and some emotional and mental abuse going on . I’m totally better off out of it all and although I have major trust issues at the moment to allow me to entertain the idea of another relationship right now in time I may change my mind and I’m happy being single and being me for a while

I'm pleased to hear you are doing better. You deserve so much better in the end but it's good to know you're taking care of yourself first

 

[Gossipingginger]

Same-but don’t give up
i went a bit mental and to get over him I went on loads of dates
i was talking to one bloke and we arranged to meet up
i said to my daughter ‘I’m done,this is the last one-I’m happy single (I was) and I can’t do it anymore-I’m having a break,I’ll dip my toe into online dating next year or so’
an hour later,I met him
weve been together (just over) 5 years now and so glad I didn’t cancel him like I was going to

dont give up-but don’t devalue your worth-you’ll meet the right one for you
just enjoy being single
good luck xxx

Ive been slowing dipping my toe back in the dating world. With lockdown though dating has been hard. Then again i have felt like I needed this time to heal.

Awww best thing you did then not cancelling on him.

Yes I think not knowing my worth was 100% the problem with my ex. Now my motto is we do not settle. Just wish I'd exercised that thought years ago haha Xx

 

[Mulholland Drive]

Even in lesbian relationships cheating goes on a great deal, as I found out on 2 or 3 occasions in the past.

But when I eventually found out the guilty parties always fell back to the usual well-worn tropes "I was bored", "It was a one off", "We'd been drinking at a party" and "Don't worry, lets' move on"

And then when challenged further they would be a little more contrite by saying "Listen, you and I, we're not married, we're not engaged. There's no contract binding us together...." blah blah blah. In other words they were trying to justify an open relationship between us, even though nothing of the sort was ever mentioned up until the point they got found out.

It's a trust issue most definitely. But trust comes in different forms to different people, believing that trust can take a day off while they screw around for some fun.

Just like New Year's resolution - yeah, I'll try giving trust a go, but there will be a lot of caveats along the way, until finally there's no trust at all.

 

[Mulholland Drive]

Today I said goodbye to my g/f for what could be another 4 or 5 months as I will hopefully be flying out to Johannesburg tomorrow. And even though we love each other very much I am already thinking negative thoughts and that at some point during those intervening months she might get itchy feet and start looking elsewhere while still committing herself to me.

It's only because I've been cheated on before that I think like this, which is probably unfair on her, but that's the way my mind works sometimes.

We shall see what happens I guess